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The 60th wedding anniversary is a big deal—we’re celebrating six decades of marriage. 

Traditionally, the 60th wedding anniversary is known as the Diamond Anniversary, a designation that came into vogue after 1897 when Queen Victoria marked her 60 years of reign with a diamond jubilee celebration. This sparked new appreciation for 60 years as a milestone, and today many companies and businesses celebrate their 60th anniversaries with diamond themed events. 

When it comes to marriage, diamonds are an especially appropriate symbol. Diamonds, after all, are the strongest material on earth, and a 60th wedding anniversary is a time to celebrate the strength of a marriage that has reached this milestone. 

So, how to celebrate a 60th wedding anniversary? Below are our top 60th wedding anniversary ideas!

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## Traditional Diamond Gifts

A diamond gift is always appreciated, especially if accompanied with a heartfelt message about the durability of your love for one another. If you’re looking for the perfect [wedding anniversary gift](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-anniversary-gift-ideas), consider these diamond options below:

__For Women:__ Gifts of necklaces, bracelets, and earrings can never go wrong. Make sure that you are buying something your wife doesn’t already have. You can also have fun with the theme of everlastingness—look for bracelets or necklaces designed in knots, for example, to signify unity and endurance. 

__For Men:__ Diamond watches, cufflinks, or rings make thoughtful gifts, or accessories such as a money clip will always work. 

While many gravitate towards traditional white diamonds, you can also look at raw diamonds, colored diamonds, or black diamonds to find a look that is a bit more unusual. Lab-grown diamonds are cheaper than natural diamonds and are often just as beautiful. There are also many brands that explicitly sell ethically-sourced diamonds (also known as conflict-free diamonds), which might add an extra layer of meaning to your gift. 

The significance of diamonds can also be interpreted creatively. You can present diamond-patterned ties, diamond-patterned tablecloths, or diamond-cut decanters as gifts. Some couples will buy diamond-embossed household items, such as flasks or lighters, to celebrate. Let the theme of diamonds inspire you.

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## Modern Ways to Celebrate

For many, diamond gifts don’t hit the right note, and today there are so many additional ways to celebrate this major milestone. Especially true at this stage in a marriage, a lot of people appreciate experiences over objects, because, by this point in life, many of us have accumulated all the things that we could want. Therefore, when thinking of planning your own celebration, or celebrating with a parent, grandparent, or loved one, think about gifts or experiences that are likely to deliver memorable moments (and not just languish in a back closet).

Some modern ways to celebrate a 60th wedding anniversary include: 

__Throw a Party:__ Some couples would love to celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary with a party. For extra fun, you can organize a party themed around the concept of sixty, such as a hippie-themed, 1960s party. There are many 60th wedding anniversary party ideas, so get creative with your party planning and make it memorable!

__Send Flowers:__ Flowers are a beautiful way to celebrate any occasion. To mark the 60th anniversary, you could buy an arrangement of sixty roses, or send an assortment of all-white flowers to evoke the theme of diamonds.

__Put Together a Photo Album:__ An especially meaningful tribute to the marriage would be a photo album that has a photograph from every year of the marriage. 

__Organize a Family Photoshoot:__ The 60th wedding anniversary is often a celebration for the whole family, and one way to recognize this moment is to hire a photographer and take professional family photographs. This is also a great way to gather family together for a reunion to celebrate.

__Plan a Day Trip:__ Organize a day trip to a nearby location that you’ve never visited before. If you’re unsure about where to go, consider looking for somewhere only within 60 miles of your home. This can be a beautiful park, an unusual landmark, or just a restaurant that you’ve always passed, yet never entered. Trying new experiences is a fun way to celebrate this stage in a marriage. 

__Buy Tickets to a Show:__ Tickets to a show are a great gift idea for anybody wishing to give the couple a memorable experience. Consider which theatre, opera, music, dance, or unusual entertainment options are available (such as Cirque du Soleil), and buy the best seats in the house! Of course, even if you want the show to be a surprise, make sure to clear the date with the couple in advance of buying any tickets. Also, be considerate of show length, comfort level of seating, and acoustics. An outdoor concert with poor speakers and floor seating is likely not the right event for a couple celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary.

__Relive the Wedding Day in Photographs:__ For grandchildren, in particular, a lovely way to celebrate the 60th anniversary is to set aside a day to go through your grandparent’s wedding album with them, and ask lots of questions about the guests, who was there, and how the day came together. You’ll learn so much family history, and likely hear a surprising story or two. 

__Arrange a Special Anniversary Message:__ Looking for the perfect gift to celebrate a loved one? A number of places will issue a special anniversary message to couples who have been married for 60 years. Catholic couples can request a special papal blessing from the Vatican, and UK citizens can request a message from the Queen. Many local governments also issue announcements for the 60th wedding anniversary, so see if one makes sense for you.

Now that you have a list of 60th anniversary ideas, it’s time to start planning. Whether you decide upon getting a special anniversary gift or you throw a party for the happy couple, there are many ways to acknowledge this special occasion. 


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60th Wedding Anniversary Ideas

### 45th Wedding Anniversary

Forty-five years and the love is still alive. You’ve got four and a half decades under your belt and that deserves taking a moment to pause and celebrate. 

The traditional theme for this particular milestone is sapphire. The blue gemstone symbolizes wisdom, faithfulness, and sincerity, and is said to bring gifts of joy, prosperity, inner peace, and beauty—all things required in a marriage that’s lasted as long as yours has. The modern theme happens to be the same, which means that this year is all about the blue hue. 

If you’re having trouble coming up with sweet and original 45th wedding anniversary party ideas, we’ve got a bunch of suggestions ahead. Some follow the traditional theme, while others are alternative ideas and experiences that we’re sure your loved one will appreciate. Keep reading to discover our favorite 45th wedding anniversary gift ideas.

### [Sapphire Watch](https://www.nixon.com/us/en/sentry-chrono/A386.html?dwvar_color=1922&dwvar_size=00&gclid=CjwKCAjwjqT5BRAPEiwAJlBuBdRTGRUvgZO0CRQsvpzVklJNSMoZWml00Y3C_N_oZOstvXWa4r-g9BoCO3IQAvD_BwE)
A color combination like gold and blue is unconventional and also really, really cool. The sapphire face will truly stand out amidst the other bland watches in your lineup. If you’re looking for 45th wedding anniversary gift ideas that are unique, yet classic, this watch will be the perfect gift. 

### [Hot Air Balloon Ride](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/cloud9_napa_valley_hot_air_balloon_ride_sf)
We’re sure you’ve crossed off plenty of things on your bucket list while being together, so why not keep the streak going and book a ride on a hot air balloon? You’ll lift off at dawn and float atop mountains and valleys; it’ll be an anniversary worth remembering.

### [A Personalized Bracelet](https://www.etsy.com/listing/202877494/handwriting-bracelet-signature-bracelet?ga_order=highest_reviews&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=handwriting+bracelet+rose+gold&ref=sc_gallery-1-2&plkey=44d4a7579850300c2135f5e0476f0e441c1c582c:202877494&pro=1&frs=1&col=1)
It’s easy to gift someone any old piece of jewelry, but in celebration of 45 years together, we suggest stepping it up a notch and adding a little personalization, such as a bracelet that you can engrave with a saying of your choice in your own handwriting. It’s a sentimental, unique touch.

### [Blue Kitchen Appliance](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/staub_oval_cocotte_darkblue)
Looking for a practical 45th anniversary gift? Your kitchen is likely in need of an upgrade at this point, so go for something fun and unexpected, such as a royal blue appliance. Dutch ovens are classics and can be passed down to your kids (or grandkids) for years to come.

### [An Adventurous Date Night](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/cloud9_ny_datenight_giftcard)
Have date nights completely fallen to the wayside into year 45? Well, that’s understandable. Start them back up with a gift that will do the planning for you. All you have to do is pick from 20+ experiences, which range from a dessert tour to a champagne brunch cruise to sightseeing. Hopefully you’ll enjoy the day so much that you’ll start making a habit out of it again.  

### [Drinking Glasses](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/crate-and-barrel-vance-cut-glass-double-old-fashioned-glass)
This anniversary definitely deserves a toast or two, and these old-fashioned drinking glasses are perfect for doing just that. Celebrate this milestone anniversary with these beautiful drinking glasses and use them for years to come. 

__Blue Irises__
We wouldn’t typically recommend flowers as an anniversary present (at least not as the only present) but 45 is special because, while it’s not official, many credit the blue iris as being the traditional flower for this particular year. Plus, we’re suckers for uniquely colored plants (naturally, of course). Irises also symbolize faith and hope, which we can all use more of. But, if you can’t get your hands on the delicate flower, delphiniums, hydrangeas, and hyacinths are other blue-hued options.

