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From engagement and bach parties to rehearsal dinners, find answers to all the questions you have before the big day.

You’re __[recently engaged](https://zola.app.link/OiNeuzyN71)__—congratulations! As you ride on cloud nine of excitement, you might feel ready to dive right into planning the wedding ASAP … or maybe not. For some, wedding planning comes naturally and immediately. For others, it’s something they’d prefer to put off just a little bit longer. Fortunately, there are some things you can post-pone as you bask in post-engagement bliss.

Although you know the end result is you and your new spouse [joyously exiting](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-talk-about-marriage-when-dating) your wedding reception, there is much to do between getting engaged and the big day. And knowing exactly where to start when planning your dream wedding can feel overwhelming. How do you properly share the happy news with loved ones? Do you start by filling up Pinterest boards with wedding inspiration or start working through a wedding planning checklist?

If your head is spinning, don’t worry! You’re not alone, and that is where Zola is here to help you plan the best wedding ever. Here are wedding planning details that you can put on hold for at least a month or two after your engagement and things you need to [do right away](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/to-dos-after-you-get-engaged). 

## 10 Things to Do After Getting Engaged

### 1. Cherish the moment.
While the tendency may be to rush to wedding venues and hire a wedding photographer — both of which are extremely important — don’t forget to just enjoy this season. You’re only engaged for a short time, so be sure to take time to sit back and reflect. Plan a date night to reconnect and look back on the proposal. 

### 2. Talk with your fiancé.
The best way to forgo problems is to talk about your expectations upfront. How will you share the news about your engagement? When will you post it on social media? Chat with your partner about any plans leading up to the wedding and who will handle what aspects. It’s also important to plan a time to talk about things other than the wedding, too.

### 3. Call your family members and closest friends to break the happy news.
Some of your friends and family may already be clued in on the fact that you’re getting engaged, but [give them a call](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/introduce-families-after-engagement) anyway. Also, think about your close friends and who you should let know personally before you post on Instagram about your engagement. Some folks, like your pending bridesmaids and groomsmen, may be a little hurt if they don’t hear it directly from you. 

### 4. Get a manicure.
You’ll be showing off your engagement ring a lot to your bridal party and others, so keep your nails in tip-top shape. Don’t feel as though you have to do anything fancy — in fact, simple is good. Let your ring shine and go for a classic mani so that the focus is on your new bling. 

### 5. Post a ring selfie.
Even if you’re planning to have an engagement session, take and post a selfie of the two of you with the ring. Some newly engaged couples post a shot of a hand with the ring on it to share the news. The type of photo you take is up to you, and use this as a time to showcase your personality. Feel free to tag your jeweler in the photo. They’ll definitely appreciate it!

### 6. Get engagement ring insurance.
Although you won’t want to take your ring off, it’s still important to insure expensive jewelry. Your ring could eventually get lost, or a prong could come loose and release the diamond. Although these instances are rare, it’s still smart to be prepared.

### 7. Plan an engagement party. 
Having an engagement party gives friends and family the opportunity to [come and celebrate](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101) together. Either host one yourself or enlist a bridesmaid or relative to plan one for you. Depending on the time of year, you can host a casual barbecue outdoors, or you could do something fancy indoors.

### 8. Plan an engagement session photo shoot.
Getting engaged is the perfect time to plan photos of just the two of you. Doing so is also a great time to give your wedding photographer a test run and get to know your personalities before the wedding day. Some couples make an album from their engagement photos to use as guest books. Another option is to display a few of the images at your wedding. 

### 9. Create a wedding budget.
Perhaps one of the most important steps in the wedding planning process is to make a budget. Other decisions, such as your wedding size and type of floral arrangements, hinge on how much you’re willing to spend on your wedding. Talk with your partner and anyone who is helping pay for the big day about your overall allotment. Then break the total down into what you can spend on each aspect of your special day.

### 10. Set a wedding date.
Whether you’re planning an elopement or a destination wedding, you need to find a date. This may depend on the season you want to get married in, or your date may be determined by the venue’s availability. Feel free to send save the dates once you’ve settled on when you’ll be celebrating your wedding day. 

## 8 Things You Can Wait To Do Post-Engagement

## 1. Find the perfect wedding dress or suit.
As soon as you tell your family and best friends that you’re engaged, they’ll probably be eager to know when you’ll choose your dress or other attire (and are they __[invited to help hunt](https://zola.app.link/fmutqJyN71)__?). As excited as everyone is, though, you certainly have time in this regard. If you have a year or more, you can start looking for upcoming trunk shows or bridal sample sales happening near you. You may want to book appointments at any salons that you hope to visit in the future if they tend to book up quickly. Otherwise, though, you shouldn’t feel rushed.

The same goes for the right suit for a groom. Wait until you pick an overall wedding color scheme or figure out how formal you want to go before you choose anything.

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*Photo Credit* // Levi Stolove Photography

## 2. Choose your wedding party.
If you accidentally already blurted out that you want certain friends to be in your wedding party, that’s OK. Rounding out the fully party, though, may take some time—and that’s also OK. Don’t feel pressured to choose your __[full wedding party](https://zola.app.link/upEA9jyN71)__ right away. You may also need time to decide if you even want a wedding party and other variables. Your wedding party, particularly your maid of honor and best man, plays a big role in your wedding planning so you want to make sure you find people who are not only your closest family and friends but who also fit the role. So, feel free to sit on this for a bit.

## 3. Work out the guest list.
Creating a wedding guest list isn’t exactly easy—there are a lot of factors that go into deciding who to invite and __[who to skip](https://zola.app.link/fdPFiDyN71)__. Before you finalize a guest list, you should finalize your wedding budget. Your budget will determine how much you can spend on a venue and catering, both of which impact guest count. It’s not worth it to debate about distant cousins or old college friends before you figure out a general guest count range. If you want some extra padding, ask that your parents don’t announce your engagement to people outside the family, such as coworkers or the rest of their extended network yet.

Thinking about who to invite and not to invite can make your head spin. It’s totally OK to wait to finalize the guest list until after you work out your budget. Plus, until you know exactly how many guests the venue can hold, you might want to hold off on deciding which of your far-distant cousins makes the cut. If this is sure to cause conflicts, it’s fine to tell your parents to maybe wait to mention the engagement and upcoming wedding to all of their co-workers and extended network.

## 4. Plan the seating chart.
This probably goes without saying, but your __[seating chart](https://zola.app.link/pPbnvzyN71)__ isn’t one of the first things you need to worry about post-engagement. After all, you don’t even have a guest list yet. You probably will think about obvious table pairings (or people you want to keep away from one another) before you actually start the chart. Instead of trying to map it out too early, just keep notes of couplings that you think of throughout your planning process. Then, review and apply your notes when you finally do make a seating chart in the months before your wedding. 

## 5. Hire wedding vendors.
OK, this one is a bit more involved. While you really don’t need to hire vendors in the first month after you get engaged, there is an exception. If you have your eye on a certain popular florist, baker, caterer, venue, etc., you may have to move quickly. Demand will make a difference if you’re hoping to get married in a year or less.

If you aren’t concerned with a specific timeline and really don’t have any specific vendors in mind, though, you can relax. Most vendors can be booked further down the line (not too much, though). It’s possible that one vendor may lead to another, especially in the case of venues and caterers. If you hire a wedding planner, he or she may also have recommendations for you. Let a few other details fall together before you panic about vendors.

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*Photo Credit* // Unsplash

## 6. Figure out legal stuff.
Nothing kills the romance of an engagement period like thinking about the tax implications of your marriage. If both partners are from the same country, typically, the only legal matter you’ll be dealing with while wedding planning is applying for your marriage license. And that’s usually done right ahead of the ceremony.

It’s possible that your specific case may require other legal work ahead of the marriage, but you’ll likely be aware of these and may have even discussed ahead of the engagement.

## 7. Build your wedding website.
You may want to post your #ringselfie and engagement highlights on social media right away. Writing a __[wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website)__, though, can wait. Your wedding website will serve as a hub for all of your wedding day or weekend information. So, ideally, you’ll wait for a few key components before sharing your URL. Your venue, for example, should be locked down. This is because your website should include all of the location, transportation, and accommodation details for your guests. And those things are typically influenced by your venue location.

Many couples also choose to include their engagement photos on their wedding websites so you’ll want to get those back first, too. Plus, you need time to build your wedding registry so you can link out to that, as well. Your wedding website should be ready to go by the time you send out save the dates or invitations. Then, you can include a URL to your site for your guests to access.

### 8. Finalize your wedding style.
Your wedding style can be a vague notion that sort of guides your wedding planning or your wedding style can be a strict set of guidelines that inform your entire wedding strategy. Whichever it will be, though, the month after you get engaged is not the time to finalize it with your partner.

Give it time to develop between you two. Spend time perusing Pinterest and coming up with your ideal color scheme, figuring out your favorite wedding florals, and establishing a preferred vibe. Your other decisions will follow suit.

There are a lot of to-dos on your wedding planning list, we know. Fortunately, not all of them have to happen the month after you get engaged. Bask in the glow of your new relationship status and feel confident putting a few things to the wayside for a little while longer. One of the est planning tips is to invest in each other as you look forward to spending a lifetime together. 

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Pre-Wedding Activities

If you and your soon-to-be spouse are a happy couple that loves to buck tradition, you might embrace the idea of a couple’s shower—otherwise known as a coed [wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-bridal-shower-and-what-is-its-purpose) or a "Jack and Jill party". A coed shower is a contemporary take on the [traditional bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers) that involves both sides of the couple in the gifts, games, and everything else. (Keep in mind, a coed shower is different from a coed bridal shower—which is still focused solely on the bride, but allows for a coed guest list.) 

Coed wedding showers are generally more laid-back, relaxed, and casual than traditional bridal showers and can be a great way to celebrate your upcoming wedding day with both you and your partner's close friends, family members, and loved ones—regardless of whether they identify as female, male, or non-binary.

Of course, the couple’s shower isn’t for everyone. Here’s a look at the benefits, potential drawbacks, who to invite, and more.

## Pros Of A Coed Wedding Shower
### Both partners are invited.
Traditional bridal showers exclude a very important person—your soon-to-be spouse. With a couple’s shower, you and your partner get to celebrate and be celebrated. At the event, your closest family and friends will surround you for some pre-wedding fun. And if you don’t like being the center of attention, your partner will be next to you for those (occasionally awkward) shower games.

You’ll both also share the gifts (and thank you note responsibilities!) Plus, you’ll both get to know more of the extended family and friends if you haven’t met them already.

### It can be more casual than the traditional bridal shower.
While coed showers may have longer guest lists (which can also be a drawback—see below) they tend to feel more relaxed. Instead of a sit-down brunch, why not throw an afternoon BBQ in one of your family member’s backyards, complete with brats and brews? Or, if that isn’t your style, look for a restaurant or other space that can hold your nearest and dearest for the event.

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*Photo Credit* // Levi Stolove Photography

## Cons Of A Coed Wedding Shower
### They can be more expensive.
One challenge to a coed shower is that, because you're inviting both you and your partner's nearest and dearest, the guest list is going to be longer. More guests, of course, means additional costs for food, drinks, potentially a larger venue, etc. If the host(s) are on a tight budget, and you have your heart set on an elaborate shower, the couple’s route may not be for you—or, if you do want to go the couple's shower route, you may need to adjust your expectations (for example, by hosting the event in your backyard instead of renting a venue).

### You may not have time to open all the gifts.
With an extended guest list, you’ll likely receive more gifts at a coed shower. You may not have time to open each gift one by one. 

That being said, you don't have to open all your gifts at your shower. Instead, you might consider putting up a sign on the gift table letting guests know how much you appreciate the gifts and that you’re so excited to open them—later, at home.

## Who do we invite?
Another major question is [who to invite to your wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invite-to-wedding-shower). This can be a challenge for traditional showers—but the [guest list](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invite-to-wedding-shower) for a [couple’s shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/invite-to-wedding-shower) can be extra tricky. It can get out of control quickly if you let it. Don’t feel like you have to invite your entire wedding guest list, though.

When it comes to who to invite to your You can limit it to include your best friends and closest relatives—plus, of course, both sides of the wedding party. Alternatively, if you’re up for a bigger shower, you can include the usual bridal shower list and give everyone a plus-one—or open up the event to more of your wedding guests. For the most casual of backyard showers where guests can drop by as they please, you can also include kids (even if you're not planning to have children at your wedding ceremony or wedding reception). 

## What should we do differently?
### Choose a venue that represents both of you.
Once you’ve decided to have a couple’s shower, it’s time to choose the venue. The options are limitless—but try to keep both of you in mind when you decide on the locale. (For the nature-loving couple, for example, grandmother’s tearoom may be out, but the park with the picnic tables may be in.) Some potential venues include the host’s backyard, a poolside party, a local restaurant the couple loves, a bar with a private party room, or a country club. You may want to look into community centers or local parks, too, if you’re on a budget.

### Serve food/drinks everyone will enjoy.
Bridal showers have been traditionally associated with dainty fare like tea sandwiches—we’re talking super traditional showers. With a coed shower, anything goes, though. Depending on the time of the day, you may want to have a brunch buffet with eggs, bacon, and mimosas, a more casual backyard "I do BBQ" with burgers, or an all-you-can-eat taco bar (complete with plenty of margaritas!). Or, if you wanted to do something more elegant, you could even have an evening cocktail party or intimate dinner party.

### Make the favors gender-neutral.
You’ll need to make the party favors universally appealing as well. Some ideas for a coed wedding shower include a sweet treat from the couple’s favorite bakery, a local delicacy that represents the couple’s hometown, personalized bottle openers, or monogrammed glasses/cups with a fun anecdote.

In the same spirit, you'll also want to let your guests know that, if they're bringing shower gifts, those gifts should be appropriate for a co-ed wedding shower. (For example, while you might love your bridesmaids to gift you lingerie for your bridal shower or bachelorette party, opening those kinds of gifts at a co-ed couples wedding shower could feel pretty uncomfortable—both for you and your guests.)

### Choose the right games for your co-ed wedding shower. 
 The right bridal shower games won't necessarily work for a co-ed wedding shower; if you want your wedding shower games to be a hit, you need to pick party games that are going to work for all the co-ed in attendance. 

Not to worry! There are plenty of game-centric couples shower ideas that will please the whole crowd, including:

- __Outdoor games.__ Easy outdoor games like corn hole, bocce, or badminton are a perfect way to insert some coed-friendly fun into your couples shower—so, weather permitting, set up a few games outside that guests can play at their leisure.
- __Who knows the couple best?__ Another fun game to play at a coed wedding shower is "Who knows the couple best?" Put together a series of questions about you and your partner—like how you met, the details of your first date, and the story of your proposal. Whoever answers the most questions right knows the couple best—and wins the game!
- __Karaoke.__ If you want to infuse some fun into your coed wedding shower, why not have a good, old-fashioned sing along? Karaoke is a great way to let loose with your shower guests—and you can turn it into a game by challenging guests to choose and sing a song they feel best captures the spirit of you, your partner, and your upcoming nuptials. Then, at the end of the sing along, you can choose the song you felt was the best fit—and whoever sang that song is the winner!

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*Photo Credit* // Gabby Chapin Photography

## Theme it.

A coed wedding shower is a great opportunity to introduce a [fun theme for the event](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/free-bridal-shower-printables) and/or for the gifts guests will bring. Here are some ideas for shower themes:

- __Stock The Bar:__ Guests bring a bottle of wine, alcohol, or another bar cart accessory so the couple will be stocked up for the future.
- __Round The Clock:__ Guests are assigned a time of day to theme their gift around. Some may get the morning hours and bring a breakfast theme gift like a waffle iron. Others may get evening and gift a meal kit delivery service gift card or new bedding accessories.
- __Round The Year:__ A variation on the Round The Clock theme. This time, guests get assigned a season or month and must gift accordingly.

