The Benefits of Splitting Wedding Planning Duties

Planning a wedding can be stressful, but wedding planning is no longer a one-person job—it’s okay to ask for help and split the duties.

By Shameika Rhymes

The Benefits of Splitting Wedding Planning Duties
Photo by Ron Lach

The First Look ✨

We get it, it’s your wedding, and you’ll plan every single detail yourself if you want to. However, it’s not realistic for most couples to juggle demanding careers, coordinating travel for loved ones, choosing linens, wedding attire, food, music, and the list goes on. That’s why most couples share the planning responsibilities in some capacity.

In Zola’s First Look Report , we surveyed 3,309 engaged couples to find out who they are, what their priorities are for their 2022 weddings, and what makes these weddings different than ever before.The majority surveyed cited they were doing most of the wedding planning and decision-making by themselves, but some were either doing it together as a couple, or doing it all by themselves. If you’re thinking about asking for help, Zola is here to help.

Make a List

If there’s one thing that will help with wedding planning, it’s making a list and checking it twice—or even 10 times. It’s time to sit down with your partner and create a free Zola wedding planning checklist of every wedding related to-do that you care about. You can include everything from invitation design to the cake and catering. Then, see if you can delegate some of those to-dos to your loved ones. Most couples split things up with their significant other, members of the wedding party, friends, family, a hired planner, or vendors.

Here are some reasons why it will be beneficial to split wedding planning duties.

It Relieves Some of Your Stress

Wedding-related tasks tend to take up a lot of time and heap a lot of stress on your plate. Delegating some of the wedding planning duties will help you hand off some of the time-consuming responsibilities that you may not have the capacity to deal with. Hiring a wedding planner can help with scheduling appointments, dealing with vendors, and work through any issues that could pop up on your big day.

You’ll Get Help with Budgeting and Scheduling

You and your partner have a wedding budget you need to adhere to, but how can you get the most bang for your buck? Enlist some family members or friends to help shop deals, score discounts, and crunch numbers.

New Ideas and Inspo

You’ve probably spent hours already scrolling on social media, flipping through bridal magazines, and scouring the internet from one end to the other looking for inspiration for your own wedding. Allowing others to help with the planning duties could give you some fresh inspiration and ideas that can’t be found online. Allow your bestie to tap into his or her creativity and help plan a unique spread for the reception or floral arrangements for the tables. Your partner may have a knack for creating seating charts to keep all the guests happy. Let go of the reins, and split those wedding planning duties up.

Now that you know the benefits to allowing others to help, let’s take a look at what duties you can split up and delegate to others.

Pre-Wedding Festivities

Lean on your maid of honor and bridesmaids to help plan your engagement party if you’re having one, bridal shower activities, and of course, the bachelorette party. You can also have them handle their own travel arrangements and accommodations, so you don’t have to worry about it. The groomsmen can do the same. Enlist the mother of the bride or groom to be a point of contact for vendors. Also, since the parents host the rehearsal dinner, have them plan it to take that off of your hands.

Play to Their Strengths

If you have a bridesmaid or family member that’s crafty with a glue gun and another that is better at staying organized, assign duties that play to those strengths. Also, ask them to participate in other activities like stuffing invitation envelopes, alphabetizing escort cards, getting hands on with some DIY projects, and even making trips with the bride to help make decisions with rental chairs or hair and makeup trials. Ask for help with manageable tasks like tracking down current addresses for your mutual friends on the guest list, following up with late RSVPs and taking the lead on making sure everyone has gotten fitted for their wedding attire.

Consider Hiring a Wedding Planner or Coordinator

Hiring a wedding planner takes the majority of the wedding planning work off your plate and eases a lot of your stress. Their insider knowledge and connections could actually help with your budget and save you money. There are different degrees of wedding planning assistance: full planning, partial or month-of planning, and day-of planning.

Make the decision to hire a full wedding planner early on in the process, because this person should be involved in your big decisions from the beginning. We do recommend at least hiring a day-of coordinator to manage the timeline, logistics, and vendor communications during the wedding weekend, so that you can spend your wedding day enjoying every moment and not stressing over every single detail.

Utilize Your Zola Wedding Checklist

Once you’ve delegated tasks to friends and family and your significant other, it’s time to activate your Zola Wedding Checklist to put your to-do list on autopilot. It’s a way to check in and stay organized. You can input your key details and select what guidance you want from the free tool. The checklist can even schedule things out month by month to keep you on track. It will help you with wedding planning and checking items off as things are completed.

How do you know if your wedding crew has done their to-do tasks? You can always schedule a conference call for updates, questions, and concerns, then check things off in the checklist. Don’t worry if you don’t have a Zola account, here’s a printable wedding checklist.

Have Fun Planning Your Wedding Day

Wedding planning is stressful as it is, and planning during a pandemic doesn’t make it any easier. But couples are feeling more excited than ever. About 40 percent say they are more excited and in love than ever, 42 percent say it’s more meaningful now to be able to celebrate with loved ones, and 28 percent are just ready to party, but a whopping 59 percent said they felt closer to their partner than ever after planning the wedding together. Don’t let the planning overwhelm you, ask your loved ones for help pulling off your dream big day.

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