### [Wooden Wall Hanging](https://www.etsy.com/listing/838203911/45th-anniversary-gift-wooden-wall)
Here’s a gift that tracks how much time you’ve spent together by literally counting the moments you’ve shared. Pictures are great, but it’s also nice to see the amount of love and the number of hugs and laughs exchanged spelled out as a reminder.

### [Sapphire Earrings](https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/blue-sapphire-diamond-oval-stud-earrings-in-14k-white-gold-100-exclusive?ID=1053938&CategoryID=3376)
Add some uniquely colored bling to your lady’s collection with a pair of sapphire blue earrings. Thankfully, blue looks great next to any hue. 

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### Trip to London
Fun fact: The Royal Family has a thing for sapphires. You might remember Princess Diana’s stunning sapphire engagement ring, which is now worn by Kate Middleton. Queen Elizabeth II was also given a matching sapphire and diamond set by her father King George VI for her wedding, which was just the start of her impressive jewelry collection. Additionally, she was the first British monarch to have a sapphire jubilee. 

Which is why a trip to London would be a perfect and royally-fitting 45th anniversary getaway. You can visit the Tower of London to see the Queen’s array of jewels up close, take a stroll through Hyde Park, and even ride the London Eye. It’s the perfect trip for any anglophiles or even just someone who enjoys looking at pretty things. 

### [Blue Weighted Blanket](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/gravity_large_weighted_blanket_navy)
This might not be the most romantic gift of the bunch, but practical can be just as sweet as sentimental. We like this particular blanket because it's weighted, which means that it feels like a warm hug when you pull it on. The weight also helps to restore the nervous system and is said to aid in achieving a faster and deeper sleep. And, of course, it’s the perfect size for two so you can rest soundly together.


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A milestone moment, the 15th wedding anniversary is symbolized traditionally with crystal, denoting a crystal clear love between the couple. The modern iteration is a watch, honoring the time you’ve spent together and all that you have to look forward to. Roses are the floral tribute, while red is the color for the occasion and a red ruby is the gem of choice. 

Clearly this is one of the easiest anniversaries to find the perfect gift. But if you’re in need of 15th anniversary ideas, our team at Zola can help. Below are some of our favorite 15th wedding anniversary ideas that are both unique and traditional. 

### Keep It Cool With Crystal

Crystal glassware, engraved pint glasses, crystal decanters, or other barware add an extra shine to the minibar where you’ve both built a considerable lineup of favored libations over time. 

Consider a well-designed crystal glass 3D family photo for the mantle or by the fireplace to mark your 15th wedding anniversary with all the new members and memories over the years.

For the home, crystal glass centerpieces, serving platters, or bookends bring in some extra oomph and make for great conversation starters at your next party. Place them around your home and common spaces to enjoy every day. 

Pair the gift with crystal ring holders, candlesticks, or table lamps for both to enjoy in the bedroom, an area that’s oftentimes left out of gifting considerations. 

Make a statement with a large crystal chandelier in the heart of your home or soothing salt lamps to invite health and wellness into your lives. Whichever crystal gift you choose, we’re sure this gift idea will be a complete success with your husband or wife.

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### Revel in the Roses

Fifteen red roses for the special occasion would be perfect. but let’s go the extra mile and make it 15 bouquets of red roses delivered throughout the day for those die-hard romantics. 

If you live near rose gardens or botanical gardens where roses are in season, you now have a venue for a special evening organized for you both to celebrate your 15th wedding anniversary.

Fill up your home with rose-scented candles, essential oils, and even a custom blend unique rose fragrance from the local perfumery. Remember rose petals for the bathtub, and even leading all the way up to the cozy setting with Champagne flutes and music to boot.

Red rose petals also feature as a surprise ingredient in celebratory dishes. Indulge in rose-flavored ice cream and liqueur, lemonade, and jello shots for fun dessert ideas.  

Find that restaurant near home that’s named after roses. For a play on words, take your spouse to the roses instead of bringing it all home to them. 

### Go Modern With Watches

Stylish wrist pieces with crystals or rose red elements is one of our favorite 15-year anniversary celebration ideas. Don’t forget to make a point to engrave your initials on there to remember the special occasion. 

If your spouse is a collector, then a limited edition or vintage creation is a welcome addition to the cherished ever-growing collection, too.

Even better, refurbish a hand-me-down piece from a parent or grandparent. There’s nothing like holding on to a little piece of family history in these moments. Add a little piece of you with an embellishment, monogram, or another subtle touch.

For those with their pulse on the latest trends, a high-tech smart watch with streamlined connectivity to all devices around the home is a thoughtful token of your love.

### Paint the Town Red

A red ruby jewelry collection in an intricate design beautifully wrapped in a bejeweled keepsake box will be a prized possession and the talk of the town.

Pack a basket to get your spouse red-y for a surprise picnic–you’ll need red wine, raspberries, red apples, cherry tomatoes, and a red blanket. 

For a gift that really wows, there’s nothing like a red Porsche or Mercedes waiting outside to take you to your adventure. Rent out a luxury ride for your 15th wedding anniversary and drive around in style. 

Turn heads when you indulge with a shimmering red dress or suave red dinner jacket to show everyone you’re celebrating a big day in your lives.

Let the color of love dictate the day. Rent out a red barn, deck it up with the couples’ favorite things and people, and host a grand party everyone will remember.

No matter what route you choose to spotlight this special day in your lives, remember to keep the good times rolling and fond memories flowing. On your 15th wedding anniversary, plan for another 15 years of wedded bliss and growing your home and hearth with your abundant love for each other.

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Congratulations are in order—you’re about to celebrate your first wedding anniversary. Through thick and thin, better and worse, you’ve made it to the first of many milestones. Part of celebrating accordingly, of course, is picking the perfect gift for your partner. Sometimes this is easier said than done, especially if you’re sticking with traditional anniversary gift types. The first anniversary is the paper anniversary. Don’t worry–your gifts don’t need to feel drab or outdated. Here are some updated gift ideas for your first wedding anniversary.

## Why Paper?
It’s true: Paper isn’t exactly the sexiest sounding anniversary gift. Don’t count it out yet, though. Paper is symbolic of starting a new blank slate or chapter together. In that way, it represents the newness of your marriage. Delicate and a bit fragile, paper also symbolizes the earliness of your union—it will only continue to grow stronger with time. 

If you’re turned off by the antiquity of this tradition or you’re just having a hard time coming up with gifts that aren’t of the message in a bottle variety, read on. 
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## Refillable Notebook
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It may not seem like much, but a high-quality refillable notebook is a wonderful gift—especially if your spouse has a way with words. It’s perfect for everyday note-taking, business tracking, studying, journaling, or just making grocery lists. If your partner is a writer or just prefers to handwrite reminders, this is their ideal companion. Upgrade it with a leather style that they can continue to fill for years to come. Write a heartfelt note on the first page, reflecting on how much you’ve enjoyed your initial year of wedded bliss.

__Shop:__ [Leather Refillable Notebook](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/graphicimage_leather_refillable_notebook_black), $145

## Gift Card 
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Loophole! A gift card for tickets definitely fits into the paper anniversary theme. Gift cards are controversial in the gifting space—we get it. It doesn’t feel as personal as maybe a physical gift. Feel free to wash out that tired notion, though. Whether your spouse is a major sports fan, a movie addict, or a Broadway connoisseur, the gift of tickets will never not be cool to them. Plus, it’s an experience that takes you both out of the house for a fun out-of-the-box date—that’s the real gift.  

__Shop:__ [Stubhub Gift Card](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/stubhub_giftcard_200), $200

## Art Print
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Creative types can fulfill the paper tradition with a standout art print. A beautiful piece of wall art can serve as not only decoration but a reminder of something within your relationship. Find a piece that harkens back to the place you met, reminds you of your first vacation together, or is a copy of a piece from your favorite museum. Select something wall-worthy that reflects your partner, as well as your taste as a couple. Hang it in an area you both pass a lot or spend ample time in. It will serve as a constant reminder of the adventures to come. 

__Shop:__ [Berit Art Print](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/ashleyfurniture_berit_art_print), $203


## Photo Prints
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A classic for a reason, printed photos serve as a wonderful way to memoralize your big day. If you already have a lot of wedding photo prints, run through your selects again and choose ones that are a little less refined. Look for photos that feel most representative of the best moments of the day—laughing, dancing, crying, shot taking, what have you! 

Pick a handful to frame and place them around your home as a sort of anniversary scavenger hunt. Your partner may find some immediately but others may continue to surprise him or her for days to come. It’s a wedding paper trail if you will.

__Shop:__ [Everyday Prints](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/artifactuprising_square_print_25), $25

## Wedding Photo Book
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If individual photos aren’t your thing (or you already have plenty around your home), revisit the big day with a gorgeous hardcover photo book. Have your favorite wedding images (or other pictures from your relationship) printed in the style of a quality coffee table book. Write a sweet or funny message in the front cover to commemorate the occasion. Leave it out, stacked artfully in your living space for yourselves—and your guests—to marvel at regularly.  