(Whatever theme you choose, make sure to tie that theme into all the details of your Jack and Jill party—like themed couples shower invitations and shower decorations!)

### FAQs about co-ed wedding showers
#### Who throws a coed wedding shower?
Just like a bridal shower is thrown by one of the bride's close friends, family members, or bridesmaids, a coed wedding shower is hosted by someone (or multiple people) close to the couple—for example, the maid of honor and best man or the siblings of the soon-to-be-married couple might be in charge of [planning a wedding shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/pre-wedding-activities/showers).

#### When should you host your Jack and Jill party?
Wedding showers—including coed showers—generally take place one to three months before the wedding day (although if a good portion of guests will need to travel to attend, you may want to have it earlier to avoid back-to-back travel for the shower and wedding).

#### How long do coed wedding showers last?
Coed wedding showers typically last between two to four hours—although, if you're doing a more casual event (like a backyard BBQ), you can extend those hours to have more time to enjoy with your friends and family.

#### Do you send thank-you notes after a co-ed wedding shower?
Yes! You should send a thank-you card to everyone who attends your coed wedding shower, thanking them for coming and, if applicable, for their gift—and sign the note from you and your partner.

Bottom line? A coed wedding shower is a fun way to get excited about your wedding together. Plus, it serves as an opportunity to bring your friends and family together before the wedding.

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Here’s the thing about [engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos): We really love them. In fact, we encourage them. (For one, they’re a great way for couples to get comfortable with their wedding photographers and [wedding photography](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/first-look-wedding-photo-ideas).) Here’s the other thing about engagement photos: A lot of them look, well, the same. 

There are probably a few reasons for this:
- Couples are pulling from the same sources of inspiration: social media, friends and family, etc.
- Couples aren’t used to being photographed, so they default to staged poses that they’ve seen others do before.
- Everyone’s always wearing plaid. Just kidding—kind of. More on this later…

On the reverse of this trend, we also see couples who attempt to set themselves apart. They see their engagement photos as their chance to stand out, have fun, and maybe garner some social media attention. Totally fair. However, sometimes, in an attempt to stand out, couples actually fall back into the same somewhat cliche engagement photo patterns we see time and time again.

OK, so why does this matter? Between your [paper suite](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-party-invite-ideas), your wedding website, and, yes, your social media posts, your engagement photos play a large part in any visual elements leading up to your wedding. So, you want to come out of the [engagement photo shoot](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) with photos that feel like you, not every other couple. The staged look may be fine for some, but not for you. 

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*Photo Credit* // Unsplash

## Unique Engagement Photo Tips
Don’t risk getting photos back that feel bland and uniform. Here’s how to take [unique engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-get-most-out-of-your-engagement-photos) that feel authentic and not overdone.

### 1. Meet with your photographer beforehand.
The first step to having photos that don’t look staged (or like copy-pastes of another session) happens long before you step in front of the camera. Initially, you want to [find a photographer](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/questions-to-ask-wedding-photographer) who you’re comfortable around and whose work you really like. Whether you're looking for [wedding photographers from Houston](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/houston-tx--wedding-photographers) or New York, do some research to find a professional that fits your budget and style. When you’re on the hunt for a wedding photographer, look for couples that look relaxed and real in their portfolios. 

Once you decide on a photographer, reach out and ask to meet with them in person. You want to do this before the shoot for several reasons. For you, meeting up is an opportunity to run your ideas and preferences by them, as well as ask questions. Be open about your desired look and, if you’d like, bring example photos (just not from other engagement shoots). You may, however, bring examples of poses and photos you don’t want. Sometimes saying no to certain aesthetics is actually a more effective way to get the look you want.

Meeting in person also gives your photographer the chance to get to know you as a couple. Witnessing your personalities and the way you interact makes capturing that energy easier. A professional photographer will work hard to mesh their style with your desired vibe.

### 2. Use a location that really represents both of you.
Skylines, beaches, woody areas, large open fields of tall grass. What do all of these locations have in common? They're regularly the backdrop for engagement sessions. Disclaimer: That’s totally fine if any of these areas are significant to you as a couple. Met in NYC on a whim? Take your photos in front of the city. Spend fall days together walking through a certain set of woods? Immortalize the area with your  [fall engagement photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/fall-engagement-photo-shoot-ideas).

However, for most other cases, we really recommend trying a more unique location—and one that really represents both of you. This could be the bar or restaurant where you first met, your favorite date spot, where you do a shared hobby, or in your home if you live together. If you’re really attached to the in the field idea, maybe head to your college’s football field (if you went to the same school) instead of opting for a random patch of land. 

It doesn’t have to be a place of paramount importance—just somewhere that really speaks to the two of you and your relationship. Having a meaningful setting makes it easier to act natural, making for truly candid and organic shots. 

### 3. Avoid matching outfits.
Listen, we tread lightly but also firmly here: Exact matching outfits for your engagement photos is a cute idea. However, if you want photos that don’t look like everyone else’s, skip the coordinated plaid ensembles.

Instead, consider your location and the tone of your shoot when you choose outfits. Stick to a [cohesive color idea](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-wear-for-your-engagement-photos) (neutrals, muted colors, etc.) and you’ll look like more like a couple and less like a set of adult twins.

In the same vein, don’t wear something you wouldn’t normally wear or that’s out of place in your setting. For example, don’t wear a bohemian dress and wade into the ocean just for aesthetic’s sake. You’ll confuse your family and friends. 

Opt for an outfit that’s comfortable and makes you feel confident. We’re not saying you can’t wear a flashy dress or suit—just make sure you’re wearing it because you want to and it feels like you. 

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*Photo Credit* // Unsplash

### 4. Branch out with poses.
For many couples, their engagement shoot is the first time they’re ever having professional photos taken. In that case, it’s easy to default poses you’ve seen done before. Don’t do that.

The best engagement photos are those that feel genuine and candid. Read: Avoid the prom pose, silly perspective tricks, and anything that feels cheesy or unnatural. In fact, it’ll probably look best if you don’t pose at all. Trust us.

Most people aren’t used to being followed around by a camera—we get it. Try, however, to forget that your photographer is there. Interact with your partner how you normally would—walking hand-in-hand, leaning into one another, playing around, etc. Look at each other and be in the moment. These more often than not make for the best engagement photo poses. If your photographer wants you to look at the camera, make a minor adjustment, or try something out, they’ll let you know. Otherwise, be yourselves.

### 5. Focus less on the ring.
We know you adore your [new engagement ring](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/where-you-can-and-cant-wear-your-engagement-ring), but it shouldn’t be the sole subject of your engagement pictures. More often than not, shots that have the ring hand displayed appear stiff. That’s not to say you should avoid them at all costs.

If you rest your hand on your partner's shoulder or cheek and the ring just so happens to make an appearance, run with it. Otherwise, skip the awkward behind-the-back hug, flat-hand-on-your-partner’s-chest pose, and arms-around-an-inanimate-object photos.

## 15 Engagement Photo Ideas to Inspire You
Now that we‘ve covered how to capture your authentic love, let‘s talk engagement photo ideas. Whether they‘re going into a [wedding album](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-many-photos-should-be-in-a-wedding-album), invitation suite, save the date, or social media post, these themes and poses are sure to draw the eyes of your loved ones.

### 1. First Date Spot
Be it an ice cream spot, coffee shop, movie theater, or something entirely, recreating your first date is about as unique and authentic as you can get. Not only is this a fun piece of relationship trivia, but likely a spot you’re both already comfortable in.

### 2. Hometown Stroll
Likewise, an equally unique and comforting setting is your hometown (or the city you currently live in together). Walk hand-in-hand around your favorite area, strolling along the streets, into shops, and throughout your neighborhood as your photographer snaps away.

### 3. University Pride
Did you and your partner meet while in college or university? If so, showcase your school pride my donning your college gear and taking engagement photos on campus. Lounge in the grass, sit in the bleachers, walk through the quad—there are plenty of possibilities.

### 4. Play in the Waves
We know, beach engagement photos can be a bit played out. That said, we think there are plenty of ways you can make these authentic and your own. For one, if you and your partner desire playful (or steamy) shots, try playing around in the shallow water. Run along the sand, kick up water, roll around, and go for a swim. If one of both of you surfs, consider bringing your board.

### 5. Boat Ride
Speaking of the ocean, nothing’s quite classy in the way that a romantic boatride is. If you live by the water, considering rent a boat (or taking out your own, if you have one) for some truly stunning sunset photos. Sit along the deck, pop some champagne (or Martinelli’s), and go for a swim.

### 6. Sports Game
If you and your fiance(e) are known to be sports fans, consider having your photos taken at a local game. Don a jersey, sit in the stands, and capture your shared interests to display to family and friends.

### 7. Unique Nature
Don’t get us wrong, we love a beautiful photo in the mountains, in a field, or on the beach. That said, if you have other, more unique nature sites near you, we highly suggest you take advantage (while being respectful of the area, of course). Canyons, waterfalls, and the like can create a stunning backdrop for engagement shots.

### 8. Champagne Pop
Nothing helps people to pose like props. Consider bringing a bottle or two of bubbly to your shoot and using it as a celebratory prop piece, popping, spraying, clinking, and sipping.

### 9. Museum Trip
With gorgeous architecture and even more beautiful art, museums are a stunning engagement session location. Walk, holding hands, along rooms and rooms of paintings and/or sculptures, bringing culture, color, and depth into your shots.

### 10. Hobby Photo Shoot
Do you and your partner share a hobby? Be it painting, cooking, or camping, use it as a theme during your engagement session. Simply go about your hobby—with some posing tips and adjustments from your photographer, of course—and capture a relaxed, fun aspect of your relationship.

### 11. Road Trip
If your engagement photographer is up for it, pack your bags, grab your dog, and go on a small road trip. The great thing about this style of photoshoot (outside of the gorgeous scenery) is the ability to make the photos look like they’re documenting your trip, rather than you both being posed.

### 12. Local Bar
Do the two of you frequest a local craft cocktail bar, pub, or brewery? Reach out to them and see if you can do your shoot there. Most of these types of flaces have interesting decor, which can make for interesting engagement photography. Don’t forget to take advantage of lots of fun couple poses, like a celebratory cheers.

### 13. At Home
More and more modern couples are opting to have their engagement sessions at home. This setting is beautifully intimate and can really allow a photographer to capture your love at its most natural. Plus, depending on the time of day, your photographer can play with some really nice natural lighting. Have a pillow fight, take a bubble bath, lounge around—whatever’s a good time for you both.

### 14. Library or Book Store
Offer a glimpse into your own love story—sorry, we couldn’t resist—by having your engagement photo shoot in a library or book store. The great number of books offer a lot of wonderful props and opportunities for creative posing.

### 15. Cinematic Shots
Go glam by completely stylizing your engagement photo session. Whether you’re both a fan of period pieces like *The Great Gatsby and Titanic*, highly curated films like *Marie Antoinette* and *The Grand Budapest Hotel*, or romances such as *Atonement* and *The Notebook*, you can go all-out. Think costumes, creative backdrops, and cinematic framing.

Your engagement photos are meant to celebrate your relationship—in all its uniqueness. Capturing that might sound difficult, but it all comes down to acting natural. Choose locations, outfits, and poses that feel like you. Don’t copy a series of shoots you found on Pinterest. Stray from the norm (and overdone) by being true to who you are as a couple. And remember to keep these tips in mind when it comes to your [wedding photos](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-photo-list), too.

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## What is a Bachelorette Party?
A bachelorette party is a contemporary rite of passage for a bride before her wedding day that celebrates her final night(s) out on the town as a single woman.Traditionally a group of close female friends plan and attend the bachelorette party in the bride’s honor. While the bride is away for her weekend getaway, the groom would celebrate his bachelor party with a separate party of close friends.

Bachelorette parties may last for just a single day or evening, or it might involve an entire weekend of activities either near the bride’s home or at a travel destination. Typical bachelorette party activities often involve meals at nice restaurants, pampering trips to day spas, relaxation in the form of beaches, pools, or easy hiking, and/or bar hopping and dancing. 

## Who Throws The Bachelorette Party?
Traditionally the [bridal party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-is-a-wedding-party-and-do-you-need-one)—the bridesmaids and maid/matron of honor—throw the bachelorette party for the bride. If the bride has chosen to not have a bridal party, or if it’s not ideal or possible for the bridal party to handle this task, anyone else who is close to the bride can plan the bachelorette party, such as: 
- a sibling
- a close cousin
- a group of tight-knit coworkers
- a childhood best friend of the bride

Really, anyone can throw the bachelorette party if she or they meet the following criteria: 
1. Is close enough to the bride to know what she will want from her bachelorette experience.
2. Is good at handling logistics, making reservations, and organizing groups of people. 
3. Has good communication skills—planning a group event of this nature can involve a lot of emailing and texting! 
4. Can keep track of costs and receipts (for the bachelorette party supplies, decorations, food, or entertainment) to make sure expenses are appropriately settled up after the party is over. 

The only person or group of people who should __NOT__ throw the bachelorette party are the bride’s parents or senior family members. A bachelorette party is typically an event that’s reserved for friends and family of the bride who are close to her in age, and thus interested in the same kinds of “last fling” activities. 

## Who Should You Invite to a Bachelorette Party?
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The bride should make a list of people she’d like to invite to her special day or weekend. While traditionally this list would have been all women, modern brides with coed or non-traditional wedding parties might want to have their close male friends or siblings also attend. Go with whatever the bride wants here: this is her celebration before the big day! If you’re looking for ideas, these folks will typically make it onto the bachelorette party invite list: 
- The bridal party
- Close friends of the bride
- Siblings, soon-to-be-siblings, or same-age relatives of the bride
- Co-workers of the bride who will also be invited to the wedding

The party planner(s) should send out [bachelorette party invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-nail-down-bachelorette-party-invite-wording) to the bride’s list, collect RSVPs, and begin planning according to the total number of attendees. Invitations to a bachelorette party can be more casual than for a bridal shower or rehearsal dinner, but there are few options when it comes to formal bachelorette party etiquette: 
- __Most Formal:__ If you have the time and prefer formality, print paper invitations and send them through the post. 
- __Mid-Level Formal:__ Use an online invitation company to send beautifully designed, customized digital invites through email. This option can make gathering RSVPs much easier, not to mention it’s less expensive than paper. 
- __Least Formal:__ Send a group email to the list announcing plans for the bachelorette party. This can be a quick way to get the word out, see who can make it, and begin a dialogue for planning the festivities. 

## Who Should You NOT Invite to a Bachelorette Party?
While the philosophy of “the more, the merrier” is lovely in theory, there is a limit to whom you should invite to a bachelorette party. This limit has to do with the bride’s feelings, and with making sure that *she* has the best possible experience relaxing, exploring, and generally living it up with her closest crew. With that in mind, here are some folks whom you might want to keep off the invitation list: 
- __The bride’s mother, stepmother, or senior relatives:__ Having an older generation of relatives around might force the bride to celebrate in a different way than she’d prefer to if there were just her age-peers present. It’s the bride’s special day, so make sure she’s comfortable around the people she’s celebrating with.
- __Anyone who’s not invited to the wedding:__ Avoid an awkward situation here by only inviting people who will also be invited to the main event. 
- __Anyone who struggles with group dynamics:__ This can be tricky to navigate, but we all know or have those friends who are great one-on-one but lack the social skills for group settings. Whether it’s attention-seeking behavior, poor decision making, or making others feel uncomfortable, consider the group dynamic when choosing whom to invite.
- __Any (current or former) significant others of the bride’s exes:__ Again, consider the bride’s feelings here. Reminders of her exes are not what she wants or needs on her bachelorette weekend. 

