Do I Need a Wedding Card?

Yes. Regardless of whether you can attend the wedding, it’s proper etiquette to include a wedding card with your physical or monetary gift. They serve two purposes:

  1. To let the couple know who the gift is from.
  2. To share your well wishes with the couple.

If you purchase a gift online and ship it to the couple directly, then the “send a message” feature provided by the online retailer replaces a traditional paper wedding card.

5 Things to Consider Before Writing a Wedding Card

Before you begin writing your message, consider the following:

  1. How well do you know the couple? How well you know the couple will help guide the length and content of what you write in the card. If you’re close to the newlyweds, your message should be more heartfelt and personal. On the other hand, a quick congratulatory note is more suitable for acquaintances and distant family.
  2. What’s the couple’s personality? What you write in the card should depend on the personality of the couple. A more reserved couple might not appreciate a witty one-liner, but would love more formal congratulations.
  3. Is the couple religious? If the couple adheres to a particular religious tradition, a spiritual verse or message can be a nice gesture. However, we caution against including religious wording if the couple is of a different faith or if you are unclear about their beliefs.
  4. Are you attending the wedding? If you are unable to attend the wedding, there is no need to explain your absence, but sharing that you wish you could be there to celebrate is a nice addition. Be sure to thank the couple for inviting you whether or not you are able to attend.

The Anatomy of How to Write Your Message

1. Address The Couple Start off your message by addressing the couple directly:

  • Ellen and Portia
  • Mr. and Mrs. Jones

2. Congratulate Next, congratulate the couple on their union:

  • Congrats, you guys!
  • Congratulations and happy wedding day!

3. Wish Them Well Share well wishes for their future:

  • May your life together be filled with joy and great memories.
  • Looking forward to seeing your marriage grow in the years to come.

4. Share Some Thoughts, Memories, or Advice (Optional) If you know the couple well, share some additional thoughts, words of wisdom, or a sweet memory:

  • Remember that double date we went on together? We knew then that you guys were meant to be!
  • Don’t forget to cherish the little moments and each other.

5. Give Thanks (or Express Regrets) Express thanks for being invited or regrets for missing the celebration:

  • Thank you so much for inviting us to celebrate your special day.
  • Wish we could be there to see you two tie the knot!

6. Sign Off Close by signing off and adding signatures:

  • Best wishes
  • Congrats again!

Dos and Don’ts of Writing a Wedding Card

Dos

  • Be genuine. The key to a great wedding card message is to write from the heart. To avoid your sentiments feeling awkward or forced, don’t add quotes or lines that you wouldn’t actually say in person.
  • Write the card to the couple as a unit. The wedding card should be to the couple as a pair—not just a personal note to the individual you know best. It’s their wedding day as a couple, so your message should address them both.
  • Prepare what you’re going to say. To avoid mistakes, write out a draft of your message on a separate piece of paper before copying it to the wedding card. This will help you gather your thoughts and avoid mistakes.

Don’ts

  • Write too much. Keep your message short, sweet, and to the point. While it’s fine to want to express your joy or share a special memory, long stories or messages aren’t ideal for the small writing space available in a wedding card. If you have a lot to say, save it for an email, letter, or in-person conversation.
  • Scratch out mistakes. Mistakes happen, but it looks messy to just scratch out your error and keep writing. Either erase your mistake with a correction fluid (like White Out) or start over with a new card.
  • Make spelling errors. Proofread your note to make sure you haven’t made any spelling mistakes or misspelled the name of one of the newlyweds.
  • Get too personal. Although we encourage you to be genuine, the wedding card isn’t the right place to share a particularly personal (or inappropriate) message.

What to Write in a Wedding Card

Knowing what to write in a card can be intimidating, especially if you don’t consider yourself great with words, but it’s key to remember that a genuine, from-the-heart message from you is all that really matters. To get your pen moving, here’s some inspiration at different levels of formality and for various types of couples:

Formal Wedding Card Wishes

  • “Sending you wishes for a lifetime of love and happiness.”
  • “I/We wish you all the best as you begin your lives together.”
  • “May the years ahead strengthen the love that you share.”
  • “Best wishes for a beautiful marriage filled with wonderful memories.”
  • “Warm wishes for a beautiful wedding day and a happy union.”