__Shop:__ [Hardcover Wedding Photo Book](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/artifactuprising_hardcover_photobook), $60-$180

## Personalized Calendar
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A personalized calendar is a great first-year gift for two reasons. One, it’s made of (you guessed it) paper. Given some more thought, though, it’s also a symbol of time and looks forward to your next year as a married couple. Choose a customizable calendar and fill the months with photos of you and your spouse. These could be pulled straight from your wedding day, but if you want to get extra sentimental, choose a photo from each month of your first year of marriage. That way, as this next year begins, you can fondly look back at the one before.

If this feels a little high school sweetheart to you, upgrade the mentality. Purchase a calendar with a gorgeous leather cover or a high-quality metal easel. It will feel and look more valuable than the paper relics of your teens.

__Shop:__ [Brass Easel Calendar](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/artifactuprising_brass_easel_calendar), $60

## Custom Photo Framing
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Nothing says ‘settled in’ like a sophisticated gallery wall. To celebrate one year married, have your favorite photos of you and your spouse custom printed and framed. These days, online services make it incredibly easy to create and purchase professional prints. Simply upload your photos, select your framing style, and order. Soon enough, your photographs will be at your door and ready to hang, framed to perfection. Place them above your sofa, down a long hallway, along a staircase, or in the master bedroom for a stunning display.

__Shop:__ [Triptych Framing](https://www.zola.com/shop/product/framebridge_gift_card_triptych), $450

Regardless of what you choose, your spouse will greatly appreciate the thought you put into their gift. Don’t let the paper theme get you down. As you can see, it’s an easy material to make into a valuable gift that your partner will love. 


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Vow renewals often come with many questions...and when you incorporate faith into the mix, you’re served a whole set of new ones. When is a wedding vow renewal appropriate? What format should it be done in? Does the ceremony need to be in a place of worship? Are you supposed to send [vow renewal invitations](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-renewal-invitations)?

Since Catholic weddings are much more common than Catholic vow renewals, there’s naturally going to be more guidance available to couples getting married than those renewing their wedding vows. If you want your vow renewal ceremony to be closely linked with your Catholic faith, then there are some additional steps and questions to ask to make sure the ceremony is aligned with the church.

![How to Plan a Catholic Vow Renewal | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1xvoIWOpJcLUwcaYJXhUhD/3a6b62a0ad923bd097012057ce8bce1c/inline_unsplash.jpg)
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### Focus on What Matters Most to You
Just like any other vow renewal or marriage-related celebration, Catholic vow renewals can come in many different forms. If what’s most important to you is having your union validated by the church, then make sure you take all the proper steps and gather insight from advisors within the organization on how to do so. However, if you would like to incorporate parts of your faith without going through all of the proper processes, that’s okay, too. Just make sure you have a firm idea of where you stand as a couple before making any big decisions or financial commitments (like booking a [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues)).

### Consult With a Priest or Pastor
If you want the vow renewal ceremony to be approved by the church, it’s extremely important to discuss the necessities and logistics with a Catholic priest or someone who can serve as your advisor. They’re not only helpful for providing spiritual guidance, but they’re also the ones who make sure that the church can bless your current union. In some cases, they may also be the ones “officiating” the vow renewal ceremony, depending on the route you choose to take.

### Remember: A Vow renewal Is Not the Same as a Convalidation Ceremony
In the Catholic faith, a convalidation ceremony is a way of recognizing an otherwise legal marriage that was performed without Catholic oversight. Couples who married a partner of another faith, used a non-denominational officiant, or simply didn’t go through the proper process to have their marriage approved by the church (i.e. elopements) often consider convalidation ceremonies to legitimize their union.

Nonetheless, a vow renewal can (and sometimes, must) take the form of a convalidation ceremony or require one before the vow renewal can take place. If you and your partner eloped or fit any of the other descriptions above, your marriage may not formally be recognized by the Catholic Church until a convalidation ceremony takes place.

![How to Plan a Catholic Vow Renewal | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2v86krBQroRoHWhECXusGt/12a547a2eb99f38eb29de27b0b101c29/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)
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### Know That There May Be Some Hurdles if Your Partner Isn’t Catholic
As mentioned above, even if you and your partner are legally married, there may be some stipulations that mean your union isn’t yet recognized by the Catholic Church. This isn’t a reason to fret, though—it just might mean taking a few extra steps to have your marriage validated by the church first.

If your partner is of another faith or denomination, it’s best to talk with a Catholic priest about your diocese’s policy on convalidation of marriage for interchurch couples. Even if you decide convalidation isn’t for you, there are many other ways you can incorporate your faith into the ceremony (or wedding vows themselves).

### Keep Tradition in Mind, But Make It Your Own
The church may be the most obvious place to hold a Catholic vow renewal, but that doesn’t mean your backyard is out of the question for your vow renewal ceremony. And it's not uncommon for faith-based vow renewals to take place on a big anniversary, but that doesn’t mean you’re forced to wait 20 years to reaffirm your commitment to one another. While tradition may be important, what’s most important is that you plan a ceremony that feels most authentic to you as a couple.

This is a tricky one if your main priority is to validate your marriage through the church. However, if you’re the couple that’s looking to simply incorporate Catholic elements, there are plenty of other ways to acknowledge your faith. Consider having your pastor read a scripture that really resonates with you or including a cross as a backdrop to your renewal wedding ceremony. You can even find ways to include mentions of your faith in your vows themselves. Most importantly: Do what you feel most aligns with you and your beliefs.


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As special as your wedding celebration was, your vow renewal ceremony is an equally memorable occasion. And whether you choose to spend it solely with your partner, with some close family members. or with a larger group of friends, there are several ways to decorate the venue to make this a moment you will always remember. Here’s how to make it an outstanding affair you’ll always hold close to your heart.

### Focus on Color
Theme your entire vow renewal ceremony with colors that hold special meaning for you and your spouse. A valentine-themed party warrants red flowers and perfumed candles, while a royal theme could include purple and gold embellishments. 

### Mark It With Visuals
Use photographs from your wedding day to decorate your home, garden or other special venue. You can affix each special snapshot to streamers hanging along windows, or place them in photo books for guests to sign their wishes.  

### Light It Up
Use accent lights and LED fairy lights to create focal points that lead guests to special areas like your vow renewal spot, the guest book, the dance floor, and the food and drink stations. 

### Invite Nature In

![Ideas For Vow Renewal Decorations | Zola](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3ccRP1tW7wQneoVdiwtMqq/95763c944d7aed5f73d9250c02b57337/Inline_Chensley_Photography.png)
*Photo Credit //* Chensley Photography

Use your surroundings as inspiration to decorate the space. Consider buckets of wildflowers at your ceremony, seasonal fruits and flowers in centerpieces, and a few potted plants at the entryway to our venue. 

### Focus on Food
Your celebration cake and other dessert items, like party cupcakes, cookies, or chocolate carousels, can also serve as décor to enhance the ambiance and serve as props for the day’s special photos. 

### Beach Vibes Aplenty
For an oceanside vow renewal ceremony, set the mood by lighting up your venue with tiki torches. Chinese lanterns can also add extra color and character to the theme, plus make for great photos, too. 

### Photo Opps A-Flowing
When you plan a seaside vow renewal, there’s no shortage of beautiful backdrops. But consider a sand and seashells photo frame as a photo booth idea. Alternatively, you can try a wreath of twigs and shells. 

### Surprise Elements
Chocolates shaped like shells, salt and pepper shakers in the shape of sea life, or votive candles that symbolize the life celebrated in this moment are splendid decor pieces to leave on each table. 

### Bring It Inland
For a venue with a lake or river backdrop, choose wooden chairs and tables for your party with the colors of the woods as inspiration for table names. 

### Cruise With Your Crew
Nautical-themed decor on an all-inclusive cruise can feature navy blue and white hues with sailor knot ropes, fish net table runners, anchor shaped centerpieces, and little sailboat favors as keepsakes. 

### Head to the Vineyards
The romantic feel of a wine-centric vow renewal celebration can’t be beat. On tables, bring together wine bottles and fresh fruit surrounded by chocolate, cheese, and charcuterie boards. And don’t forget the rustic charm of wooden barrels and floral arches.

### Find a Historic Mansion 
Build on the history of a local heritage venue. Have fun with all the elements, such as antique furniture to match that era, porcelain dinnerware for a themed meal, and elegant floral arrangements aligned with the look and feel of the property. 

### Plan a Destination Getaway
Whether you choose a working ranch, an old castle, a spa and resort, or the city courthouse, you can incorporate local wedding decor to your venue. Bring a few personal keepsakes to tie everything together and share the milestone moment with everyone. 

### Recreate Your Wedding Day
For many, the only way to renew their vows is to recreate the special moment and this time with new family members and friends in tow. Add a few elements from the years that have passed by to the existing decor from your wedding day. 