However, be sure to check with the bride before finalizing a guest list. She may want her mom there, for example, depending on the relationship.

## Who Pays for The Bachelorette Party?
The costs for a bachelorette party are typically split up among the attendees, minus the bride. The bride should not be expected to contribute much, if any, throughout the weekend, as it’s a party thrown in her honor. 

However if there’s a group consensus to turn the bachelorette party into an expensive weekend getaway, the bride might want to pay for her own airfare and/or accommodations in order to make costs more even and reasonable for everyone. 

When it comes to dividing up expenses, there are a few methods that work best: 
1. One main organizer covers large group expenses, like an Airbnb rental, tickets for excursions, or bills for meals out. Individuals cover their own smaller expenses. The organizer then tallies up and divides the group costs, letting each attendee know what they owe her (including a percentage to cover the bride).  

2. Major expenses are outlined ahead of time and assigned to different attendees so that the total amount spent by each person is roughly equal. For example, one person can cover an expensive meal at a restaurant, someone else can cover all of the cab fares, while someone else can pay for entrance fees at clubs and venues, etc. 

3. Certain group expenses in which everyone has equal share—such as accommodations, car rentals, costs of excursions—are pooled and split equally, minus the bride. Everything else is covered individually. This option allows those on tighter budgets to modify their spending (such as ordering less expensive items at restaurants or buying less drinks at a bar) while still participating in the main events.  

## Budgeting Tips for Bachelorette Parties
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It can be tough for some people to attend bachelorette parties when they’re on tight budgets, as expenses can add up quickly. Here are some things you can do to make it easier for guests to make the right decision:
- Try to provide a rough estimate for how much each guest will need to budget for the weekend as far in advance as possible. 
- Consider costs when picking the date of the bachelorette party, and look for off-season options. For example, rent a beach house a week or two before or after peak season (Memorial Day through Labor Day).
- Consider costs when choosing the location of your lodging. Investigate whether you can stay at someone’s home to save money, or try to choose accommodations that are within walking distance of your destinations to save money on Ubers.
- Try cooking a meal or two at your group rental, if possible, instead of eating out for every meal. This can also be a great way for the group to bond (especially if a bottle or two of wine is involved).

## What Do You Do at a Bachelorette Party?
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Bachelorette party activities are as varied as brides themselves. From a wild weekend of drinking and dancing, to a zen getaway focused on yoga and wellness, to a nature lover’s itinerary of day hikes and bonfires, there are tons of ways you can plan a bachelorette party that’s fun, unique, and matches the personality and interests of your bride. Check out our sample itinerary and creative ideas below to get your ideas flowing. 

### Sample Bachelorette Party Weekend Itinerary

*Friday:*
As folks arrive, plan to spend a low-key but festive evening exploring your surroundings and getting to know each other. Suggestions include: 
- Take a self-guided neighborhood tour if you’re in a new city, or go for a low-key walk if you’re at the beach or the country. 
- Sit down to a happy hour of cocktails and cheese plates, or drive to a local winery or brewery for pre-dinner tastings.
- Eat out at a casual restaurant, like tapas or gourmet pizza, or cook a group meal at home. 
- Head back to your home base on the early side for pajamas, ice cream, and maybe a rom-com or some girl talk.
- Try to get some sleep to conserve energy for tomorrow! 

*Saturday:*
- Enjoy a leisurely morning in, with coffee and pastries, before motivating for the day. 
- Do a more energetic group activity in the morning, such as a group class, a guided tour, a scavenger hunt, or visiting a local museum or attraction. 
- After lunch, find a more laid-back or relaxing activity, such as relaxing poolside, getting massages or pedicures at a spa, or seeing a movie. 
- Allow time for everyone to power nap, shower or freshen up, and get dressed for your big evening out. 
- Splurge on a fancy dinner out at restaurant, and hit a few bars or dance clubs afterwards. 
- Be sure to follow the mood of the bride, and take the energy up (or down) depending on how she’s feeling. 
- Get home safely! 

*Sunday:*
- Go out for a decadent, mid-morning brunch to offer one last mimosa toast to the bride. 
- Fill in with any other bachelorette party games or activities as needed until everyone makes their departure. 

### Creative Bachelorette Party Ideas
While sitting by a pool or going to a spa are always fantastic options, don’t be afraid to think outside the box when planning a bachelorette party. Group classes can be a great way to freshen up the usual itinerary: take a group cooking class, book a yoga teacher for an afternoon stretch session, or do something active and empowering (or maybe just humorous?) like a burlesque or hip-hop dance class. Here are some other creative bachelorette party ideas:

- Take an outdoorsy bachelorette on a day hike complete with photos (and beers) at the summit.
- Get your sweat on with a full-body workout at a group fitness studio, like a barre or an HIIT class.
- For a yoga sweat instead, gather the girls for a heated vinyasa or Bikram class.
- Cleanse your system by visiting a salt spa, taking turns in a sensory deprivation float tank, or getting detox massages.
- See a music concert, stand-up comedy, or another live performance.
- Sample produce, baked goods, and handicrafts at a local farmer’s market.
- Visit a historical site or museum for a bit of education and culture.  
- Be spectators at a fun, low-key athletic event.
- Go tubing, kayaking, canoeing, or stand-up paddleboarding on a nearby river. 
- Pick apples, peaches, or other fruit at a local orchard.
- For performance art lovers, get tickets to a ballet, a classical concert, or an opera. 
- Book a private class in pole or other exotic, burlesque, or the aerial arts if you’re feeling a little risqué.
- Do a guided, hands-on activity like making pottery or painting a landscape at a wine-and-design craft studio. 
- Hire a professional chef to come to your space and do a hands-on cooking demo (then sample the results). 
- If you’re at a beach location, take a surfing class.
- Rent bikes and see the sights on two wheels. 

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We’ve all likely been witness to it before: As soon as someone gets engaged or begins wedding planning, they’re bombarded with unprompted opinions and wedding advice from loved ones. It seems that with every “Congratulations!” and “Do you have a date?” there’s an “I know the best photographer!” and “Please tell me you’re getting married in a church.”

Though it’s typically harmless, unsolicited wedding advice is an inevitable and, oftentimes, bothersome side-effect of planning your wedding. From subtle suggestions to strong and outright opinions, many people may have something to say—even if you didn’t ask. Understandably, this tends to add an additional layer of stress to wedding planning that’s entirely unnecessary.

For that reason, we’re getting into how to navigate these comments and conversations. To enjoy the process (and maintain your sanity), below are a few expert tips for navigating unsolicited advice.

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## Tips From an Expert
According to Katrina Allen from [Love Blooms Wedding and Event Design](https://www.lovebloomseventdesign.com/), the most common type of unsolicited advice comes from [parents or close relatives](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning) who are imposing their views on the couple, often regarding traditions that the bride and groom may not want to be a part of their big day. “This is your wedding,” Allen says. “When you look back as a couple, you’re going to want to know that you did what you wanted to do.” In that vein, you want to celebrate this milestone in a way that excites [you and your partner](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/moving-in-together-after-marriage), as well as feels true to yourselves.

That said, you’ll want to stand your ground without burning any bridges. Some paramount things to keep in mind include:

## 1. Stay positive and assume the best
It’s always best—for you and your loved ones—to assume that the person offering you unwanted advice has good intentions. Even the occasional relative, [wedding party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/resolve-wedding-party-disagreements) member, or bridesmaid/groomsman who feels the need to get involved or simply thinks their way is the only way. Whether it be their way of sharing in your excitement or an attempt at trying to engage in a conversation, the motives of your close friends and family members usually come from a good place.

“Try to realize why that person may think or feel the way they do and educate them on the reason you’re not going that route,” says Allen. “If you take a deep breath and try to find the reason they’re giving the advice, it’s often easier to accept their opinion.” Unless the individual’s approach is outright negative or hurtful, try to be gracious and give the benefit of the doubt.

## 2. Set clear boundaries
Though a lot of unsolicited advice is fairly painless and easy to brush off, there’s often the occasional pushy parent or friend who thinks they’re always right to swoop in with their strong opinions. Setting boundaries in advance and knowing how you’re going to respond to this type of constant commentary can help [reduce stress](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-handle-overbearing-parents-when-wedding-planning) and make it easier for you to handle at the moment.

“It’s important to hold your ground,” Allen notes. “Giving in to parental expectations or the strong opinions of family and friends can often lead to grudges, she says. The worst-case scenario being, you begrudgingly take their advice and end up regretting it later. While a tough conversation up front can be intimidating, resentment is far worse.

When confronted with more extreme cases or sensitive relationships, Allen suggests removing any financial incentives, such as allowing a parent to pay for your wedding. When money is involved, those paying may feel as though they have a right to decision-making. If you aren’t open to that, thank them for the offer, decline, set a clear boundary, and move on.

Allen also notes that referring to a non-biased, third-party (such as a professional wedding planner) can also help by having them act as a sort of mediator when these conflicts occur. “Not everything has to be a big deal,” she says. A wedding planner can help everyone see things from an experienced standpoint, so that the best decisions are made for your big day.

## 3. Don't let others on social media cloud your judgment
The unsolicited advice you receive as someone planning their wedding is no longer limited to friends and family. With the amount of time we spend in front of our screens and on social media, it’s difficult not to be influenced by what we see and read. Seeing the opinions of others in this seemingly endless way can easily cloud your own judgement.

As with the mixed bags of advice you may receive, it’s important to really think about and prioritize your values—what *you* most want out of your wedding. Allen agrees, telling us, “One of the main things couples do after their wedding is reflect.” Avoid regret by doing your best to focus solely on your wedding wants and needs as a couple. Trends and other peoples’ online opinions will always be shifting. Your taste is what truly counts, here.

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## 4. Let it go
We know, easier said than done. That said, oftentimes everyone needs a reminder to simply let go of the things that don’t matter. Allen agrees with this sentiment, saying, “Despite what many think, sometimes avoidance is the answer.” Particularly, when it comes to the less significant details, like guest books and table decor. If you know your loved ones have the best intentions at heart, simply take their unsolicited advice on the chin and move forward in your own way. Doing so can do wonders at keeping you stress-free, while also preventing someone from getting their feelings hurt.

“No one is going to call you out on your wedding day,” Allen says. “So it’s OK to just let it go or passively let them down.”

## 5. Focus on your relationship
Amidst all of the chaos that is wedding planning and fielding comments, it’s crucial to take time for yourselves to focus on your relationship. Often, the process can be long, the comments from those on your guest list can get tiresome, and it’s easy to become detached. Make sure to remind yourselves of why you’re getting married in the first place. In the end, the ceremony and celebration are meant to celebrate the two of you can no one else.

Pro tip: If you’re feeling overwhelmed with information and others’ opinions, take a step back. If possible, put your wedding planning aside for a day or two. Instead, enjoy a date night or some quality hang-out time together. Then, once you’re feeling refreshed, get back into it.

## 6. Find joy in it
This might seem counterintuitive, if not impossible, but hear us out. Understand that, at its simplest, unsolicited wedding advice is being dealt to you because you’re getting married. While it can be bothersome, what you’re planning and working towards is something to celebrate. Try finding the humor in the absurd suggestions—and the sheer amount of them—that you receive. Unless you’re met with a particularly stubborn individual or rude comments, brush them off with grace and ease.

## How to Respond
All of this is well and good, but you might find yourself in need of a more concrete game plan. Below you’ll find ten ways you can respond to unsolicited wedding advice, depending on the context of the situation and the person giving it.

- __Be non-committal__. This response is ideal for the early stages of wedding planning. Odds are you don’t have many things figured out yet, which means you can respond by saying just that—”We haven’t solidified anything yet.”

- __Keep things vague__. When in doubt, act unsure. One of the easiest way to brush off these conversations is by saying, “We’re not sure about that, yet."”

- __Act as though you’ll consider it__. Sometimes, people just want to be heard. Avoid making them feel pushed aside or upset by responding with something like, “We’ll take a look at that, thank you.”

- __Say it’s a surprise__. You can always go the route of being scarce with information. When someone repeatedly asks questions or gives suggestions, say, “We actually want to keep this a surprise for everyone.”

- __Mention other plans__. If an idea or piece of advice isn’t your thing, simply respond, “Thank you, but have other plans in place.”

- __Be straightforward__. Of course, you can always be honest. When someone offers up something that isn’t your style, tell them that—”That isn’t really what we’re going for” or “Thanks, but that isn’t our style” are inoffensive and to the point.

- __Refer to your vendors__. When in doubt, tell your loved one that you’re sticking with your wedding planner or other vendors’ expertise. “They’re professionals, so we think it’s best to trust their opinions” works well.

- __Change the topic__. Shifting the conversation to something else can effectively stop unsolicited advice. Try a transition like, “Enough wedding talk, I want to hear about how you’re doing.”

- __End the conversation__. There’s no opportunity for arguing, bargaining, or back-and-forths if you shut down the conversation. It doesn’t have to be blunt, either. Just say, “I’m sorry, I should get back to work/task/event/other conversation.”

- __Stand firm in your decisions__. Sometimes, you might need to stand your ground. When someone’s being especially persistent, tell them, “Thank you, I understand what you’re saying, but we’ve already decided and it’s important to us that we do it this way.”

At the end of the day, try to embrace the influx of information as a [part of being engaged](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement) and let it roll off your back. [Lean on each-other](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/moving-in-together-after-marriage) if things get a bit tense and take a step back from wedding planning when needed. Remember—you’re planning your wedding. Meaning, your opinions and decisions are the most important.

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Once the [proposal seals the deal](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement) (... or maybe even beforehand), you and your partner may have wedding hashtags on the brain. Creating a witty or sentimental phrase to label your [wedding journey on social media](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/9-savvy-ways-to-use-social-media-at-your-wedding) is a cute and smart way to capture your wedding planning process—and any parties (like the engagement party, bachelorette party, or bachelor party!) along the way. For some (we’ll call them natural hashtag writers!), coming up with a unique wedding hashtag comes easily. For others, it takes a bit more brainstorming.

Do you fall in the latter category? Not to worry! We’ve created a helpful wedding hashtag guide to help you come up with the perfect wedding hashtag well before your wedding day:

## Use your names.
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Just because your name isn’t an established wedding-related term, it may closely resemble one. Go beyond your standard spelling or the way your name sounds to create something special.

### Sounds Like 
Consider all the words your names sound like. To do this, say your name at a few different speeds (slow and quick). Your name may also simply sound like common wedding terms that you’re not thinking of. Keep a list of wedding-related words close by for reference. Some examples include:
Some examples include:
- __Meng or Mint - Meant__ 
- __Leong - Long__
- __Holten - Hold__
- __Kress - Dress__

### Rhymes With
Think about what words your first and last names rhyme with. Sit with your partner and brainstorm words that rhyme with or sound similar to your names. Remember, slant rhymes count too! Some examples include:
Some examples include:
- __Valess - Confess__
- __Crighton - Enlightened__
- __Davis - Love is__
- __Laughlin - Laughing__ 

### Action Verbs
Many names translate well as action verbs. Take advantage and think of a phrase that uses the associated verb in a cute way. Some examples include:
Some examples include:
- __Chase__
- __Hunt__
- __Ryder__
- __Hope__
- __Art__
- __Bill__
- __Drew__
- __Grant__
- __Rose__
- __Tip__
- __Will__

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## Ask your friends.
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It’s possible that you already have a couple nickname. There’s no shame in utilizing a name previously bestowed upon you in the earlier stages of your relationship. In fact, by deciding to incorporate your nickname into a wedding hashtag, you’re adding an extra touch of personalization to your special day.