Casual Wedding Card Wishes

  • “I/We wish you guys lots of love now and always.”
  • “Here’s to many years of love and happiness!”
  • “Best wishes for an amazing future together.”
  • “Hope the days ahead are filled with lots of hugs and kisses.”
  • “Wishing you guys fun-filled adventures in married life!”

Religious Wedding Card Wishes

  • “May God bless your marriage.”
  • “Mazel Tov! May joy fill all the days of your life together."
  • “Mashallah! Blessings for your union.”
  • “Best wishes on this blessed day.”
  • “Sending you prayers for a marriage filled with love and joy.”

Funny Wedding Card Wishes

  • “Hope you guys have more belly laughs than fights over loading the dishwasher!”
  • “Best wishes as you annoy each other for the rest of your lives.”
  • “Here’s to endless sleepovers with your favorite weirdo.”
  • “May Facebook notifications always save you from forgetting your anniversary.”
  • “Good luck and remember that dating apps are only getting creepier.”

Wedding Card for a Family Member and New Spouse

  • “So excited to add a new member to our family! Here’s to a lifetime of love and growing old together.”
  • “Today is a wonderful day for our family. Congrats and warm wishes!”
  • “Congratulations and welcome to the family! Hope today and everyday after is amazing.”
  • “We’re so happy to call you both family. Here’s to lots of love and future family drama!”
  • “Cheers to family and love! Congrats on getting married you guys.”

Wedding Card for a Friend and New Spouse

  • “May you bring each other as much happiness and friendship as you’ve brought me. Congrats!”
  • “Here’s to love, friendship, and double-dates! Best wishes for an awesome marriage.”
  • “So thrilled to celebrate this day with two amazing friends! Happy wedding day, guys!”
  • “Can’t wait to get down on the dance floor and celebrate with you. Congratulations on getting hitched!”
  • “Thanks for inviting me to eat cake and drink champagne. You should get married all the time!”

Wedding Card for a Coworker and New Spouse

  • “Thank you for inviting me to share this day with you. Best wishes!”
  • “I’m so happy to have bonded with you at work. Congrats to you and your love!”
  • “Cheers! I’m looking forward to seeing your new title on your email signature.”
  • “Wishing you guys the very best and a happy honeymoon!”
  • “Congrats on finding each other! Here’s to many happy years.”

Wedding Card for a Parent and New Stepparent

  • “Welcome to the family. Love you both so much!”
  • “I’m so thrilled that you have found each other. Congrats and best wishes!”
  • “Mom/Dad, I’m so happy for the love that you have found. Congrats to you both, and welcome to the family [Name of Stepparent]!”
  • “[Name of Stepparent], thank you for the joy you bring my Mom/Dad. - Cheers to a bigger, better family!”
  • “So excited to see our family grow today. Congratulations on your big day!”

Wedding Card for a Son or Daughter and New Spouse

  • “So happy to welcome a new son/daughter to our family. Thank you for the joy you bring my son/daughter. May the joy you feel today last a lifetime!”
  • “Today we add a new member to our family and we couldn’t be happier. Congrats to you both!”
  • “Lots of love and happiness to you both on this joyful day for our family.”
  • Son/Daughter, I’m so happy to see you marry someone who brings you so much joy. Here’s to a beautiful marriage that grows through the years.”
  • “Best wishes to my son/daughter and my new son-in-law/daughter-in-law on this wonderful occasion!”

Wedding Card for a Sibling and New Spouse

  • “I’m so happy to add a brother/sister to our family. Congratulations and best wishes for a happy life together.”
  • “Congrats to the best brother/sister in the world and my new brother-in-law/sister-in-law. Lots of love to you both.”
  • “So thankful that my brother/sister has found the one whom his/her soul loves. Welcome to the family and congratulations on finding love in each other.”
  • “Yay! So excited to gain a sibling today. All my love to you guys!”
  • “Best wishes to you guys as you begin your lives together. Let’s celebrate!”