Your vow renewal ceremony is a celebration of your life with your spouse. Make it unique in your own way to symbolize all that you have experienced together and everything you look forward to as a couple. While it may not be to the extravagant scale of your wedding itself, your vow renewal ceremony is the perfect way to reminisce about the special bond you both share that only grows stronger with time. 


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Your guide to celebrating wedding anniversaries! From anniversary gifts by year to celebrating with a vow renewal ceremony, find all the advice and inspiration you need to make every anniversary super special.

When it comes to simple vow renewal ideas, few couples know where to start. There are endless resources out there for those planning their wedding, but vow renewals haven’t yet received the same level of recognition.

No matter the location, reason for celebrating, or size of the soiree, there are many ways you can acknowledge this monumental moment in your marriage without being overly intricate. Below, find nine simple vow renewal ideas or jump straight to the section you’re most inspired by:

1. [Have a Ceremony at Home](#have-a-ceremony-at-home)
2. [Reread Your Original Vows](#reread-your-original-vows)
3. [Celebrate With Your Children](#celebrate-with-your-children)
4. [Have a Potluck](#have-a-potluck)
5. [Go Simple With Attire](#go-simple-with-attire)
6. [Rededicate Your Rings](#rededicate-your-rings)
7. [Pick a Place With Meaning to Both of You](#pick-a-place-with-meaning-to-both-of-you)
8. [Choose Your Invited Wisely](#choose-your-invited-wisely)
9. [Do a Destination Vow Renewal](#do-a-destination-vow-renewal)

## 9 Simple Vow Renewal Ideas
Here is a list of simple, but special vow renewal ideas you can incorporate into your ceremony. 

### 1. Have a Ceremony at Home <div id="have-a-ceremony-at-home"></div>
One of the simplest ways to celebrate your renewed love for one another is by holding a ceremony at home (also occasionally called an “at-home elopement”). Not only is it an intimate place to celebrate with your closest friends and family, but it’s also a great way to acknowledge the life you’ve built together as a couple. If you’ve got room for all your loved ones and a bit of green space for the vows ceremony, your home might be the perfect venue.

### 2. Reread Your Original Vows <div id="reread-your-original-vows"></div>
Don’t think that rereading your old [wedding vows]( https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-vows) is simply a way of avoiding writing new ones. Vows—like marriage—are meant to be a lifelong effort and commitment. By rereading your vows, you’re sending the message that you’re willing to make the same promises you made years ago, even if circumstances have changed. Is there anything more romantic than that? It also creates an inevitably sweet, sentimental moment that might trigger some tears.

### 3. Celebrate With Your Children <div id="celebrate-with-your-children"></div>
If the years between your wedding and vow renewal resulted in some little ones, then go ahead and find ways to include them in the big day. Maybe you mention them in the ceremony reading or let them serve as “hosts” for the event. You can even let one of your children perform as a makeshift officiant for an additional dose of charm. There are no rules, so have fun with it. 

### 4. Have a Potluck <div id="have-a-potluck"></div>
If you had an expensive wedding, no need to host a pricey vow renewal ceremony. Simply ask your friends and family to bring a favorite dish of theirs, and you can supply the beverages or desserts. This works especially well for at-home ceremonies and those in public spaces, like national parks or beaches. It might take a little bit of coordinating to make sure there’s something for everyone to eat, but it works for more casual celebrations and lets your guests feel like they contributed in some way.

### 5. Go Simple With Attire <div id="go-simple-with-attire"></div>
No need to buy an extravagant gown or three-piece suit the second time around. Brides shouldn’t even feel the need to wear white if it doesn’t fit their style. Just go for something simple and elegant that works with your personalities, as well as the space you’re celebrating in. If you’re looking for something more formal, consider taking your wedding-day attire for a spin. Not only does it save some money, but it’s also a great way to honor your original wedding day.

![Simple Vow Renewal Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1OHGj4DSxLbi6o3uxoEmYs/561bae65b5648a7440e9dc87e60dbaa2/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)
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### 6. Rededicate Your Rings <div id="rededicate-your-rings"></div>
Though ring exchanges aren’t required for a vow renewal ceremony, many couples choose to do something special with them to symbolize the next phase of their lives together. This can mean anything from having them blessed to getting them engraved with a sweet phrase or your vow renewal date. If you want to go all out, you can even purchase new rings to commemorate the occasion. (After all, if you’ve been married for a decade or more, it’s likely your tastes have changed.)

### 7. Pick a Place With Meaning to Both of You <div id="pick-a-place-with-meaning-to-both-of-you"></div>
![Simple Vow Renewal Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2t1VuCDK7Rsi7OlBWnqb2Z/807a6dda70892cb51175425500b2281a/inline_unsplash.jpg)
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Though couples are getting more and more creative with [wedding venues](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues), there are even fewer expectations when it comes to vow renewals. Maybe the restaurant where you got engaged has a great event space or your favorite coffee shop has an amazing underground roastery with lots of space. If you want to take a walk down memory lane, you could even choose to renew your vows at the original venue where you got married.

### 8. Choose Your Invited Wisely <div id="choose-your-invited-wisely"></div>
As beautiful as print invitations are, they may not be right for a casual occasion. Consider opting for electronic invitations or even a simple email announcement that directs recipients toward a vow renewal website. You’re not only reducing the risk of invitations getting lost in the mail, but you’re also simultaneously keeping costs down. 

With the abundance of options available these days it’s easy to make your digital invites feel both polished and personal. If you plan on going all out for your wedding renewal, choose [wedding invitations](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/invitations/shop) that are fit for the occasion. Remember,it’s up to the two of you as a couple to decide how you’ll want to celebrate this special day. 

### 9. Do a Destination Vow Renewal <div id="do-a-destination-vow-renewal"></div>
Always secretly dreamt of eloping despite having a large, traditional wedding? In that case, a destination vow renewal is a no-brainer. This could be anything from hosting an intimate ceremony on a beach in Tulum, Mexico to eloping on a sailboat in the South Pacific. Just note that if you’re planning a vow renewal in the near future, we highly suggest staying up-to-date on travel restrictions and observing the recommendations made by both the World Health Organization (WHO) and Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Now that you know our top ideas for renewing marriage vows, it’s time to choose the perfect event for your special day. As long as love is the center of the event, we are sure you’ll have a beautiful and memorable vow renewal ceremony.


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The wedding might be over, but anniversaries are a significant [milestone](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/diy-photo-booth) in a couple’s relationship that deserve to be celebrated. With all the ups and downs life can bring, reaching another year of marriage is no small feat, which makes sending anniversary wishes that much more special. 

Traditionally, there’s no [etiquette](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/guest-at-wedding) rule requiring you to send anniversary wishes to another couple. This doesn’t apply to your own relationship, though—spouses should definitely acknowledge the special day! That said, if you’re looking to wish someone a happy anniversary but are unsure of how to put your wishes into words, our anniversary quotes offer plenty of ideas to get you started. 

Whether you’re writing to your own partner or celebrating close friends or parents, we’ve included something for everyone. (You might also consider an [anniversary gift](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/wedding-anniversary-gift-ideas) while you’re at it!)

__Table of Contents__
- <a href="#include">What to Include in an Anniversary Message</a>
- <a href="#simple">Simple Happy Anniversary Quotes</a>
- <a href="#insta">Anniversary Quotes for Instagram Captions</a>
- <a href="#thoughtful">Thoughtful Anniversary Quotes</a>
- <a href="#romantic">Romantic Anniversary Quotes</a>
- <a href="#funny">Funny Anniversary Quotes</a>
- <a href="#one">One-Year Anniversary Quotes</a>
- <a href="#friends">Anniversary Quotes for Friends</a>
- <a href="#parents">Anniversary Quotes for Parents</a>

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## What to Include in an Anniversary Message
If you’re scratching your head for [what to write](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/what-to-write-in-a-wedding-card) in your anniversary message, don’t fear! Your message doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are some helpful places to get started when deciding on what to include in your anniversary message—you’ll find writing your heartfelt note isn’t so hard! 

- Make a toast
- Share a memory
- Offer words of encouragement
- Celebrate the milestone 
- Call out the beauty of a lasting relationship 
- Reflect on your love for your partner 

![the-best-anniversary-quotes-qualities](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/5SKxJMuHNoqTGXRscBsLZF/e474dd9224a0413817840a59a1a92cca/the-best-anniversary-quotes-qualities.png)
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## Simple Happy Anniversary Quotes 
You can say a lot with not many words—a simple “Happy Anniversary” paired with one of the anniversary quotes below is all you need for a heartwarming message. Use the following quotes for inspiration if you’re celebrating your own anniversary, or skip below to find quotes for friends and loved ones. 