## What’s Your Wedding Date?
If you’re thinking of going the more traditional route and using your two names (or future last name), use the __[wedding date](https://zola.app.link/adPFiDyN71)__ to make it personal. Adding in an exact date also helps create a distinction between you and other couple hashtags if you and your partner have common names. Some examples include:
Some examples include: 
- __KnowlesWedding2020__
- __SarahandSteve052020__
- __EricaLovesJoe121422__

## Alliteration Is All You Need
You know it, we know it. Alliteration just works. It’s OK to fall back on words that help convey a message of love, marriage, and a celebration. If you and your partner can’t land on any other words or phrases that really fit, go with alliteration. To help you brainstorm, here’s a list of wedding-related words—one for each letter of the alphabet.

- Adoringly
- Betrothed
- Cherished
- Dancing
- Ecstatic
- Forever
- Gracefully
- Happily
- Ignited
- Joyful
- Kept
- Love
- Marriage
- Never-ending
- Outstanding
- Picturesque
- Quality
- Romance
- Sacred
- Together
- Unify
- Very
- Wonderfully
- Xoxo
- Young
- Zesty

## There’s a Generator for that
If you’re still stuck on finding a hashtag that is fitting for both you and your partner (and your wedding theme!), no worries! Many online free wedding hashtag generators exist to assist you. Most programs will ask for: your first and last name, your partner's first and last name, and wedding date. Before you know it, you have a hashtag.

## Wedding Hashtag Ideas
Need help coming up with your own wedding hashtag? Here are X wedding hashtag examples to get your creative wheels turning:

### Creative wedding hashtags
One of the most unique and creative ways to come up with the best wedding hashtag for your wedding? Find a fun way to incorporate your last name into the hashtag itself. Some examples include:

1. IFoundMrWright
2. WeAreOneInAWilliams
3. TheScottsTieTheKnot
4. LoveScottAHoldOnMe
5. DreamsComeTruman
6. ToHaveAndToHolden
7. SoonToBeStilings
8. DreamsComeSchrute
9. ForeverFurman
10. FinallyFurman
11. I’llStandByHughes
12. SomethingOldSomethingNewman
13. WeValessOurLove
14. AlwaysLaughlin
15. LoveIsDavis

### Cute wedding hashtags
If you can’t find a way to work your last name into the hashtag, not to worry! There are plenty of other cute hashtag options using your first names or initials, like:

16. #RZKindOfLove
17. #ChrisAndBelleKissAndTell
18. #SarahAndMitchGetHitched
19. #CarterAndTrueSayIDo
20. #KressSaysYes

### Simple wedding hashtags
While there are lots of fun ways to personalize your wedding hashtag, there’s also zero wrong with keeping it simple! Some couples prefer more simple and straightforward hashtags, like:

21. #BrownWedding05042023
22. #MadelineAndTylerWedding
23. #KatieAndSamTieTheKnot
24. #CarlyAndChristineWedding
25. #MeetTheMasons
26. #MrAndMrsThomas
27. #MrAndMrAdams
28. #MrsAndMrsScott
29. #TheCartersGetMarried
30. #KennaAndDavidSayIDo

### Funny wedding hashtags
Your wedding hashtag doesn’t have to be all sentimental—this is a great place to showcase some humor, too. Some examples include:

31. __#NothingRhymesWith__: If your last name is long and wonky, state the obvious.
32. __#StuckWith__: Why not state the obvious?
33. __#AtLast:__ For those couples that took the long road to engagement, this adds a touch of funny by addressing the wait.
34. __#AfterLongAdoTheySayIDo:__ Another funny option for couples that took some time to get to the altar.
35. __Embrace The Pun:__ Lean into wordplay (or ask your wittiest friend to help with this)!
36. __Connect With Pop Culture:__ Think of popular movies, TV shows, and characters. Apply as needed. For example: 
37. #KeepingUpWithTheKlaus
38. #EverybodyLovesRedmond
39. #BreakingBen
40. #TheGreatBritishWedding
41. #MetMyJuliet
42. #MetMyRomeo

Photo Credit // Monique Dao Photography

### Alphabetically Creative Wedding Hashtags
Just to make things easy, here’s a list of all the hashtags we covered in alphabetical order:

1. #AfterLongAdoTheySayIDo
2. #AlwaysLaughlin
3. #AtLast__
4. #BreakingBen
5. #BrownWedding05042023
6. #CarlyAndChristineWedding
7. #CarterAndTrueSayIDo
8. #ChrisAndBelleKissAndTell
9. #DreamsComeSchrute
10. #DreamsComeTruman
11. #EverybodyLovesRedmond
12. #FinallyFurman
13. #ForeverFurman
14. #IFoundMrWright
15. #I’llStandByHughes
16. #KatieAndSamTieTheKnot
17. #KeepingUpWithTheKlaus
18. #KennaAndDavidSayIDo
19. #KressSaysYes
20. #LoveIsDavis
21. #LoveScottAHoldOnMe
22. #MadelineAndTylerWedding
23. #MeetTheMasons
24. #MetMyJuliet
25. #MetMyRomeo
26. #MrAndMrAdams
27. #MrAndMrsThomas
28. #MrsAndMrsScott
29. #NothingRhymesWith__
30. #RZKindOfLove
31. #SarahAndMitchGetHitched
32. #SomethingOldSomethingNewman
33. #SoonToBeStilings
34. #StuckWith__
35. #TheCartersGetMarried
36. #TheGreatBritishWedding
37. #TheScottsTieTheKnot
38. #ToHaveAndToHolden
39. #WeAreOneInAWilliams
40. #WeValessOurLove

## Do’s and Don’ts When Creating a Wedding Hashtag Ideas
There are some things you’ll want to do when coming up with your wedding hashtag—and some things you’ll want to avoid.

Do’s and don’ts to keep in mind include:

### Do’s
- __Be creative.__ You want your wedding hashtag to be unique and memorable. So be creative with your ideas!

- __Have fun.__ Your wedding hashtag shouldn’t be a cause of stress. Have fun with the process! Brainstorm ideas with your partner and see who can come up with the funniest, silliest hashtag ideas.

- __Get your partner’s approval.__ Even if your partner isn’t involved in brainstorming hashtags, you’ll want to get their approval before you actually choose one; that way, you can make sure you both like it before you start incorporating it into your wedding.

### Don’ts
- __Be inconsiderate.__ Some people love a funny or tongue-in-cheek wedding hashtag like #MarriedAtLast. But for others, it might hurt their feelings or embarrass them in front of wedding guests. When thinking of wedding hashtags, make sure to be considerate of your partner.

- __Steal someone else’s hashtag.__ If a friend or acquaintance had a wedding hashtag you loved, you may be tempted to take it for yourself. But if it’s a unique or personal wedding hashtag, don’t use it without their permission.

- __Be too generic.__ The whole point of a wedding hashtag is to make it easier to find wedding-related photos on social media. So don’t be too generic; otherwise, it will pull up all the photos of other couples that used that hashtag as well.

## Ways to Encourage Guests to Use the Wedding Hashtag
Choosing the best wedding hashtag is the first part of the process. But then, you have to get your guests to actually use the hashtag!

Here are a few tips to ensure your guests actually use your wedding hashtag:

- __Tell them early and often.__ Include your wedding hashtag—and how to use it—on all of your wedding materials, including your Save The Dates, wedding website, and wedding invitations. Letting people know about your hashtag early and often will get them more familiar with it—and will increase the likelihood they’ll use it.

- __Put it on display.__ If wedding guests see your hashtag at the wedding, they’ll be more likely to use it to post photos. So make sure it’s on display in a variety of places—including on your wedding programs, wedding signs, and at your photo booth.

- __Ask them.__ If you want your wedding guests to use your wedding hashtag, just ask them! If the bride and/or groom don’t want to be responsible for getting guests to use the hashtag, they can also assign people (like the maid of honor and/or best man) to act as “wedding hashers,” gently reminding guests throughout the reception to use the hashtag.

## Wedding Hashtag Tips
Once you’ve selected and decided upon your future wedding hashtag, there are some basic guiding principles you have to make sure it sticks. Here’s how to make your hashtag a hit:

- __Make it unique:__ You don’t want your photos mixing up with others on social media.

- __Intro it early on:__ Put your wedding hashtag on your invitations and wedding stationery, post it showers and other pre-wedding parties, print it on your programs, and definitely display it around your wedding venue.

- __Add it to your wedding website.__ Your wedding website is where wedding guests go to get wedding details—making it the perfect place to share your hashtag.

- __Display it around your wedding venue.__ If you want guests to tag wedding photos with your hashtag, you want to make sure to have plenty of reminders all over your [wedding ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-ceremony-programs) and reception. Print it on your program, add it to wedding signs (like your welcome sign and table number signs), incorporate it into wedding decor...the more guests see it, the more likely they’ll be to use it!

- __Incorporate it into your photo booth.__ Guests love to make their way over the the photo booth, so make sure your hashtag is on display nearby. You could even print your hashtag on your photo booth props!

- __Include it with/on your wedding favors.__ Guests may take a lot of photos at your wedding—but not actually post them. Adding your hashtag to your wedding favors, which go home with guests, is a great way to make sure your friends and family remember to post their photos—and that your hashtag is trending in the days following your wedding.

## Make it funny. 
Your wedding hashtag doesn’t have to be all sentimental—this is a great place to showcase some humor, too. 
Some examples include:
- __NothingRhymesWith:__ If your last name is long and wonky, state the obvious.
- __StuckWith:__ Why not state the obvious?
- __AtLast:__ For those couples that took the long road to engagement, this adds a touch of funny by addressing the wait.
- __Embrace The Pun:__ Lean into wordplay (or ask your wittiest friend to help with this)!
- __Connect With Pop Culture:__ Think of popular movies, TV shows, and characters. Apply as needed. For example: #KeepingUpWithTheKlaus or #EverybodyLovesRedmond

![Photo by Monique Dao Photography Inline 1080x720](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/IggBqMbHV9QSQj6wDsBox/60be448628aa9b4a4192e55d74de10ae/Photo_by_Monique_Dao_Photography_Inline_1080x720.jpg)
*Photo Credit* // Monique Dao Photography

### Alliteration is all you need.
You know it, we know it. Alliteration just works. It’s OK to fall back on words that help convey a message of love, marriage, and a celebration. If you and your partner can’t land on any other words or phrases that really fit, go with alliteration. To help you brainstorm, here’s a list of wedding-related words—one for each letter of the alphabet.
- Adoringly 
- Betrothed 
- Cherished
- Dancing
- Ecstatic 
- Forever
- Gracefully 
- Happily 
- Ignited 
- Joyful
- Kept 
- Love
- Marriage 
- Never-ending
- Outstanding
- Picturesque 
- Quality 
- Romance
- Sacred
- Together
- Unify
- Very
- Wonderfully 
- Xoxo
- Young 
- Zesty 

## There’s a generator for that.
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If you’re still stuck on finding a hashtag that is fitting for both you and your partner, no worries! Many online free wedding hashtag generators exist to assist you. Most programs will ask for: your first and last name, your partner's first and last name, and wedding date. Before you know it, you have a hashtag. 

## Wedding Hashtag Tips
Once you’ve selected and decided upon your future wedding hashtag, there are some basic guiding principles you have to make sure it sticks. Here’s how to make your hashtag a hit:
- __Make it unique:__ You don’t want your photos mixing up with others on social media.
- __Capitalize each word:__ This helps with readability.
- __Intro it early on and then keep doing it:__ Put your wedding hashtag on your invitations, post it showers and other pre-wedding parties, print it on your programs, and definitely display it around your reception venue. 

A wedding hashtag makes it easy to share and compile all of the social media photos and moments on and leading up to your big day. Don't stress over it too much—just keep it unique and perssonal.

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While you may have heard about bridal showers, you might not have any experience hosting or attending a shower firsthand. If a bridal shower is in your near future, you might have a lot of questions: what exactly is a bridal shower? What should I expect if I am hosting, attending, or being honored at a bridal shower? Our bridal shower guide below will introduce you to the basics of bridal showers: traditional bridal shower etiquette (and which of those “rules” you can break), whom to invite, what to do, and who pays for it all.

## What Is a Bridal Shower? 
- A bridal shower is a pre-wedding gathering where close family and friends of the bride “shower” her with affection, advice, amusement, and support. 
- Showers are usually daytime parties that involve food, drinks, and wedding-themed games or activities. 
- Traditionally guests give the bride gifts that will help establish her newly married life.
- Regardless of whether it’s traditional or not, showers are a chance for friends and family of the bride and/or groom to get to know each other and match names with faces before the actual wedding.

## Is a Bridal Shower Different Than a Wedding Shower? 
Yes. A traditional bridal shower is just for the bride, and only female guests are invited. Wedding showers, however, are more modern and inclusive versions of bridal showers. Wedding showers invite both women and men to celebrate the upcoming wedding. 

Your choice to have a bridal or a wedding shower depends on what you, your host(s), and your partner prefer. Here are some differences you might find between traditional bridal showers and coed wedding showers: 
- A coed shower has a greater chance of occurring in the late afternoon or evening. All-female showers almost always occurs during the daytime. 
- Coed showers might have larger guest lists, as couples and/or whole families will be invited instead of only women. 
- Bridal showers will most likely involve more female-focused themes, favors, and games,   such competing to see who can create the best wedding bouquet from toilet paper. 

## Who Throws The Bridal Shower?
Traditionally the following people might host a bridal shower: 
- The maid or matron of honor
- The bridesmaids
- The bride’s mother
- The groom’s mother
- A close relative or family friend of the bride

However these days, anyone who feels compelled to throw a wedding shower for a bride or a couple can certainly do so. Splitting the hosting duties can be a smart move: throwing a bridal shower is a fairly large undertaking, not to mention splitting the hosting means splitting the costs. If you’re taking on this task, check out our step-by-step guide on [how to plan a bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower).

## Who Should You Invite to a Bridal Shower?
The bride (and/or groom) should make a list of whom they’d like to invite to the shower and share it with the shower host(s). It’s traditional etiquette to only invite people to the bridal shower who are also invited to the wedding. Not only does this prevent feelings of exclusion, but since guests typically bring gifts to showers, it would be rude to expect a gift from someone who’s not invited to the wedding. A typical bridal shower guest list should include: 
- The wedding party
- The bride and/or groom’s close and personal friends
- The bride and/or groom’s coworkers, if they are good friends
- The bride and/or groom’s close family members who live within a reasonable distance 

### Bridal Shower Guest List Size
An intimate bridal shower for 15 people is perfectly normal, as is a 50-person coed shower that feels more like a cocktail party. A variety of factors can influence the size of the guest list, such as: 
- the shower location
- whether it’s the only shower being thrown
- whether it’s a couples, coed, or all-female shower

### Inviting Coworkers to Your Shower
If you are good friends with your co-workers, and plan to invite them to the wedding, then by all means invite them to your bridal shower. Keep in mind that if your office is small and only some of your coworkers will be invited, it’s best to privately ask those with an invitation to keep it quiet around the office. 

### Inviting Your Fiancé(e) to Your Shower
If you’re having a couples shower, then of course your soon-to-be-spouse should be invited! Otherwise, the decision is up to you: while traditionally your fiancé(e) would not attend a shower thrown in your honor, if you want him or her to come, why not? Your shower is a party for you, after all, so invite the people whom you’d most like around you during this special moment.