1. You make celebrating our love feel easy. Happy anniversary! 
2. Today, tomorrow, and always—our love never ends. Happy anniversary!
3. Cheers to another year with my better half. 
4. Time truly flies when I’m with you. Happy anniversary! 
5. Cheers to another 365 days together and the many more to come!
6. Life with you just makes sense—here’s to another year together. 
7. Thanks for being the best partner I could’ve asked for. Happy anniversary!
8. Another year together and I’m still finding new things I love about you.
9. Choosing you was the best decision I ever made. 
10. Loved you last year, loved you yesterday, love you still and always will. 
11. Our love story is my favorite. Happy anniversary to us! 
12. Happy anniversary to my person—how did I get so lucky? 
13. Today reminds me of why I fell in love with you, and my love has only grown. Happy anniversary today and always.
14. I’m grateful for our love every day, but especially today. Happy anniversary!
15. All of me loves all of you. Happy anniversary to my favorite person! 
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## Anniversary Quotes for Instagram Captions
Your anniversary is a significant milestone, so it makes sense you’d want to share a thoughtful post on social media commemorating the occasion. If you’re looking to celebrate your love on the ‘gram, use the list below to help you find the perfect caption. 

16. A year later and you still give me butterflies. #1yearanniversary
17. 525,600 minutes as a married couple. #happyanniversary
18. One year down, a lifetime to go. #happyweddinganniversary
19. Ready for another trip around the sun? #1yearanniversary
20. Life with you just keeps getting better—swipe for a surprise! #anniversarypresent
21. 365 days of smiles, laughs, and reminders to take the trash out. #loveyouforever 

![anniversary-quote-shania-twain](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/8H8fPNI6Fj1IRYd3MDpO5/1262c47cb2f42910cd6ba0c87f12ce22/anniversary-quote-shania-twain.png)

22. “You’re still the one I run to, the one that I belong to. You’re still the one I want for life.” —Shania Twain, “You’re Still the One”
23. I said yes to a life with you. 
24. I can’t wait to grow old with you. 
25. “When I look at you, I can feel it. I look at you, and I’m home.” —Dory, “Finding Nemo”
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## Thoughtful Anniversary Quotes
Sometimes, sharing from the heart is tough. Use these quotes to help put your feelings into words. 

26. Life with you just keeps on getting better. 
27. You’ll never stop being my happy place. 
28. Sleeping by your side means endless sweet dreams. 
29. Yesterday,today and always, I still choose you! 
30. I am yours, and you are mine. 
31. Your love truly makes life sweeter. 
32. I can’t imagine a single day without you by my side. 
33. My heart still skips a beat when I look at you. 
34. Rain or shine, you’ll always be mine. 
35. The love I hold for you continues to grow, today and always. 
36. To the one who stole my heart, thank you for loving me so well. 
37. Our love is a rare gift that I’ll never let go of. 
38. The love we share is magnetic, and you make life pure magic. 
39. Cheers to another year with my best friend and better half.
40. Saying yes to you was the smartest move I ever made. 
41. You’re more beautiful to me with each passing year, and this year is no exception.
42. I’m convinced I won the lottery with you.
43. I didn’t think I could love you more than I already do, but this special day has proved me wrong. 
44. In a sea of people, I have eyes only for you. 
45. Happy anniversary to a beautiful person who has given me the most beautiful life.
46. Forever isn’t long enough with you. 
47. With you by my side, life could never get better. 
48. You’ve given me so many reasons to smile this past year, but my smile couldn’t be any bigger on this special day.  
49. Another year together and I still get butterflies when I look at you. 
50. You make my life better in every way. Thanks for choosing me today and every day. 
51. You’re the only one I want to wake up next to, day after day, year after year. 
52. Happy anniversary to my soulmate—how did I get so lucky? 
53. Today our relationship is one year older, and the depth of our love just keeps growing deeper. 
54. I thought I knew what true love was until I met you. 
55. My only regret is that I can’t go back in time so I could’ve met you sooner. Happy anniversary to my one true love. 
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## Romantic Anniversary Quotes
If you consider yourself a hopeless romantic, these quotes are for you. 

56. Of all the love stories that exist, ours will always be my favorite.
57. Words can’t express my unending love for you, especially on a day like today. 
58. “So how does it happen, great love? Nobody knows…but what I can tell you is that it happens in the blink of an eye. One moment you’re enjoying your life, and the next you’re wondering how you ever lived without them.” —Hitch, “Hitch”
59. “I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.” —Arwen, “Lord of the Rings”
60. “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul, that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.” —Noah, “The Notebook”
61. Happy anniversary to the only person in the world that I want beside me every day and every night for the rest of my life.
62. “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.” —A. A. Milne, “Winnie the Pooh”

![anniversary-quote-winnie-the-pooh](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/6plI9QETkNu0ijaR0ZSJyL/a43385dbb4ec192de9df0796843a6839/anniversary-quote-winnie-the-pooh.png)

63. When a love is true, there is no ending. I hope we get to celebrate for many years to come. Happy anniversary!
64. I believe everything happens for a reason because it led me to you. I love you, happy anniversary.
65. From sending you good night texts to wishing you good morning, everything seems sweeter since I met you. Happy anniversary.
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## Funny Anniversary Quotes
If some light wit and humor is more your style, these quotes are guaranteed to make your partner crack a smile. 

66. I sometimes wonder how you put up with me, but then I remember that I put up with you too, so we’ll call it even. 
67. Since we first met, I’ve only wanted the best for you—which is obviously me!
68. A wedding band is the smallest handcuff ever made—lucky for me, I’ve got a pretty great cellmate. I love you!
69. If two people love each other, nothing is impossible. Except for deciding where to eat. We still haven't figured that one out yet. 
70. Happy anniversary to my special someone—I look forward to annoying you for the rest of your life!
71. I love you more than anything, even my favorite pasta—just please don’t make me prove it. Happy anniversary!
72. Happy anniversary, babe. No refunds! 
73. I’m amazed at how long we’ve tolerated each other. Cheers to another year! 
74. Our relationship has taught me so much—like that 99% of being married is just yelling “WHAT?” from across the house. 
75. Holy crap. We’re still married? You’re still mine? In that case, happy anniversary!
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## One-Year Anniversary Quotes
Celebrating your first anniversary calls for something unique and special. These quotes can help you commemorate the occasion. 

76. One year down, our entire lives to go. 
77. “If I had only one anniversary to celebrate, I would want it with you.” —Byron Pulsifer
78. This day is beyond special, and the first of many more to come. 
79. 365 days later and I’m still head over heels for you!
80. Only one year in and you’re making this whole marriage thing seem easy. I love you!
81. I’ve learned love is not about how many days, months, or years we’ve been together—it’s about how much we love each other every single day. 
82. Better than I was, more than I am. And all this happened by taking your hand.
83. "All that you are is all that I'll ever need." —Ed Sheeran, “Tenerife Sea”
84. “How sweet it is to be loved by you.” —Marvin Gaye, “How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You)”

![anniversary-quote-how-sweet-it-is](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2cksKc3GjDWLl7xdciFJA9/4a6542fc7b33185d444adcb255c12014/anniversary-quote-how-sweet-it-is.png)

85. One year ago today, our souls became one. We might not be [newlyweds](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/newlywed-game-questions) anymore, but our love is stronger than ever. 
86. Our first year of love has taught me more than I thought possible about what true love really is. Happy anniversary to my person!
87. Today marks the first milestone of countless moments that are still to be had. Cheers to our first anniversary! 
88. Our first year together is in the books, and all I can hope for is 99 more. I love you!
89. Our hearts united one year ago on this beautiful day, and I know our love will only grow deeper with time. Happy first anniversary!
90. I’d be lying if I said this past year wasn’t one of the best of my life. You’re my everything, today and forever!
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## Anniversary Quotes for Friends
Wishing your friends a happy anniversary is a thoughtful gesture that you can keep fairly laid-back. These quotes are some of our favorites! 

91. Happy anniversary to my favorite lovebirds! 
92. You two are proof that true love really does exist. 
93. Happy anniversary to our favorite couple!
94. This might go without saying, but you two were made for each other. Happy anniversary!
95. Sending our love and best wishes to the happy couple. Happy anniversary!
96. The best thing to hold onto in life is each other, and you two do it beautifully.
97. Wishing you both a long and wonderful life together on this special day!
98. Cheers to you two and your endless love story. I can’t wait to see your relationship continue to grow.
99. Thank you for being an example of true love and commitment. Happy anniversary!
100. Nobody’s perfect, but together, you two are pretty close. 
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## Anniversary Quotes for Parents
After years of navigating the ups and downs of marriage, parents are often a beautiful example of lasting love. Sending them thoughtful anniversary wishes won’t go unnoticed—use these quotes to write the perfect note! 

101. Happy anniversary to the parents who never stop inspiring me. Best wishes on this special day!
102. The only thing better than having you for parents is my children having you for grandparents. Happy anniversary, Mom and Dad! 
103. Watching you two grow closer with each passing year is more of a gift than you realize. Happy anniversary!
104. Congratulations on another year of togetherness. You two melt my heart!
105. Happy anniversary to my dear parents, who have shown us kids that “happily ever after” really can come true. 
106. All these years together and you two still represent what a loving, blissful marriage looks like. I love you, happy anniversary!
107. The bond you share never fails to remind me of the power of true love. Happy anniversary!
108. May your love overflow today as much as it did when you two first met. Happy anniversary! 
109. Thank you for never giving up on each other through all of life’s challenges. I’m sure us kids had nothing to do with those challenges. Happy anniversary!
110. “You are the parents that all kids hope to have, you are the couple that all lovers hope to be, and you both are the pillars of support that every family wishes it had. Happy anniversary to the best parents ever.” —Anonymous

Whether you’re wishing your closest friends a happy anniversary or celebrating your own with your partner, a thoughtful message can go a long way. Funny and witty or romantic and serious, there’s no wrong answer for the message you choose, so long as it comes from the heart. Cheers to love! 


110 Happy Anniversary Quotes to Express Your Love

How does one celebrate 20 grand years of marriage? Seems like a distant feat when you first wed, but then it comes along and you wonder where the years went. Your 20th wedding anniversary is the time to celebrate all the love and dedication to each other that has seen you both through the ebbs and flows of life together. 

Traditionally this anniversary is symbolized by gifts of porcelain or china, which signifies beauty and strength, but the modern marker for two decades of marriage is platinum—equally elegant and enduring. The associated colors for the occasion are emerald green and white, making the recommended gemstone—what else?—an emerald. 

There are so many great ideas for presents and experiences related to these themes, so let’s take a look at a few 20th wedding anniversary ideas to make this a memorable moment. 

### Keep It Traditional

Go totally traditional with a themed tea set for those late afternoon teas you’ll both enjoy in each other’s company or even a full-fledged dinner set for formal family dinners and other grand parties at home. 

Speaking of home, china vases and picture frames, antique porcelain gift boxes, or sculptures and figurines to commemorate the occasion are all great 20th anniversary ideas. 

That romantic picnic basket with all porcelain dinnerware for two is a great gift for the couple who already has everything for the home. 

If you have a Chinatown neighborhood in your city, then the occasion calls for a date night out revisiting cherished spots you’ve been frequenting as a couple or new ones on your list you’ve always been planning to explore. 

Of course, if travel is on your mind, then that trip to China might be the perfect grand gift to celebrate your 20th anniversary. Use a china doll holding the tickets to announce the surprise getaway or some of the surprise experiences you’ve booked for your getaway. 

![20th Wedding Anniversary Ideas](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/2sLrSZn8iq9qVZSnNoFnm6/8ec12ad2095cbf3d2e67cf811e17375e/Inline_unsplash__10_.png)
*Photo Credit //* Unsplash

### Go Modern

Platinum jewelry is a subtle and sophisticated style alternative to other metal jewelry, so a sleek custom piece from a celebrated local designer will please your spouse. 

For music lovers, an album from the year you were married or when your kids were born is a coveted gift that your special someone will absolutely adore. Other options include music from a favorite artist, orchestra, or a special performance that holds fond memories for them. 

If your spouse has an affinity for a certain brand, get them to platinum status with that company’s loyalty program or credit card. Every time they’re able to use the perks and benefits, they’ll remember your thoughtfulness for their preferences. 

Platinum watches from a brand known for its luxury watchmaking is a great addition to your wardrobe and a statement piece to wear to events. Plus, it’s a 20-year anniversary idea that your husband or wife will always remember. If you’ve been eyeing one that’s tailor-made for couples, then your 20th wedding anniversary presents a timely reason to invest in one.

Platinum accessories and decor, especially arranged as a surprise in personal spaces such as the family room, bedroom, otr private study area, are grand ways to show your significant other you’ve indulged in some thought in choosing their presents for the day. 

### Bring It Together With Green and White

If you’re celebrating with friends and family, emerald green and white table and home decorations make a lovely combination for party decor. Carry it through with balloons and streamers, and also for the special celebration cake. 

Pack an at-home spa retreat gift basket filled with self-care products like bath bombs, comfort food, fragrant candles, and even a special cocktail kit for an anniversary celebration. 

Or, you could head out for a spa getaway to a destination with emerald in the name, such as Emerald Lakes in California, the Emerald Coast of Florida, or Emerald Isle in North Carolina. 

For tech enthusiasts, accessories, whether wireless speakers or watch straps, in these colors make for an outstanding—and very useful—gift. 

Head down memory lane with a hardcover photo album or memory book in emerald green with white inserts filled with photos, show tickets, and other little events in your life you’re nostalgic for. Remember to leave plenty of space for the future you will spend together as a married couple. 

No matter the manner you choose to mark your 20th wedding anniversary, it is a precious moment to behold as you plan for the next 20 years ahead. Make it a memorable one.

When it comes to holding a budget vow renewal, many of the same tips and tricks apply that would with a wedding. Narrowing down your guest list, cutting back on [wedding stationery](https://www.zola.com/wedding-planning/paper), and tackling some small DIY projects are often the most common pieces of advice. However, vow renewals come with a very different set of expectations than weddings, so there’s a lot of room for creativity.

If you’ve got a vision for a beautiful event, but are struggling to find ways to cut costs, below are some of our top pieces of advice on how to plan a vow renewal on a budget.

## Don’t Treat It like a Second Wedding
![Zola - How to Have a Budget Vow Renewal](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/4XtYMtRZJFoHGVxdAqWQSu/3c7531f540c32c64fad53539e324f507/Inline_Laura_Hollander_Photography__1_.png)
*Photo Credit* // Laura Hollander Photography

For one primary reason: it isn’t one. This doesn’t mean that it’s any less special or less memorable–it simply means that it’s an entirely different celebration and should be treated as such. The word “wedding” is immediately associated with higher costs, so be clear about the purpose of your celebration from the get-go. There’s also less expectation surrounding wedding vow renewals, which gives you the opportunity to really do it your way–including keeping it cost-friendly.

When planning a renewal ceremony, keep in the back of your mind what would make the day most special to you and your partner. If you want to spend the money to hold the ceremony at a distillery, but DIY everything else, then go for it. Embrace the sense of freedom that you might not have experienced the first time around.

## Source Locally
This is one of the easiest ways to save money. Not only are local vendors more sustainable, but they’re also less likely to charge you an arm and a leg for details such as delivery fees when putting together a vow renewal celebration. If you look for florists and rental companies that are hyperlocal, chances are that they’re not only going to be less expensive, but they’re going to be more flexible than those located elsewhere.

However, keep in mind that the more remote your [wedding venue](https://www.zola.com/wedding-vendors/search/wedding-venues), the more money you’re likely to spend on vendors. If you’re planning an island vow renewal, for example, delivery costs are likely to be high, and local vendors might hike their prices if they’re the only option on the island. If you live in a tiny town or don’t have a lot of vendors and creatives in your area, Etsy is a great alternative for sourcing things such as [wedding decor](https://www.zola.com/shop/category/decorations) and accessories, while allowing you to still support small businesses.

## Make It a Potluck
The argument against potlucks for weddings may still exist, but this isn’t a wedding, is it? If you’d prefer to get a food truck or do something a little bit more traditional, that’s always an option. But, inviting your guests to bring their favorite dish and indulge potluck-style is one of the easiest ways to bring costs down. Just make sure that you’re clear with everyone about expectations and have a system or spreadsheet to track what everyone is planning to bring. This is also something that you can assign out to a friend and/or family member to take care of so that you can keep stress levels low.

## Keep It Intimate
As one of the most common recommendations in the book, there is nothing more cost-friendly than choosing an intimate affair over a massive celebration. Aside from the obvious savings, there are additional benefits to keeping your numbers down, including the natural rise in the cost per-person. Even on a budget, a smaller party means that you’re able to spend more money on each attendee, and it allows for some creative ideas, including fun favors and more elaborate place settings for your vow renewal celebration.

## Host It at Home
There is unlikely to be a venue that is as budget-friendly as your own home (and no better way to commemorate the life that you’ve built together as a married couple). Just make sure that you’re realistic about the attendee capacity and the amount of work that it would require. If your house doesn’t have a backyard, or is too quaint for the event size that you’re imagining, then take the party to a public park. Whatever you choose to do, just make sure that you’re adhering to COVID-19 social distancing guidelines in your area and plan accordingly.

## Avoid Rentals Altogether
If you’re planning a hefty-sized get-together, this can be a tough one, but for those organizing more intimate gatherings, avoiding rentals isn’t totally out of the question. If you’re hosting the vow renewal at home, the many pieces of furniture and décor that you have sitting around the house can be great alternatives to rentals. Mirrors, rugs, ottomans, candlesticks, and glassware are all common pieces that are easy to repurpose. Just ask your guests to each bring a lawn chair and you’ve got your bases covered.