### Inviting Out-of-Town Friends and Family to Your Shower 
If you know that out-of-town friends or family realistically won’t be able to attend, there’s no need to invite them to the shower. Keep your shower guest list to locals, as well as the handful of people whom you know would never miss it. Here are some reasons why you should not invite out-of-towners to your shower: 
- Asking them to travel for the shower and the wedding might seem like you’re asking a lot.
- Some people might feel obligated to send a gift even if they can’t attend, which may make the shower invitation seem like a solicitation for extra presents

If you’re worried about hurting distant friends or relatives by not inviting them, consider writing them a quick note or email explaining how you didn’t want them to feel pressured to attend considering the distance—and that sending a gift is not expected.

## What Do You Do at a Bridal Shower?
A bridal or wedding shower is a lot like any other party: guests mingle and chat, eat and drink, and sometimes come together as a group to do a focused activity. Here are the basic elements of a successful bridal shower: 
- A comfortable, semi-private location
- Food, including anything from light bites, to dessert, to a full meal
- Drinks, both with and without alcohol
- Light background music
- Unstructured time for guests to talk 
- Easy-going (perhaps optional) activities for guests to participate in, including: 
- Watching the bride and/or groom open gifts
- Playing wedding or relationship-themed word games, puzzles, or trivia
- A simple craft or hands-on activity
- Small, inexpensive (but thoughtful) party favors

### Does the Bride Have to Open Gifts at a Bridal Shower? 
While traditionally a good portion of the event is spent watching the bride (or couple) open up their shower gifts, opening presents at the party is not required if it makes her uncomfortable. Here are some reasons why a bride might not want to open up gifts at her shower:
- She’s an introvert and is uncomfortable being the center of attention.
- She doesn’t want to make anyone feel awkward about the size or price tag of their gift.
- She doesn’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable who didn’t bring a gift. 
- She’s worried she will bore her guests and kill the festive party vibe.
- She’d rather use the time to eat, drink, and mingle with her gathered loved ones.

If any of these reasons feel compelling, then consider having a display shower. This is where guests bring their presents unwrapped, and they are “displayed” on a table for everyone to view for the duration of the party. In order to successfully host a display shower, communicate with the guests ahead of time to make sure they understand how it works, and provide labels and pens for guests to identify what they brought.

### Playing Shower Games: The Pros and Cons 
Many people have questions surrounding bridal shower games, and whether or not you should include them in the shower you’re planning. While some find them fun and others would rather pass, there are pros and cons to have games at a wedding shower. 

__Pros:__  
- Playing games can be a quick way to get all guests involved, even shy folks.
- Games facilitate interaction and conversation between people who might not know each other.
- Games can liven up an unengaged group of party guests.
- Socially awkward strangers can focus on an activity, rather than making small talk.
- Thoughtfully chosen shower games (that fit your personality) can actually be fun. 

__Cons:__ 
- Not everyone likes the idea of forced group “fun” that might create an clumsy or unnatural vibe.
- If the crowd is getting along well, games force the organic flow of the party (and guests’ conversations) to come to a halt.
- Many shower games feel cheesy, patriarchal or too gender normative, or just a bit silly and embarrassing to the bride or couple of honor. 
- Some shower games might reveal gaps in how well a couple knows or understands each other, which can be rather uncomfortable. 

### Alternative Bridal Shower Activities
There are many creative ways you can approach throwing a bridal shower that don’t involve traditional shower games and/or opening presents. Here are some ideas to spark your creativity: 

- Hire an in-home chef to come teach the group how to make a specific dish.
- Have guests write down well-wishes for the couple in a special notebook.
- Set up a DIY photobooth and have guests take selfie Polaroids.
- Do a craft activity like decorating tote bags or cookies.
- Have a professional florist conduct a class on how to arrange flowers. 

For even more ideas, check out our article on other creative bridal shower ideas, and don’t be afraid to think outside the (gift) box.

## Who Pays for The Bridal Shower?
Whoever host the bridal shower typically pays for its expenses—but occasionally other people close to the bride and/or couple, such as their wedding party, parents, or siblings, might wish to contribute financially to the shower even if they are not hosting it. 

If a group of people, such as the bridesmaids and the maid of honor, are throwing the shower together, then they can share expenses in two ways:
1. Tally up all the individual costs and split final total evenly. 
2. Divide up and pay for different aspects of the event, such as the invitations, the drinks, the cake, or the favors. 

If you’re planning a bridal shower and want step-by-step instructions on what to do and when, check out our timeline for [How To Plan A Bridal Shower.](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bridal-shower) 

And just like that: You’re engaged! This is a big moment and one that awards you and your new fiancé ample time to bask in the glow of your next chapter. After that, though, it’s time to tell the world. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to [engagement announcements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/engagement-announcements-101). Whether you shout it from the rooftops or just keep the news to your inner circler—you’re not wrong. If you’re not sure how you want to proceed, though, read on. Here’s how to announce your engagement.

## Get on the same page.
Before you do anything, talk to your partner. This is, after all, your first decision as an engaged unit. Discuss how you want to announce your engagement and who you want to tell. The right decision for you and your partner is going to depend on who you are, your relationships, and what attention you want around your engagement. 

There are plenty of reasons to make an engagement announcement—and plenty of reasons to keep your upcoming nuptials to yourself (at first at least). If you’re on the fence about making an engagement announcement, here are a few things to consider.

## Reasons to Make an Engagement Announcement
- You can share in the excitement with family and friends. One of the best parts of getting engaged is the outpouring of love you receive from the people closest to you. Announcing your engagement loops your friends and family into your good news—and allows them to share in your excitement.

- Engagement announcements allow you to tell everyone all at once. Telling everyone in your life individually that you’re engaged can be time-consuming. You also run the risk of forgetting to tell someone important. An engagement announcement lets everyone in on the news at once—and probably saves you some time and stress, too.

- It’s fun! Your engagement announcement is you and your partner’s first big moment on a lost list of big moments to come. Enjoy it—and the attention that comes with it. There are so many creative ways to announce an engagement. Finding the right way to share the news can be a fun experience for you to do together.

## Reasons to Keep It To Yourself
- You can enjoy your engagement within your relationship. For many couples, sharing their engagement with family and closest friends is the first step. But if you and your partner are used to a more low-key approach to relationship matters, you may simply enjoy keeping it between you two for now. 

- You’re not sure who you want to tell. Every couple is different and every person comes with different relationships with friends and family. It might not be immediately obvious who you should or want to tell. In this case, take some time to map out your plan or start telling people discreetly and individually. 

Bottom line: Before you announce anything, sit with your partner and talk through how, when, and if you want to share your engagement.

## Who should we tell first?
Regardless of when you decide to make your engagement announcement, we recommend telling the people closest to you first. Even if you choose to make a grand statement to the rest of the world, your inner circle will appreciate the early intel. That close group will vary depending on your relationships, but consider telling these people first: 

- __Your kids.__ If you or your partner have children (either as a couple or from a previous relationship), tell them early on. Any children will be most directly impacted by your marriage, so make them a priority and involve them in the process from the beginning.
- __Your parents.__ If your parents are in your life, they should be one of the first calls you make post-engagement. Not only will they be thrilled to know, but they may even get a jump on planning—especially if they’ll be contributing in any way.
- __Your inner circle.__ Again, this group will vary but typically includes any siblings, other close family members, and your best friends. These people may be the ones you include in your wedding party so don’t let them find out with the rest of the world at large. 

## How To Make An Engagement Announcement
Once you’ve looped in your inner circle, you can start thinking about how to announce your engagement in a bigger way. Again, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution to engagement announcements. Here are a few methods to consider:

### Hop on the phone.
If you prefer a one-on-one conversation (or you simply aren’t on social media), pick up the phone—or hop on FaceTime or Skype. If you have any family or close friends that live far away, this is another way to let them know with a personal touch.

Before you call anyone, however, brainstorm a list of everyone you want to tell. Phone calls are a great, intimate way to announce your engagement, but you don’t want to forget anyone important and end up hurting feelings. So, sit with your partner and jot down names. Think about people from every phase of your life: school, various jobs, etc. Then, ask everyone to keep the news to themselves for a day or two to make sure they don’t tell someone on your list before you do.

### Send a group text.
If you have a group of people you want to share your big news with all at once (like your college roommates, your childhood best friends, or more distant extended family), a group text is a great way to make your engagement announcement feel more personal. Send a few different texts to groups of individuals who already know each other. This will make replies easy to manage and you won’t get caught up in too much back and forth between people interacting for the first time via text. And be sure to send pics! 

### Announce your engagement on social media.
If you’re ready to really make a statement, you already know that social media is the place to go. Whether you share an Instagram photo or story or you update your relationship status on Facebook, once you announce your engagement online, the news is out.

A social media engagement announcement ticks a lot of positive boxes. It’s easy, you can be creative with how you share your news (a picture, a sentimental paragraph of text, whatever!), and it covers just about everyone. If you plan to use a wedding hashtag, this could also be your first opportunity to start documenting your wedding journey digitally with it. 

A big social media announcement certainly isn’t for everyone. But if it’s for you, hit publish, sit back, and let the likes and love roll in.

### Launch a website.
If you want a more permanent and easily accessible engagement announcement, consider launching a [wedding website](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/website). A wedding website acts as the hub for all things engagement- and wedding-related. Eventually, your website should include all of the pertinent information about your wedding for your guests, including [your registry](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) and details about your big day. To start, though, it’s a great place to kick things off and share your big news.

### Send formal engagement announcements.
If you want to kick it old school, you can also send more traditional paper engagement announcements. You may also choose to send official hardcopies after your initial digital declaration. Formal announcements also make sense if you have plans for a formal wedding. A physical announcement sets the tone and indicates to guests that your wedding journey will have an air of tradition to it. As a bonus, this is a great way to start collecting [addresses for your wedding invites](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-address-wedding-invitations)!

Again, announce your engagement however you and your partner want. Any of these methods (or a combination of them) will be equally effective. The point is to celebrate your love.

## Sit back and enjoy it.
Once you announce your engagement, expect a flood of responses via social media, texts, and phone calls. It’s heartwarming but can also quickly become overwhelming. Feel free to take a step back—you don’t need to rush to respond. Your loved ones will understand that this is your time with your fiance. 

Once you come up for air, consider sending a message that expresses your gratitude. Try saying, “Thank you! It means so much to us that you’re excited. I’ll definitely loop you in once we’re ready to start wedding planning and have more details!” 

Ultimately, how and when you announce your engagement is totally up to you. The moment is yours—enjoy it. 


Congrats! You’re engaged. After relishing in the blissful moment as a couple, you likely reached for the phone to share the exciting news with your loved ones. Most [engagement announcements](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-announce-your-engagement) are met with equal amounts of enthusiasm, but there are times when that’s not the case. Unfortunately, it’s not so uncommon that friends treat the newly-engaged members of their social circle differently. If you’ve noticed a BFF treating you strangely or becoming distant ever since you got engaged, you’re not alone, 

While upsetting, this experience is actually pretty common, says [Allison Moir-Smith](http://www.emotionallyengaged.com/), a couples’ counselor and author of *Emotionally Engaged*.

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## Why Your Friends May Be Acting Differently
It’s easy to dismiss friends’ distance as jealousy, but Moir-Smith says when people pull away or act weird after a friend’s engagement, there’s often stuff going on beneath the surface, including social, financial, or other factors.

### Social Reasons
A joyous occasion for you may make loved ones realize what’s missing in their lives.

“Anybody who is in a difficult marriage or just broke up with someone and sees no prospects…  it may look like jealousy, but it's really feeling sad for themselves,” she says. “On the one hand, they are happy for you, but it makes them reflect.”

For single friends, an engagement can signal a fundamental change in your relationship with them. They may worry you won’t have as much time for them anymore or fear your bond will change. They may also be concerned that your lives are going down different paths now that one of you is getting married and one of you isn’t. 

“When you get engaged you are growing the intimacy with your future husband—he becomes your best friend and that is good and appropriate,” Moir-Smith explains. 

“But with close girlfriends, there’s an enormous shift in the relationship and a loss of intimacy. So often people are reacting to that feeling of being less important in your life.”

### Personal Reasons
Friends can also treat you differently because there’s something going on in their personal lives. This can include a sick family member, their parents’ divorce, or work-related stress. If you haven’t been in touch as often amid wedding excitement, you may be less tapped into such circumstances. 

### Financial Reasons
Money is also a factor for some friends, which can cause them to withdraw during wedding planning. Because it can be hard to admit you can’t afford things like [bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/cant-afford-the-bachelorette-trip) and bridesmaids dresses, it’s often easier to bow out or make excuses. (For tips on how to talk money when you’re in a wedding party [read here](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/talk-money-in-a-wedding-party).)

Last, your friend may not like the person you’re marrying, which is a hard thing to admit. Maybe you’re aware of their lukewarm feelings towards your partner, or maybe they’ve tolerated them up until now. Either way, if a friend isn’t thrilled with your spouse, they may be pulling away from your wedding. 

## Be self-aware...
While it’s easy to blame strange behavior on just your friends, you also need to look in the mirror. Moir-Smith says many brides can get swept up in wedding planning and turn their focus solely to their big day, and not realize they’re isolating others. No one enjoys being around a “wedding monster,” Moir-Smith says, so make sure you aren’t acting like everything revolves around you. 

### ...including on social media.
You also want to look at your [online presence](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/whats-your-wedding-style), Moir-Smith says. It’s perfectly normal to share wedding updates on social media, but you don’t want to go overboard. Did you go from posting travel photos and pictures with friends to only sharing wedding-related content? If so, you might want to consider how this affects others. 

“If you are doing that, you have to own that and realize people are going to react to that behavior because you have changed,” Moir-Smith says. “Is it really important that everyone sees all the bridesmaids dresses you're thinking about?”

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## How To Talk To Friends Treating You Differently
If you’re hurt or confused by a friend’s sudden coldness, Moir-Smith says it’s important to address it with them in a kind and compassionate way. Empathy, she says, is key. 

“This [conversation] is something you do quietly, privately, and between the two of you,” Moir-Smith says. “Meet them with a kind heart, not an angry heart.”

Moir-Smith suggests starting the conversation by sharing how you feel first. That way, you are inviting a conversation—not pointing the finger or accusing someone of “not being happy for you” or “being a bad friend.” 

### What To Say
*“Say things such as, ‘This is really weird for our friendship. I don't know if you're feeling it, but I sure am. I'm happy that I'm marrying [insert partner’s name], but at the same time, I really miss that closeness that we shared.’”*

You can also let your friend know what while yes, things are different right now, you still really value their friendship. By coming from a place of love, you are letting them know you want them to be in your future long after your wedding day.

__“What’s important is that you don’t put it all on your friend,”__ stresses Moir-Smith. “That can ruin the friendship. But if you want the friendship to continue, address it with kindness and an acknowledgment that there is a real change happening.”

couple embraces after premarital counseling

Premarital Counseling: Everything Couples Need to Know

My Friends Treat Me Differently Now That I'm Engaged

Your bachelorette party (also known as a "hen party") is one of the last celebrations before you say “I do." And because it's kind of a "last hurrah," it's the perfect opportunity to have some fun—and for many brides-to-be, that means playing plenty of fun bachelorette party games.

Whether you’re traveling with your bridesmaids for a destination bachelorette party, hosting a virtual bachelorette party for your best friends near and far, or having your own [wellness bridal weekend](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-15-places-to-go-to-for-a-bachelorette-party)with your maid of honor, we have a few bachelorette party game ideas to kick-start the festivities.

Whether you're aiming for a low-key sleepover withy our besties or putting on your best party dress for a night on the town with the long list of people who scored an [invite to your bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-nail-down-bachelorette-party-invite-wording), here are 28 of the best bachelorette party games, printables, decorations, and party favors to help you kiss your single life goodbye—and have a ton of fun in the process:

### What’s On Your Phone? Game
You can tell a lot about a person by their phone—whether it's packed with hundreds of photos of their dog, decked out in a bedazzled phone case, or full of notifications for unread texts and social media messages.

And with the What's On Your Phone Game?, you can see what everyone's phone has to say about them; it's a fun way to see who in your Bride Tribe has the quirkiest things hidden on their phone in your bride tribe—and cal also be a great way to get to know the whole group on a deeper level. (Because this more of a "get to know you" game, this a fun icebreaker if you're hosting a bachelorette where some of your friends are meeting for the first time.)

__Number of players: __

Unlimited

__What you need to play:__

With this fun game, you won’t need anything but your phones, a pen, and a prize (if you choose, that is!).

__How to play:__

For this party game, print out the What's On Your Phone? printable game template and read each item on the list. As you read out each item, have your guests check the boxes that apply to them. Then, once you've read out all the items, have each person add up their totals and take turns sharing their tallies. Whoever has the most points wins!

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### Bachelorette Photo Challenge Scavenger Hunt
If you want your bachelorette party to have a more adventurous feel, hosting your own photo-centric bachelorette scavenger hunt is a great bachelorette party game option.

__Number of players:__

Unlimited

__What you need to play:__

Each team will need a camera and/or camera phone. Depending on how competitive your crew is, they may also want to rock some running shoes; that way, they can run from photo op to photo op—and not have to worry about uncomfortable shoes slowing them down!

__How to play: __

Divide your group into teams of two to three. Print out a copy of the photo scavenger hunt printable for each team—and let them know that the first team to capture all the photos on the list will be declared the winner.

Not only is a photo scavenger hunt a fun, active way to celebrate your bachelorette party, it's also sure to generate some hilarious photos—making this one of the most funny bachelorette games on the list.

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### Bachelorette “Drink If…”
Is your bachelorette crowd prefer cocktails and beer pong over good, old-fashioned game nights? If so, you'll need at least a few bachelorette party drinking games—and this bachelorette party idea might be exactly what you and your party pals need!

__Number of players: __

Unlimited

__What you'll need:__

Because this is a drinking game, everyone will need a drink. (Got guests that don't drink alcohol? Not a problem—a [mocktail](https://https//www.tablespoon.com/meals/drinks/non-alcoholic-party-drinks-everyone-will-love) will work just fine!). You'll also need pens or pencils to check off items throughout the game.

__How to play:__

Print out your "Drink If.." printable, grab your favorite drink, and have your fellow bachelorette party attendees do the same. Starting with "Round 1," read out each item off the list—and have your guests check off each box that applies to them.

At the end of the round, whoever has checked off the most boxes takes a sip of their drink. Then, repeat for rounds two, three, and four.

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## Printable Decorations For Your Bachelorette Party Games

### Beach Bash Photo Booth
Is all things beach the [theme of your bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-themes)? If the bachelorette party is being hosted on island time, set up a “shellfie” station in your hotel room with these free photo booth printables. Bachelorette party guests can strike their favorite pose and create photo keepsakes the bride can take home with her. (Need more ideas for your beachside bachelorette?) You can discover more ideas on how to create the perfect [island-themed bash](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-themes) here.

__What you'll need:__

To use these printables, all you need is a printer and paper—and voila! Your DIY photo booth is ready to go!

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## Ring Party Door Sign
Decorate your party with a ring door sign taped on your front door. It’s only fitting since this is your last fling before you get the ring! This is especially useful for guests that are meeting you at a new location. Once they spot the ring, they’ll know exactly where they need to go!

__What you'll need:__

For this printable bachelorette party decoration, you’ll need paper and a printer, cutting utensils, and tape to hang up each sign.

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## More Free Bachelorette Party Games<a id="more"> </a>

Ready for a full night of bachelorette party game fun? We found 19 additional free game options that would be the perfect additional to your last game night as a single person. Whether you're looking for a classy game night, something a bit more wild, and games fit for a classic girls’ night, we've got for every soon-to-be newlywed.

### Clean and Classy Games
- Like our What’s In Your Phone game? See what odd things your guests carry around with them by playing [What’s In Your Purse](https://www.elegantweddinginvites.com/wedding-blog/special-wednesday-top-5-free-printable-bridal-shower-games/). 
- Send the bride and groom off on the right foot by writing them a heart-felt (or funny) letter with this [printable](https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/photo-gallery/35778533/image/35780329/Advice-Happy-Couple). 
- Have guests that have yet to see your wedding day attire? See who knows your style best with these [Guess the Dress](https://de.bridetrendy.com/50152/10-bachelorette-party-und-braut-dusche-spiele-free-printables/) printables. 
- Wear your favorite lip color and have your bridal party kiss your single life goodbye with this framable [Kiss for the Future Mrs. keepsake](https://www.bespoke-bride.com/2016/08/17/kisses-for-the-future-mrs-free-printable-hen-party-guest-book/).
- For all the celebrity experts out there, this is the perfect game! Match up some popular celebrity couples with this [Celeb Couple Quiz](http://www.mockeri.com/free-printable-bachelorette-games/).
- See who really knows the bachelorette better than anyone else in the room playing [How Well Do You Know The Bachelorette?](https://www.prettyprintablesink.com/uncategorized/freebie-friday-how-well-do-you-know-the-bachelorette/). This [list of questions](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-game-questions-youll-love) will help answer "how well do you know the bride?" for each of your party guests—and is a fun way to see who really knows you best.
- Fill in the blanks with this [Advice for Newlyweds](https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/photo-gallery/35778533/image/35780130/Advice-Newlyweds) printable. Think of it as "Newlywed Mad Libs," gather advice from your closest friends, from newlywed tips to travel inspiration—and use it to fill in the blanks.
- Keep in mind that, because all these activities are clean and classy (and, as such, totally appropriate for family members), they can easily double as bridal shower games—even though the [vibe of a bridal shower and a bachelorette party can feel super different](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-vs-bridal-shower).

### Wild Party Games
- For this unique game, start a three-minute timer while your crew writes out classic bachelorette terms starting with each letter of the alphabet on this [Bachelorette Alphabet](http://www.mypartygames.com/free-printable-naughty-alphabet-game-bachelorette-party/) print out. Once your time’s up, read each out loud to see who takes home the cake!
- Are you and your friends into lingerie? Have everyone bring a pair of lacy underthings—then play [Guess the Panties](https://www.partygameideas.com/bachelorette-guess-the-panties/) to see who brought what. It's like "Guess Who"—just for underwear!
- Emojis have been around for years. See if you can figure out which emoji set means what playing this [Emoji Pictionary Game](https://www.mypartygames.com/free-printable-bridal-shower-emoji-pictionary-game/).
- See who knows your love story best by having your guests fill out your [Love Story Map](https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/photo-gallery/40617199/image/40618511/Story-Map). 
- Want to kick off your bachelorette party with a solid pregame? If so, start off your party with a nice game of [Bachelorette Bottoms Up](https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/photo-gallery/40617199/image/40617544/Bottoms-Up-Game). 
- Put your thinking cap on and brainstorm quirky answers by playing [Bachelorette Balderdash](https://www.designsbymissmandee.com/2015/08/bachelorette-party-game-bachelorette-balderdash/). See which of your guests comes up with the best answers. 

### Girls’ Night In Games

- If your group knows celebrities well, play [Match the Famous Couple](https://www.mypartygames.com/match-the-famous-couple-free-printable-game/). See who can correctly match well-known big name couples. 
- Unscramble classic bachelorette party phrases with this [Bachelorette Party Word Scramble](https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/photo-gallery/40617199/image/40617247/Marriage-Word-Scramble).
- Go into a wild girls’ night with guidelines. Have each member of your group sign this [Bachelorette Party Agreement](https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/photo-gallery/40617199/image/40617542/Bachelorette-Party-Agreement) before starting. 
- We all know a fun night out on the town with your closest friends can hit you hard in the morning—especially if you have a few too many cocktails. Create a [Bachelorette Party Survival Kit](https://diyinspired.com/party-survival-kit-free-printables/) for all your guests—complete with everything you need to keep a hangover at bay (like water bottles and Tylenol.) Write the name of each member on printable labels or stickers to make sure everyone gets one.
- Before the party starts, have the opposing partner fill out the [Quiz the Groom](https://www.shopstagandhen.com/products/quiz-the-groom-free-digital-download) printable. Once starting the party, quiz your guests to see who knows the groom best. 
- Get competitive and play [Bachelorette Pictionary](https://addionubilato.altervista.org/bachelorette-party-pictionary-game/) to see who scores the most points with this guessing game. Or, if drawing isn't your thing, have some fun with a rowdy game of charades!

## Bachelorette Party Games You Can Buy<a id="buy"> </a>

Coming up with your own bachelorette party games is great. But there are plenty of ready-to-go games that you can pick up at the store!

Here are a few bachelorette party games you can buy to have on hand for the festivities:

- __Bachelorette Bash.__ This bachelorette party game (which is available on [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Bachelorette-BASH-Party-Games/dp/B086P8GS5V/ref=asc_df_B086P8GS5V/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=513296421741&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5096604817470211460&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9033611&hvtargid=pla-1260272780798&psc=1)) combines from classic slumber party games (like Truth or Dare and Never Have I Ever) with bride-centric trivia and other fun party games to create an experience you and your crew won't soon forget!
- __Jenga.__ Jenga is a party favorite—and that includes for bachelorette parties!
- __Pin the tail on the donkey.__ Pin the tail on the donkey may remind you of birthday parties when you were a kid. But there are *ahem* more adult versions that might feel more at home at a bachelorette party—especially if you're going for a more wild vibe.
- __Cards.__ Having a set of cards on hand is a must for a bachelorette party—as it opens up the possibility of playing an endless number of card games, whether that's Crazy 8's, Go Fish, or a fun game of poker.

## Bachelorette Party Game Prizes<a id="prize"> </a>  
Want to reward your bride tribe for participating in your bachelorette party games? Here are some prize ideas that you can share with the winners—or with all your party guests as a way to say "thanks for playing" :

- A personalized keepsake, like a water bottle or t-shirt 
- A bottle of champagne (or sparkling cider for the non-alcoholic crowd)
- A gift certificate (for example, a coffee gift card or a gift certificate for a mani/pedi)

You want your bachelorette party to be an event you and your friends will never forget—and these bachelorette party games will help you create the kind of fun, unforgettable experience you're looking for!

Need more bachelorette party tips? For more planning tips, take a look at our guide to [bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/pack-for-a-bachelorette-party)—and check out our packing list for the bachelorette weekend so you don’t skip any essentials. And don’t forget to send [thank you cards](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop) after the event. 

Cheers to your bachelorette party festivities!

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Celebrating the bride at her bachelorette party is one of the best ways to de-stress before the wedding and get to know her closest friends. While some brides prefer an exciting weekend bash, others would rather relax with their favorite girls. If you’ve been tasked with [planning a bachelorette party](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-bachelorette-party), put the bride’s interests first and then fill in the rest of the details. 

Once you have a clear idea of how the bride wants to spend her final days as a single lady, the fun begins! Maybe your bride has a [wedding theme](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-themes) she loves that you can incorporate into the bachelorette party. These themes range from wild and crazy to sophisticated and chill so you can find the perfect theme to party with your girls. Below, find 57 bachelorette party themes to inspire your planning, or jump straight to the section you’re most interested in:
- [Last Splash Mermaid Bash Party](#last-splash-mermaid-bash-party)
- [Bohemian Bash Party](#bohemian-bash-party)
- [Let’s Get Nauti-cal Party](#lets-get-nautical-party)
- [Bride's Final Fiesta Party](#brides-final-fiesta-party)
- [Glamping Girls Weekend Party](#glamping-girls-weekend-party)
- [Tropic Like It’s Hot Party](#tropic-like-its-hot-party)
- [Additional Bachelorette Party Themes for Every Bride](#additional-bachelorette-party-themes-for-every-bride)

After picking your favorite bachelorette party theme, set the backdrop for your weekend with decor and [party favors](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop) to celebrate in style. Zola's [Bach Party Gear](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/bachparty-gear) has endless inspiration! Wondering who covers all of the bachelorette party costs? Check out our [guide to bachelorette parties](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bachelorette-parties) to figure out who to invite, how to split the costs and how to plan your weekend. 

## Bachelorette Party Themes & Party Names

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### Last Splash Mermaid Bash
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For the mermaid bride trading her tail for a veil, celebrate her bachelorette by the sea. Use plenty of sparkles and soft pastel colors to decorate your under-the-sea party with bubbles, seashells, and sea creatures. As for dress code, have your mermaid squad pack their swimsuits and gift them beach towels as a party favor so they’ll have a souvenir to take home. [This](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/eventblossom_tropical_palm_swimsuit) tropical palm swimsuit is perfect for the occasion! Add some mermaid themed snacks and dive in.

Whether you’re by the pool or hanging at the beach, you can party your tails off in full mermaid fashion.

__Activity ideas:__
- Set up a Mermosa bar
- Prepare for a night out with a mermaid glitter bar
- Have a last splash pool party

__Destination ideas:__
- Charleston, South Carolina 
- Santa Monica, California
- Seaside, Florida

![bachelorette-party-ideas-mermaid](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/52qbAb3tF2Pa5gIY2cBAuA/bf74a89d6191c90d20a265587f985158/bachelorette-party-ideas-mermaid.jpg)

__Sources:__ Photobooth and koozie via [Vandi Fair](https://vandifair.com/mermaid-bachelorette-party/) | Mermaid glitter bar via [Rachel Emma Studio](https://www.rachelemmastudio.com/blog/2018/5/23/diy-ideas-for-pop-up-stations-at-your-wedding) | Macarons via [Taste by Spellbound](http://spellbound.bigcartel.com/)

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### Bohohemian Bash Party
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Take it easy and plan some relaxing activities for the boho bride. Get outdoors and explore some beautiful scenery by visiting a winery or going on a hike to bond with your bride tribe. To wind down, attend a group yoga or pilates class and find your zen before the big day comes. 

Another fun spin on a boho bachelorette is to go with a “Bachella” festival theme for the music lover. Bring in all the florals, earth tones and macramé decorations to create a chill vibe for your party. Vintage patterns and fabrics make great backdrops for photo booths and dinner parties.

__Activity ideas:__
- Make [flower crowns](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-make-a-flower-crown) with your crew
- Attend a group yoga class
- Have an outdoor patio party
- Tour a vineyard

__Destination ideas:__
- Sonoma, California
- Scottsdale, Arizona
- Tulum, Mexico

![bachelorette-party-ideas-boho](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ZcmfckplfoE9Nu53PZmAQ/a2ace27aeeb46630981d6ae329fe2640/bachelorette-party-ideas-boho.jpg)

__Sources:__ Vintage drink glasses via [Magnolia Studios](http://www.magnoliastudios.ca/) | Tattoos via [Fancy That Loved](https://www.etsy.com/listing/265895976/bride-tribe-temporary-bachelorette-party) | Tablescape via [Twink + Sis](http://www.twinkandsis.com/) |  Boho chair via [Madison Short](https://madisonrshort.com) and [Christine McFarlane Events](https://www.christinemcfarlaneevents.com/) 

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### Let’s Get Nauti-cal
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Want to head somewhere warm and sunny with the girls? A nautical bachelorette is the way to go. Deck out your “I Do” crew with sailor hats, fanny packs, and beach hats to create a weekend fit for the sea. If you’re planning a destination bachelorette party, consider some beach getaways and try to book a beach house or boat ride. Nautical themed goodies like inflatable beach balls, palm trees, and anchors make great decorations for your weekend pad. 