## Consider DIYing Some Elements
![Zola - How to Have a Budget Vow Renewal](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/71YdJTv52AEpRdgm5Ayc3j/11d15cb790fc12bad52d3029c43486b8/Inline_Samantha_Rice_Photography.png)
*Photo Credit* // Samantha Rice Photography

Invitations, florals, and décor alone can easily cost a couple thousand dollars. Make sure that you prioritize what’s most important for you to have done professionally and what might be a fun project leading up to the big day. This also goes for your loved ones who you know are willing to lend a hand. If you’ve got a friend with a talent for creating bouquets, or a relative who’s adopted calligraphy as their quarantine hobby, don’t be afraid to ask them for help.

## Purchase, Instead of Rent
Despite the obvious, it can actually be much cheaper to purchase items such as table linens and table décor instead of renting them for your vow renewal celebration. Just make sure that you’re actually going to use them again or have somewhere to re-sell them so that they don’t go to waste. Décor items such as rugs, candlesticks, and runners are all popular picks to reuse down the road. You can even repurpose décor and florals as gifts to your attendees or loved ones who helped you coordinate the big day.

How to Do a Vow Renewal on a Budget

Vows are one of the original (and most meaningful) ways to highlight what you value most in your relationship. For many, having a husband or wife with a sense of humor is one of the secrets to an everlasting union. So why not embrace that the second time around at your wedding vow renewal ceremony?

Whether you’re a comedian at heart or simply looking to entertain your guests, writing funny renewal wedding vows is a great way to commemorate your marriage thus far. Below are a few tips to help you embrace your lighthearted side and generate some laughs along the way at your vow renewal ceremony.

### Pull Ideas From Your Original Wedding Vows
Whether it’s a promise that one of you took a little too seriously (“cleaning more doesn’t mean vacuuming in the middle of the night”) or one that took on a whole new meaning (“who knew finding more shared hobbies would lead to entering an underwater hockey tournament?”), your original wedding vows are a great place to look for inspiration. This is especially effective if most of your guests are people who attended your wedding and heard your original wedding vows.

### Reflect on Old Memories (Including the Wedding Day) 
Funny stories from when you first started dating your husband or wife always make great stories, because they’re full of humor and authenticity. The same goes for your wedding day. Chances are not everything went exactly as planned, so cracking jokes about what went wrong is a great way to lighten the mood and demonstrate that what you value most is the relationship itself.

### Make Sure You’re on the Same Page as Your Partner

![Funny Renewal Wedding Vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/63t5ZeVyOxxUQ24xMYA8E6/a7463efe34cac2f66861878708474639/inline_unsplash.jpg)
*Photo Credit //* Unsplash

Funny vows are great, but if your partner is taking a more serious route, the unexpected humor can be a bit jarring at your renewal ceremony. If your partner is more of the sentimental or romantic type, make sure you let them know what route you’re going to take in advance of your vow renewal. If you’re both wannabe comedians and goofiness is your fallback, then you’re probably already on the right track. Just remember that your vows set the tone for the rest of the day, so you want them to feel authentic to you as a couple.

### Mention Mistakes (and Make It Witty)
We’ve all failed in our relationships in one way or another. If addressed as a problem, it can be sad or frustrating, but if told in the form of a humorous recollection, it comes off more relatable. Maybe your initiative to cook more led to an adventure with the local fire station. Or, maybe your partner’s attempt to plan a surprise date failed when you wound up at the wrong restaurant. Even moments that may not have seemed funny at the time make some of the best memories and hilarious stories to share with your loved ones.

### Be Self-Deprecating 
If it’s in your repertoire, don’t be afraid to make fun of yourself. For example, maybe you vowed to make an effort to plan more vacations and your first attempt was a weekend camping trip that ended in disaster. It’s often easy to find lighthearted ways to pick on your partner, but highlighting your own mistakes is a great way to balance the humor and remind your SO that you know you’re not perfect either.

### Include Something Serious or Sentimental 

![Funny Renewal Wedding Vows](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/3G4JV49sJwIHyUHfrEtzFc/69d62539f97e40ae849ca3435b362939/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)
*Photo Credit //* Unsplash

Though it doesn’t need to be the primary focus, it’s always nice to circle back to why you’re both standing there and how far you’ve come from your initial wedding day. Maybe your partner’s lighthearted (and sometimes childish) nature is what you love most about them. Or, maybe you acknowledge that humor is one of the greatest bonds the two of you have. No matter the focus, a brief moment of sincerity can go a long way.

### Remember: There Aren’t Any Rules.
Just like with your original [wedding vows](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-wedding-vows) (and [wedding planning](https://www.zola.com/) in general), there really are no rules. If you want to write a funny interpretation of a Shakespeare sonnet or create your own poem, go right ahead. If you’d prefer to keep things sentimental with a touch of humor here and there, that works too. If you do what feels right to you, your partner is sure to appreciate the thought behind it.

### Sample Wording to Consider for Your Funny Vows:

“*Ten years ago, I vowed to help you cook more dinners. That might have led to a lot of burnt pizza and the incessant sound of fire alarms, but here we are… and I’m still trying*.”

“*To this day, our wedding remains one of the greatest days of my life. It was also the day I learned that seagulls like steak tartare as much as I do*.”

“*After all these years, I’m so happy that we can still make each other laugh. Your humor has always been one of the greatest lights in my life and can make even the darkest days a little brighter*.”

“*I vow to continue to plan more dates and fail miserably. To continue to pick up your dirty socks and not get upset when you vacuum between my toes while I’m trying to read.*”


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Get relationship advice from the experts. Maybe you've been dating for a while and need guidance on how to talk about the next steps. Or you're newly engaged and need advice on how to handle wedding planning stress. You'll also find advice for newlywed couples, like how to combine finances. Plus guides to celebrating anniversaries and renewing your vows! Whatever stage of the journey you're in, we're here to support you through it all.

Marriage isn’t all bliss and riding off into the night after you say your I do’s. While your love for your partner may feel as strong as ever post-nuptials, marriages take effort and a continual choice to honor your vows daily. Make no mistake, this is no easy feat. That’s why there’s no shame in seeking out relationship advice that could aid in keeping your union as strong and healthy as ever.

We rounded up the [best advice for marriage](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/topic/relationship-advice) from therapists and couples whose love has stood the test of time. See our 20 top marriage advice tips below.

## 1. Marriage is work

You must be willing to put in the work. “You have to know that love is more than an emotion,” notes Mary Kay Cocharo, licensed marriage and family therapist. Being in a relationship, especially a marriage, needs more than your fondness for one another to last. “People fall in love, so they decide they should be partners and get married,” she says. “And while love is great and propels you into that commitment, it’s just the beginning. It’s not enough. A really good partnership takes commitment and kindness and generosity, and it requires tools like good communication.”

![The 3 Best Pieces of Marriage Advice, According to a Marriage Therapist](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/21YPS00yipioc55eyxZxfr/bba0aaf048616219ca213681145abbc9/inline_unsplash_1_.jpg)
*Photo Credit* // Unsplash

## 2. Listen more

Without a doubt, every healthy marriage will hit a rough spot, be it internal or external. When that happens, your love for each other will be the thing that makes you want to get through it, but it can’t do all the heavy lifting alone. That’s when you have to be able to have productive conversations, understand your partner’s perspective, and decide how to move forward.

## 3. The honeymoon will end

“When couples get married, those early hormones and chemicals that happen towards the beginning of a relationship—the ones that launch us into commitment—start to wear off. Neuroscientists tell us this happens after about two years,” Cocharo explains. What she’s referring to is a study done by a team from the University of Pisa in Italy. They found that the bodily chemistry that makes people sexually attracted to a new partner lasts, at most, for two years. “They wear off, and now you’re looking at [your partner] and realize, oh, we have differences.”

Expecting this and knowing it’s inevitable (and completely normal) softens the initial blow tremendously. If you recognize this before it happens, you can even work to make sure you have the tools to get through future married life difficulties.

## 4. Use the right tools

Learn and use relationship tools like good communication, healthy boundaries, and actively showing your partner love. These marriage work tools heavily aid in resolving disagreements and getting through those inevitable tough times. “Sometimes couples will hit something difficult and use that to mean they’ve chosen the wrong person or that it’s over. That’s just not true,” Cocharo says.

“It’s hard, and sometimes you don’t have the proper tools. Maybe you didn’t grow up in a situation that taught you about love and respect or being a married partner. In that case, you just need to get the help. You don’t just give up.”

Not sure where to get the tools? Consult a marriage therapist. There are also tons of helpful books, workbooks, workshops, and even phone apps (try [Love Nudge](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.grootersproductions.challenge&hl=en)) you can use to do couples’ exercises and prompt conversations with your partner. So long as you’re willing to seek out help (and you have an internet connection), you have the ability to learn and use the tools that will take your marriage the distance.