Let your hair down, put your toes in the sand and celebrate the bride’s last sail before the veil with a “Let’s Get Nauti” themed bachelorette. 

__Activity ideas:__
- Go on a boat ride or rent jet skis
- Grab some beach chairs and relax on the beach
- Have a sandcastle competition with nauti [prizes](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/wedding-shop)

__Destination ideas:__
- Destin, Florida
- Nantucket, Massachusetts
- Malibu, California

![bachelorette-party-ideas-nautical](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5ASpuMzaECCu1bwjEBWQwU/f5776ee5266cb039a6b0838be5e676f5/bachelorette-party-ideas-nautical.jpg)

__Sources:__ Bride on a boat via [Katrina Malaiba](https://www.instagram.com/katrinamalaiba/) | Nautical goodies via [Everyday Pursuits](https://www.everydaypursuits.com/blog//2015/09/nautical-bachelorette-party-essentials.html) | Beach ball drink stirrers via [Studio DIY](https://studiodiy.com/2013/07/24/diy-beach-ball-drink-stirrers/) | Nautical table setting via [Pizzazzerie](https://pizzazzerie.com/parties-weve-styled/nautical-party-style-mud-pie-faves/) | Beach hats via [Love Always, Audrey](http://www.lovealwaysaudrey.com/2016/06/beach-bachelorette-party/)


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### Bride's Final Fiesta
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Perfect for any time of year, this theme brings together delicious [food](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-food-ideas) and bright colors to create an atmosphere that makes you want to sip margaritas with your senoritas. Celebrate the bride to be with a fiesta themed party full of quirky cactus decor and pinatas. Using just balloons and streamers, you can turn any hotel room or guest house into a desert oasis. As for the tasty treats, margarita flavored cupcakes and a nacho or taco bar make great party snacks. 

This final fiesta will have all of your girls crashing for a siesta in the afternoon. 

__Activity ideas:__
- Try out salsa dancing
- Build your own taco bar
- Take a swing at a pinata

__Destination ideas:__
- San Diego, California
- Miami, Florida
- Cancun, Mexico

![bachelorette-party-ideas-fiesta](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/68r9HBSRNt1Hlo6QPrs4Jp/2d888ba574a51c1765ac6b01893533ba/bachelorette-party-ideas-fiesta.jpg)

__Sources:__  Fiesta sign via [Giggles Galore](https://gigglesgalore.net/boho-chicks-and-churros-fiesta-party/) | Fiesta cookies via [Cowtown Cookie Co.](https://www.cowtowncookieco.com/cookies) | Cactus balloons via [Design Improvised](https://designimprovised.com/2015/06/cactus-balloons.html) | Fiesta garland via [The House That Lars Built](http://thehousethatlarsbuilt.com/2018/04/printable-papel-picado-streamers.html/) | Siesta blanket and eyemasks via and [Simply Audree Kate](https://www.simplyaudreekate.com/bachelorette-weekend-arsenas-final-fiesta/) and [Brooke Marcella Photography](https://www.brookemarcella.com/)

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### Glamping Girls Weekend
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Bachelorette parties are perfect for escaping the stress of planning a wedding so why not escape to the great outdoors? For the bride who likes to explore and unwind, consider planning a weekend in the woods for you and your girls. Whether you decide to stay in a cabin or glamping tent, this weekend will be full of new experiences. Create a cozy atmosphere using lots of blankets and pillows to make your campsite feel like home. For party favors, you can make some adorable fire starter kits with matches or create your own rustic wood coasters. 

Head out to where the wild things are and create a weekend full of happy campers. 

__Activity ideas:__
- Take a nature hike
- Make smores around the campfire
- Try outdoor sports like fishing or whitewater rafting

__Destination ideas:__
- Denver, Colorado
- Jackson, Wyoming
- Portland, Oregon

![bachelorette-party-ideas-glamping](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/aFK61BmuPalOGWV449AcE/802c15a17be4f288a8c81d230641d2e1/bachelorette-party-ideas-glamping.jpg)

__Sources:__ Glamping tent and blankets via [Gypsy Canyon Baja](https://www.gypsycanyonbaja.com/) and [Ana and Jerome Photography](https://www.anaandjerome.com/) | Wooden coasters via [House of Hawthornes](https://www.houseofhawthornes.com/arrow-wood-slice-coasters/) | Camp rules via [Legally Crafty](https://www.legallycraftyblog.com/blog/a-weekend-in-the-woods-camp-themed-bachelorette-party) and [Just Add Confetti](https://www.justaddconfetti.com/) | S’mores bar via [Katherine Mendieta](http://www.katherinemendieta.com/travel/glamping-bachelorette-camp-wandawega-wisconsin)

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### Tropic Like It’s Hot
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Take the bachelorette party to the tropics for a weekend that feels like a mini-vacay. Palm leaf prints, fresh florals, and bold colors make this tropical party bright and cheery. Add some fun flamingo and pineapple decor to turn your room into a tropical oasis. Sip fruity cocktails by the pool or head to the beach for a fun day in the sun. Adorn some fabulous straw beach hats and bright pool floats for a pool party no one will forget. 

As the bride says “aloha” to married life, take this weekend to pamper her special girls.

__Activity ideas:__
- Get group manicures and pedicures
- Hangout poolside
- Play prosecco pong

__Destination ideas:__
- Key West, Florida
- Cabo San Lucas, Mexico
- Palm Springs, California

![bachelorette-party-ideas-tropical](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4dlWYjR63Dzu6Japx7Agt/87d6bb8f216631e54426f1bbfd9346b3/bachelorette-party-ideas-tropical.jpg) 

__Sources:__ Pastel party decor via [Everyday Pursuits](https://www.everydaypursuits.com/blog/2018/3/2/epic-palm-springs-bachelorette-party) & [Valorie Darling Photography](https://valoriedarlingphotography.com/) | Mimosa bar and floral ice cubes via [The Beauty Approach](http://www.injessiland.com/2017/06/08/vintage-tropical-baby-shower/) | Pool floats via [Madison Short](https://madisonrshort.com/tropical-bridesmaid-brunch/) and [Christine McFarlane Events](https://www.christinemcfarlaneevents.com/) | Flamingo party cups via [Boxwood Avenue](https://boxwoodavenue.com/blog/diy-flamingo-pineapple-party-cups) 

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## Additional Bachelorette Party Themes for Every Bride
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### For the Low Key Bride
- __No Boys Allowed Slumber Party:__ Watch endless movies, paint your nails and eat plenty of snacks for a sleepover-themed bachelorette like this one from [Studio DIY](https://studiodiy.com/2017/09/05/holographic-neon-slumber-party/).
- __Mani’s and Mimosas Spa Day:__ Take the girls to a spa for some facials, manicures and of course, mimosas. 
- __Backyard BBQ:__ Perfect for when the weather is nice, invite your girl squad over for a chill backyard party full of barbeque and brews. 
- __Yoga Themed:__ For the yogi bride, “Namaslay” with your girls and find time to [relax](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/top-15-places-to-go-to-for-a-bachelorette-party) before the big day. 
- __Movie Night:__ Make it a marathon and wear your PJs for a cozy night in. Or, take the movie outside and set up a projector to watch under the stars. 
- __Vintage Vibe Campout:__ Go retro and unplug in a vintage trailer for a throwback weekend like this party from [100 Layer Cake](http://www.100layercake.com/bachelorette-shower/lets-get-cozy-bachelorette-party-shoot/).
- __Celestial Celebration:__ Throw a star party and get in touch with the cosmos since the bride has found someone she loves to the moon and back. 
- __Game Night:__ Have all the girls bring their favorite board games and card games over and spend the night laughing and playing together. 

### For the Wife of the Party
- __Winery Weekend:__ Hit the vineyards and feel like you’re on cloud wine with your crew. Tour multiple wineries for a weekend getaway  that helps you stop and smell the rosé. 
- __Feyoncé Bachelorette:__ Since he put a ring on it, celebrate in true Beyoncé style with a glammed out bachelorette full of dancing and being fabulous.
- __Brew and Views:__ Take the bride to be to a number of breweries around town and add some sightseeing onto your itinerary. 
- __Wiggin Out:__ Put on a silly wig with your crew and dance like nobody’s watching. Mix up hair colors and styles and go all out for the bride. 
- __Bach and Boujee:__ It's girls night out. Think gold, luxurious and lots of champagne. Indulge in a bachelorette party where you treat yourself and your crew. 
- __Casino:__ If you can’t make it to Vegas, bring the lively atmosphere to your bachelorette party with casino-themed games and decor. Throw in an Elvis costume and party it up Vegas style. 
- __Fifty Shades of Grey:__ Throw a panty party for the bride and gift her all kinds of intimates for her wedding night. 
- __Champagne Campaign:__ Pop the champagne, she’s changing her last name! Decorate the party with a champagne balloon wall like this one from [Kara's Party Ideas](https://karaspartyideas.com/2018/03/champagne-brunch-bridal-shower.html) for a great photo backdrop.

### For the Adventurous Bride
- __Baewatch Beach Bash:__ Wifeguard or bride to bae? Hit the beach for a fun weekend in the sun and sand.
- __Boots and Bling Before the Ring:__ Saddle up and have a wild western party for the honkytonk bride complete with cowgirl boots, hats, and bandanas. 
- __The Hunt is Over:__ This jungle themed bachelorette lets you dress up as a wild thing and party it up with the bride. Lions, tigers, and bears—oh my!
- __Last Swing Before the Ring:__ Attend a baseball game and root for #teambride as you guys round out the homestretch of wedding planning. 
- __Flannel Fling Before the Ring:__ Perfect for fall and winter, wear matching flannels for a cozy weekend in the cabin. 
- __Lake Life Weekend:__ Head to the lake for a relaxing weekend outside with your ladies like this photoshoot from [Tinker Tin](http://www.tinkertin.com/blog/tag/Camping). Take the boat out for a sunset cruise and “cheers” to the married life.
- __Cheers Beaches:__ Rent a beach house and stay oceanside for a weekend celebrating the bride to be. 
- __Vail Before the Veil:__ Plan a trip to Colorado and spend the weekend hitting the slopes or cozying up by the fire.
- __Traveling from Miss to Mrs:__ Make [bachelorette party invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-nail-down-bachelorette-party-invite-wording) that resemble passports or boarding passes and throw the jet-setting bride a travel-themed party with cuisine and drinks from all around the world.
- __Hiking and Biking:__ No matter what city the party is in, try renting bikes for a cruise around town or hike a local nature trail.  

### For the Classy Bride
- __Tea Party:__ Swap out mimosas for tea and throw a sophisticated tea party full of florals. 
- __Painting and Wine:__ Grab a glass and paintbrush and let the wine do the painting. This is one of the few bachelorette parties where you make your own souvenir. 
- __Brunch and Bubbly:__ Bring brunch to the bachelorette with a mimosa bar like this from [Peachfully Chic](http://www.peachfullychic.com/domestic/entertain/fall-brunch-biscuit-mimosa-bar-ideas/). 
- __Chop it Like it’s Hot Cooking Class:__ Test your kitchen skills and learn a new recipe with the girls by signing up for a cooking class. Pop open a bottle of bubbly and get cooking!
- __Kentucky Derby:__ Get “Down and Derby” with your bride squad as you eat southern comfort food and wear extravagant hats like this party from [Oh Happy Day](http://ohhappyday.com/2017/04/kentucky-derby-party/).
- __Garden Party:__ Host your own secret garden bachelorette and make your own floral bouquets or pick berries at a local farm. 
- __Night in Paris:__ Celebrate in Parisian style by hosting a bash with macarons, champagne, and French eats. 

### For the Bride Who Loves to Dress Up
- __Rockstar:__ Party like a rockstar and dress as famous rockers before you hit the town. 
- __90s:__ If the bride is obsessed with all things 90s, have the bachelorette party dress up in vintage outfits and dance to your favorite 90s bands. 
- __80s:__ Girls just wanna have fun. Channel your inner Madonna and throw a bachelorette with big hair and tunes from the 80s. 
- __Masquerade:__ Perfect for a New Orleans bachelorette party, grab some masks and beads and let the good times roll. 
- __Gatsby:__ A little party never killed nobody! Dress up in flapper dancer outfits and throw a bach bash even Gatsby would be jealous of like this one from [The Blissful Balance](http://theblissfulbalance.com/a-little-party-never-killed-nobody/).
- __Breakfast at Tiffany’s:__ Tiffany blue decor and pearls set the scene for the perfect party. Have the girls wear their favorite little black dress and a pair of sunglasses to complete the theme. 
- __The Royal Bachelorette:__ Make the bride feel like a true queen by throwing a royal bachelorette party complete with English treats and tea. 
- __Come on Barbie, Let’s Go Party:__ Pink everything. Host a Malibu pool party or wear your brightest workout gear for a party that is both plastic and fantastic. 
- __From Muggle to Mrs:__ Keep the butterbeer coming for the bride to be. Celebrate with your favorite wizards and solemnly swear you’ll be up to no good. 
- __So Fetch Bachelorette:__ You can’t sip with us. Wear the classic pink outfits and watch the movie on repeat for a bachelorette inspired by Mean Girls. 
- __Happily Ever After:__ For the fairytale bride, dress up as different princesses and throw a ball that doesn’t have to end at midnight. 
- __F-R-I-E-N-D-S:__ The One Where She Gets Married. Pay tribute to the classic 90s TV show by hosting a party with Central Perk coffee and a yellow picture frame photo booth. 
- __Unicorn:__ The bride found her unicorn! Throw her a magical bachelorette bash with glitter and rainbows to celebrate just how special she is. 
- __Getting Meowied:__ If your favorite cat lady is tying the knot soon, plan her last meow with plenty of kitty-inspired decorations and maybe a few furry friends. 
- __The Bachelorette:__ Who will get the final rose? Dress up in stunning cocktail dresses and bring out the roses and champagne. Bonus points if you stay in a bachelor-style mansion. 
- __Pineapple:__ Party like a pineapple and host a party full of tropical flavors and decor. 
- __Donut Delight:__ In case you ever needed an excuse to have a donut wall at your bachelorette party. Check out this donut board from [Going for Grace](http://www.goingforgrace.com/how-to-donut-board/) for inspiration. 
- __Sex and the City:__ This iconic girl squad makes the perfect theme for a bride who is both fabulous and sophisticated. Dress up as your favorite characters and play the TV series or movies in the background. 

After all the fun of a bachelorette party and [games](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/bachelorette-party-games) to be played, you’ll need to pick out the [perfect present](https://www.zola.com/wedding-registry) for the bride to be. The bride may have just found her match, but she’s always had a strong group of supportive girls surrounding her.

Who Pays for the Bachelorette Party?

What to Pack for a Bachelorette Party

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Best Bachelorette Party Destinations In the US

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At the [bridal shower](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-bridal-showers), your friends and family members “showered” you with love and generous presents. Now it’s time to let your loved ones know how much you loved celebrating with them—and how much you appreciate the beautiful gifts you received—with a heartwarming [thank you card](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/thank-you-cards/shop). The task is easier said than done, especially if you struggle to translate your gratitude into written words. But don’t let writing bridal shower thank you notes cause you undue stress: we have the answers to all your thank you note etiquette questions, complete with wording ideas for what to write on your bridal shower card. Grab a pen and that stack of blank thank you cards—let’s get to writing. 

Need help writing wedding thank you notes instead? See our guide on how to word wedding thank you cards. 

## Bridal Shower Thank You Card Etiquette
Navigating all the rules for writing a thank you note can be a bit overwhelming, especially when you’re in the throes of [planning your wedding](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/how-to-plan-a-wedding), too. But there’s no need to stress—we’ve broken down the most important things to know below. 

### General Thank You Card Etiquette

- Dos 
  - Write the note by hand to express your thoughtfulness. 
  - Use a blank thank you card. 
  - Keep a record of who attended and gave a bridal shower gift. 
  - Plan what you’re going to say before writing. 

- Don’ts
  - Write too much. 
  - Be critical of the gift (or the lack of a gift). 
  - Mention the specific amount given for monetary gifts. 

### When Do I Send Thank You Cards to Bridal Shower Gifts?
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Thank you cards should be sent to each individual who attended your bridal shower and/or purchased a gift no more than two weeks after the date of the party. 

*__Pro Tip:__ Purchase thank you cards before the bridal shower—especially if you’re using a custom design—so you already have them on hand immediately following the celebration.*

### Who Should Sign Bridal Shower Thank You Cards?
Although it may feel like the gift was given just to you, bridal shower thank you cards should be signed by you and your partner. The only exception to this rule is when you receive a gift that’s clearly meant for only you (think lingerie, spa gift card, or other bride-centric gifts). 

### Can I Combine Bridal Shower and Wedding Thank You Cards?
The short answer? No. A different thank you note should be written for each event  (bridal party, wedding ceremony, or even a baby shower) a guest attends, regardless of whether they brought a gift each time. 

## What to Write In a Bridal Shower Thank You Card 

### 3 Things To Consider Before Writing A Thank You Note
Before you begin writing, there’s a few key questions you should ask yourself that will make crafting your thank you note easier. 

__1. What is your relationship to the guest?__ If you’re close with the guest, such as a bridesmaid or your best friendyour message should be personal and heartfelt. However, if you don’t know the guest well, or just met them for the first time, a short and sweet thank you note is just fine. 

__2. Was the guest able to attend the shower?__ If the guest was able to celebrate with you in person, make sure to call it out in your thank you note. If they were unable to attend, let them know how much you missed them. 

__3. Did the guest provide a gift?__ If so, what was it? A thank you note is required for every guest that attended your bridal shower, whether they brought a present or not. However, if a guest did purchase a gift, it’s important to specifically mention it in your note (see more on this below). The same goes for guests who mailed a gift but were unable to attend the party. 

### How to Write Bridal Shower Thank You Notes
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Next, let’s look at the basic anatomy of a thank you note. Sticking to these six simple steps will give your message structure and help reduce time spent mulling over how you should express your gratitude. 

__1. Greeting__

- Audra
- Mrs. Jones

__2. Thank Them for Their Presence__

- Thank you so much for celebrating with me at my bridal shower!
- I’m so grateful that you could be there to join me on this special day. 

__3. Thank Them for The Gift (If Applicable)__

- Thank you so much for the beautiful set of cheese knives. 
- We so appreciate our new set of wine glasses. 

__4. Share What You Love About The Gift__

- They’ve been such a great addition to our weekly cheese and charcuterie date night. 
- We think about you every Saturday when we pour ourselves a glass of wine and work on planning our upcoming wedding.

__5. Show Your Appreciation for Them as a Person__

- Your friendship means so much to us. Thanks again for your support as we journey into married life together. 
- It was so fun to see you at the shower. We can’t wait to continue the celebration with you at our wedding.

__6. Sign Off__

- With love,

  Finny & Spencer 

- Cheers,

	Lynne & Toby

### Bridal Shower Thank You Wording Examples
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To get the ink flowing, check out these card wording examples for how to word thank you notes for all kinds of situations. 

__For a Guest Who Bought a Gift from Your Registry__

*Dear Molly,* 

*Thank you so much for coming to my bridal shower last Saturday! We’re so grateful for the beautiful tea towels you gave us. They already make a great addition to our kitchen.* 

*Your friendship means so much to us and we can’t wait to celebrate with you at the wedding in a few weeks.* 

*Love,* 

*Kieran & Tina*

__For a Guest Who Brought a Cash Gift__

*Dear Aunt Diana,* 

*It was a true delight to see you at the shower. Thank you so much for your generous gift. We’ve just booked a glass bottom boat ride during our upcoming honeymoon thanks to you. We’ll tell you all about the experience when we see you this Thanksgiving!* 

*Thanks again for the support you’ve shown us throughout our engagement. We look forward to hitting the dance floor with you on the big day.* 

*All our love,*

*Emma & Julian*

__For a Guest Who Brought a Gift You Didn’t Like or Exchanged__

*Dear Mila,* 

*How wonderful to see you at the bridal shower! Thank you for the bagel toaster you gave us. It was very generous and we appreciate you thinking of us.* 

*Looking forward to having you at the wedding next month. We know that many more great memories will be made with you there!*

*Love,* 

*Tessa & Will*

__For a Guest Who Attended But Did Not Bring a Gift__

*Dear Beatriz,* 

*Thank you for celebrating with me at my shower! I hope that you had an amazing time. It was great to see you there and catch up.* 

*Thank you again for being there to honor this special time with us. Can’t wait to see you at the wedding!*

*Love always,* 

*Ronan & Adrienne*

__For a Guest Who Sent a Gift But Couldn’t Attend__

*Dear Goldie,* 

*Thank you so very much for the beautiful luggage. We’ve already put the carry-ons to good use at our weekend getaway in New York last weekend, and we can’t wait to show off these stylish suitcases on our honeymoon to Italy this spring.* 

*We missed you at the shower, but we are so excited to see you at the wedding. Thank you again for the thoughtful gift!*

*Love,* 

*Rebecca & Hannah*

__For a Guest Who Is a Very Close Friend__ 

*Dear Susie,* 

*Thank you for celebrating by my side at the bridal shower. Toby and I so appreciate the awesome French press and coffee beans you gave us. We can’t help but think of you every time we sip our morning brew.* 

*You have no idea how much your love has meant to us over the years. It’s going to make our day so special to have you in the crowd on the big day. We’re excited to see you bust one of your famous moves on the dance floor!* 

*Much love,*

*Lynne & Toby*

__For a Guest Who Is a Formal Acquaintance__

*Dear Mrs. Perdu,* 

*Please accept our sincere thanks for the beautiful picture frames you gave us. They make a lovely addition to our mantle, and we are looking forward to using them to show off our favorite memories throughout the years to come.* 

*It meant so much to us that you were able to attend the shower. Your kindness is so appreciated, and we look forward to seeing you at the wedding.* 

*Sincerely,* 

*Finny & Spencer*

__For The Host of The Bridal Shower__

*Dear Amar,* 

*Words can’t express how truly grateful we are for the shower you planned and hosted. From the balloon display to the delicious cake pops, every detail was perfect. None of it would have been possible without you. Thank you for always being such an amazing friend and for supporting us through every detail of planning our wedding. Having you in our lives has made this special time even more meaningful.* 

*We can’t wait to have you right there with us as we exchange our vows and journey into married life. Thanks again for everything you do.* 

*With love,* 

*Audra & Charles*


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Ah, the bachelor party. The pre-wedding ritual of honoring a groom as he winds down his last days as a single man. Typically, while the bride-to-be spends her time at her bachelorette party, the groom-to-be would hold bachelor parties that involve a weekend away, a few nice meals, drinking, and other daytime activities that suit the groom’s style  with his close friend(s) and groomsman. We’ve come to understand bachelor parties as wild weekends full of debauchery—and they certainly can be! However, don’t get caught up in the stereotype: A bachelor party can be anything you want it to be. 

To help you plan a weekend suitable for the groom, here’s a comprehensive list of ideas for bachelor party games and activities. Whether you’re into the great outdoors, a super sports fan, or want to settle into the traditional bachelor party planning mentality, we have ideas for you. 

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- __Rent a cabin in the woods.__ If you’re someone who likes the idea of hanging out with your friends out in nature, try going this direction. Through platforms like Airbnb, you’ll be able to secure an amazing house or cabin that fits your entire group.
- __Visit a national park.__ The recent craze of collecting National Park stamps has nature lovers traveling near and far to see the best Mother Earth has to offer. Whether you decide on the Florida Everglades or California’s Yosemite there are 61 different parks to choose from in the USA. 
- __Go camping.__ This bachelor party idea is for those who really want to be out in nature, set up tents at a public campsite and ride out the weekend in the elements.
- __Head off to Las Vegas.__ It’s quintessential bachelor party territory. So grab a few buddies and head over to Sin City. Just remember: What happens in Vegas doesn’t always stay in Vegas.
- __Take a cruise.__ Cruise ships are a unique bachelor party option suitable for everyone in your bachelor party thanks to a bevy of entertaining options like bars, casinos, and pool decks. 
- __Visit the Kentucky Bourbon Trail.__ For those bourbon-drinking, the area surrounding Louisville is a must-go. Take a bus tour of popular bourbon distilleries—without having to worry about a designated driver. 
- __Go to a live music festival.__ If you and your crew are big on music and partying, hit a major music festival together to enjoy the live band and night raves.
- __Visit a new country.__ If getting a new stamp on your passport sounds like an amazing idea, grab your crew and venture out. Check airlines for deals and jump on an opportunity. 
- __Rent an RV.__ While road tripping with your buddies may take longer than a weekend, rent an RV and make your way down a scenic road intended to be covered in a couple of days. Try the California coast or the Blue Ridge Parkway in the Carolinas. 
- __Off to the races.__ If dressing in searsucker and rocking a koozie are two of your favorite things, you might want to head off to the horse races. From the Kentucky Derby to the Preakness races in Maryland, there are many big events to choose from where you and your friends can sip on Mint Juleps and enjoy the weekend. 
- __Rent a ski cabin.__ Renting a ski cabin in the middle of the mountains is a great way to add in a sporting adventure while kicking off your bachelor party celebration through bonding with your friends. 

If your bachelor party guests live in various states (or even countries), it might be best to plan a weekend away. Whether meeting in a centralized location, or somewhere new and exciting, there are many different types of multi-day travel ideas for you and your friends to celebrate your bachelor party.

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## Bachelor Party Ideas for Day-Time Activities<a id="day"> </a>  
- __Go for a hike.__ Setting out on a day hike is a great way to enjoy your surroundings and have some meaningful moments with your friends. 
- __Float down a river.__ Grab an inner tube and float along the river, if possible. Some locations even have bars and restaurants at various stops along your tube ride.  
- __Sign up for an obstacle course.__ Instead of an individual or singular event, try signing up for an obstacle course that puts you together in teams.
- __Try paintballing.__ If competition is your thing, split into teams for a few rounds of paintball outside.
- __Throw a backyard BBQ.__ Fire up the grill, get out the floaties (if you have access to a pool), and throw an awesome BBQ bachelor party. If you or your friends don’t have an outlet to host a BBQ party, try looking online to see if you can rent a house in your area for the day. 
- __Hit a food and wine festival.__ From Disney’s Epcot to the Catalina Wine Mixer, food and wine festivals are always a huge hit. Look up local food festivals nearby or in the surrounding cities. 
- __Take a brewery tour.__ Many cities around the country are priding themselves on their expansion of craft breweries. While places like Denver and Asheville have become popular, look around local breweries in your city and see what flights of beer or tours they’d be happy to offer you and your friends for a bachelor party. Jump in a party bus and let someone else take the wheel for the day while you sit back and drink your nerves away with friends.
- __Go on a food tour.__ You can live in a city or neighborhood for years and not know about all the best eats. Between not ordering right or avoiding the Yelp reviews, a food tour is a great way to appease the empty stomach and the tastebuds. 
- __Visit a vineyard.__ While you may need to head out of a city for this one, you may find that a beautiful vineyard is closer than you imagined. Find one within a few hours of you and enjoy a day full of wine tasting and cheese.
- __Go to a monster truck rally.__ Watch cars crush other cars—a truly unique experience!
- __Buy tickets to Nascar.__ There are so many motorways consistently hosting Nascar races. For your bachelor party, pick a track closest to you and see what driving fast really means. 
- __Take a white water rafting trip.__ Nothing says teamwork like sitting in a boat with your buddies as you’re scaling down various rapid levels. 
- __Rent ATVs.__ Ride your way through some rough terrain on ATVs.
- __Skeet shooting.__ Hunting's humane cousin, skeet shooting requires a level of precision and skill. Compete against your friends to see who has the highest levels of concentration and dexterity. 


- __Learn a new skill.__ Whether you try painting, cooking, or pottery throwing, find a local artisan who can teach your crew something new. 
- __Race go-karts.__ Go-karts are fun no matter what age you are. 
- __Go sky diving or bungee jumping.__ Embrace your fear of heights and try jumping out of an airplane before you say ‘I do’.
- __Visit a theme park.__ If you love rollercoasters, find the closest one and see how many times you and your friends can ride the most thrilling one. 
- __Try a tour or an Airbnb Experience.__ Look up local tours or experiences via booking platforms. It may surprise you what you learn that your home city or the city you’re staying in has to offer.
- __Rock climb.__ Whether on inside boulders or out in nature, there are plenty of mountains to be climbed by you and your guys. 
- __Go fishing.__ There’s a fish in your area to catch. A fishing trip is a great way to bond and pass the time with your friends for a memorable bachelor party. 
- __Learn to surf.__ While this activity pertains to those closest to the ocean, surfing is a great athletic activity that will count as your workout for the weekend. 
- __Golf.__ Golfing is a great way to enjoy hours of bonding while spending time outside with your friends. Bonus points if you and your friends have similar skill sets and can compete out on the course. 
- __Coed competition games.__ Speaking of competition, bring the edge up a notch by having your party compete in competitive games. This can be anything from beer Olympics to friendly pick-up basketball. 
- __Participate in a scavenger hunt.__ Divide your party into teams and compete in a local scavenger hunt game—or design your own.

Fill your bachelor party itinerary with these fun group activities that all your best men will enjoy.

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## Ideas For Bachelor Party Night Activities <a id="night"> </a>  
- __Stargaze.__ Whether you’re searching for a sky of stars atop a mountain or in a field of fireflies, nature can add a surreal lens to your bachelor activities. 
- __Go to a concert.__ If your favorite band or musician is coming to a venue close to you, invite your friends along for a themed bachelor party. Hire a driver for the night to get you there and back home safely. 
- __Eat a fancy dinner.__ Elevate the usual bachelor experience with a special evening at a luxe restaurant. 
- __Set up a bar crawl.__ Have your Best Man (or most responsible person in the group) plan a themed bar crawl for your bachelor night. 
- __Host a game night.__ From Monopoly to Code Names, if you love board games or video games, invite your friends over for a game night. 
- __Sing karaoke.__ Rent a room, order some drinks, and sing your heart out to your favorite hits. 
- __Escape the room.__ Host your bachelor party at an escape the room venue, where the mental skills of everyone attending will work together to help you all escape.
- __Try an interactive dinner.__ If you’ve never tried a murder mystery dinner or gone to Medieval Times, we highly recommend this entertaining meal style.
- __Go to a sporting event.__ There’s almost always a pro-sports game happening closeby—even better if you go see the groom’s favorite team. 
- __Hit the arcade or do laser tag.__ Barcades—bar and arcade combination locations are popping up in most major cities. Sip on drinks and play your favorite old-school video games or test those rusty laser tag skills.
- __Go bowling.__ Between drinking pitchers of beer and hitting strikes or spares, you and your friends are bound to have an amazing time at your bachelor party.

Finish each day with some nighttime fun that will keep the party going—if you have the energy. 

Just like that, you have a full bachelor party itinerary—no matter what kind of weekend you’re hoping to have with your crew.

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