## 5. Take care of yourself

An often overlooked key part of having a successful marriage is taking care of yourself. “When some people get married, they think it’s their partner’s job to take care of them. In reality, everyone is busy and has a lot on their plate—you really do need to put on your own oxygen mask first,” says Cocharo. This isn’t to say that you can’t lean on your partner and vice-versa, but rather that when you get married, you should continue to treat your well-being and self-care as a priority. Don’t expect that responsibility to be handed off to your loved one. Making time for self care assures you’re happy and healthy and lets you bring your best self to the relationship.

“Make sure you’re doing the things that make you a happy, healthy, whole person. Simple things like eating right, exercising, and getting out in nature. Maybe praying or meditating, reading, or whatever calms you down. Also, going to see friends and visiting family,” Cocharo suggests.

## 6. Marriage is 60/40

Some people say marriage is 50/50, but that’s really hard to measure, and it often ends up with both partners feeling shorted. With the [60/40 relationship rule](https://psychiatristsnyc.com/blog/want-a-successful-relationship-practice-this-one-rule/), a marriage is uneven, with both partners feeling like they’re giving 60%. When you put in 60%, “you’re giving your partner love on their terms,” says Mt. Sinai psychiatrist and relationship expert Amanda Itzkoff. “When both partners focus on giving 60% and taking just 40%, the relationship has an overwhelming chance of being successful.”

![Stocksy txp05f31680VSp300 Large 4393583](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/M61DW5GeWvu5fk28aEm4F/6ff9b06201a5df87012dcbd2edecf6bd/Stocksy_txp05f31680VSp300_Large_4393583.jpg)

## 7. Lose the battle, win the war

You might feel like you *have to get them to mow the lawn today, or if you pay for that new kitchen, you won’t save enough this year*. Go ahead and lose those smaller battles now to build a healthier marriage. As Benjamin Franklin famously said, “If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes, but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent’s good will.”

## 8. Start counseling before you need it

Waiting until there’s a problem before you start marriage therapy is like waiting to get teeth pulled instead of flossing every night. According to Marriage.com, the [best time to start couple’s therapy](https://www.marriage.com/advice/pre-marriage/when-to-start-pre-marital-counseling/) is as soon as possible, and preferably before you’re married. Think of marriage counseling like coaching, not a sign that something is broken. Choose a good coach, and use it as an opportunity to work on and change yourself—not your partner.

## 9. Listen to audiobooks

One chief cause of marital stress is endlessly replaying arguments after they have ended. After an argument, the tendency is to stew about it and try to make sense of it. While working to understand is healthy, it can put your emotions on perpetual simmer. Listening to an audiobook while you mow the lawn or do the dishes can keep you from stewing, give your feelings time to reset, and even show you good ideas that can help you strengthen your relationship. Get an Audible subscription or a free app from your local library.

## 10. Eat first, fight later

This piece of marriage advice is so simple it’s easy to overlook it. Before you talk to your spouse, have a meal or at least a snack. [Eating a meal increases agreeableness](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25770700/) (so your partner is more likely to see your point of view) and reduces dominance and submissiveness (so you’re less likely to be overbearing or give in too easily). Feel a fight coming on? Take a snack break.

## 11. Give grace

Spoiler alert: Your spouse isn’t going to do everything right. In fact, they’ll often do things very wrong. If you keep a tally of every way they’ve let you down, you may win on points, but your relationship will lose. Grace is saying, “You did wrong, but I forgive you, and I love you anyway.” Give your partner a clean slate every day (and every hour). And while you’re at it, give some of that forgiveness to yourself.

![The 3 Best Pieces of Marriage Advice, According to a Marriage Therapist](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/1HJfLa2CMijLEdHHEsEu1S/a4c519b7964854f6d9dc505d26ea971a/inline_unsplash.jpg)*Photo Credit* // Unsplash

## 12. Don’t assume

Our brains are good at filling in the blanks. The problem is it’s easy to fill in someone else’s thoughts. That’s why talking without judging, arguing, or adding your opinions is so healthy for relationships. When you let your partner talk, you won’t have to fill in any blanks. You’ll know. Sound easy? It’s not. Active listening is a skill you’ll have to learn, like playing the piano or shooting jump shots. You can start with Kate Murphy’s eye-opening book, *[You’re Not Listening](https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Not-Listening-Missing-Matters/dp/1250779871/ref=asc_df_1250779871/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=507975958237&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4121891810911394376&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9009250&hvtargid=pla-927127602652&psc=1&mcid=8b3bcf03afe0323998a173033f904849&gclid=CjwKCAiAs6-sBhBmEiwA1Nl8s6BMtsMauL9PKTvLkL8cIwriOgAOodo2CRdL2l8b-3Dri_GbvanGvhoCsssQAvD_BwE)*.

## 13. Learn to fight

Prediction: you will fight. But—you can fight in a way that weakens your relationship or strengthens it. The secret here is that nobody is born knowing how to fight the right way. And though there’s plenty of great advice online (be respectful, take a break if things get heated, use active listening), they’re easier said than done. So, consider taking a class on how to fight. Some marriage counselors and churches offer fighting classes for couples, and the online [Couples Fight School](https://masteringconflict.com/couples-fight-school/) can be a fun, rewarding experience for both of you.

## 14. Learn to apologize

We all know we should eat humble pie from time to time, but did you know there’s a right way and a wrong way? The key is to accept full responsibility (no buts), then take your lumps. Expect your partner to unload on you after you say you’re sorry and accept it with more listening. Then, be willing to make it right, give in, and give up something you thought you really wanted. (What’s more important, winning the argument or your marriage?)

## 15. Be a team

You’re in this together. While this may sound like cliche marriage advice, the key point is to see problems as both of you vs the problem, not both of you against each other. Don’t blame each other. For a little inspiration, see this *Atlantic* article: [Marriage Is a Team Sport](https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/11/how-collaboration-can-improve-marriage-relationships/672048/).

## 16. Spend now or spend later

Is it too expensive to take your spouse out to eat once a week? Is time precious to you? You may want to spend time or money on things that set you up for a good life later, but what good will it do you if there’s nobody there to share it with? Spend a big chunk of your time and money on your spouse now, even if it’s not the smartest play for your career or finances. If you don’t, you may spend it later in divorce proceedings and custody arrangements.

![newly engaged couple in debt](//images.ctfassets.net/77l22z9el0aa/7GFbYLisIT4eBAT2WM3y31/247792361f0df7f70e34e6d542dffcb1/HERO_Unsplash_1080x720__6_.jpg)

## 17. Love is a decision, not a feeling

If you don’t feel loved, you may mistakenly conclude your marriage is a failure. And while [most couples](https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/64-percent-of-americans-say-theyre-happy-in-their-relationships-300595502.html) report being happy with their marriages, there will undoubtedly be times you don’t feel loved at all. When that happens, take comfort in knowing that [love is more of a choice](https://psychcentral.com/relationships/love-is-a-choice-more-than-a-feeling) than a feeling. To choose from the heart, read the Amazon bestseller *[Love Is a Decision](https://www.amazon.com/Love-Decision-Gary-Smalley/dp/0849942683)* by marriage counselor Gary Smalley.

## 18. Let them grow

“You’re not the woman I married.” Surprise—she won’t be. In fact, 90% of adults will change at *least* one major personality trait in the next few years. So, if your marriage lasts 50 years, you might end up married to a completely different person from the one you said “I do” to. The gold nugget of marriage advice here is to accept that from the start. Instead of resisting change, expect it, celebrate it, and accept it.

## 19. Just show up

You don’t have to have an opinion on every issue or a solution to every problem. You don’t even need to say something every time there’s a lull in the conversation. Sometimes, just your presence can show you’re there for your partner, and that can win their goodwill. That’s a lot better than looking like you have all the answers.

## 20. You can’t fix them, so don’t

Your partner is going to have flaws, and some of them will be big. You can encourage and support them, but you can’t repair their damage. While this can be a hard pill to swallow, you married them, not the person they could be. You can help that medicine go down by acknowledging your own flaws and spending some time reflecting on their strengths. Accept and honor who they are, [along with your differences](https://www.stanfordcouplescounseling.com/rebuilding-emotional-safety-strengthening-your-relationship-by-accepting-your-partners-differences-part-3/).

Although we here at Zola concentrate on wedding planning, we also realize that your celebration is a small part of your lifetime together. While you’re [choosing flowers](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/the-most-popular-wedding-flowers), arranging the [ceremony](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/a-guide-to-the-wedding-ceremony-order-of-events), and planning the [honeymoon](https://www.zola.com/expert-advice/best-honeymoon-destinations), don’t forget that your wedding is the start of a lifetime together. We want to give you the best start you can have—from the planning stages of your engagement to the start of a beautiful life partnership. 

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