Remarriages can be tricky. There is no set of rules on how a second or third wedding should be planned and executed, though most couples would like to forego some traditions to make the big day feel more “appropriate.”
If you’re getting married the second time, here are some uncommon wedding ideas that you can consider:
Don’t go to the usual places where people get married, like places of worship, gardens, parks, or even building penthouses. Think of a different experience both for you and your guests.
A destination wedding can be a great option if you’d like to keep your guest list small. Plus, it’ll save you money if you’re planning to host your special day in the same area or location of your honeymoon. Locally, depending on how adventurous you feel, you may want to consider going for the following types of venues:
Think tasteful and elegant. Brides can choose to wear a jumpsuit, a tea-length dress, or something tailored over the traditional wedding gown that will allow them to move more freely throughout the day (or night).
You may opt for a hat or statement headpiece instead of a veil to complete the look. To match the bride, grooms can skip the usual three-piece suits or tux and go for old-school, vintage suits in plaid or tweed fabric. Plus, there are lots of comfortable shoes nowadays that still look stylish and formal.
Skip ceremony readings from religious prose or traditional wedding vows, and go for your favorite song lyrics, passages from your favorite books or sonnets, or even excerpts from children’s books. Write your vows, and consider asking your kids to walk you down the aisle instead of your parents.
Or, you can have a “family wedding” instead of a couple’s wedding—uniting two families by having your kids beside you during the marriage rites, such as the exchange of rings. Make the ceremony about the two of you and your loved ones—not about everyone else in the room.
If you know your guests wouldn’t want to sit through five to six courses of meals, plan the food service with your caterer. Depending on the time and location, you can serve small plates and have several stations and cuisines that your guests can choose from, or serve meals family-style. If you want to stick to comfort food, such as the basic sliders, your catering company will most likely be able to elevate it by using Kobe beef or balsamic chicken.
Similarly, wedding cakes don’t always need to be cakes. Opt for a tower of doughnuts, brownies, cookies, or other sweets. If you prefer savory, cheese wheels may be perfect for you and your partner to cut.
Do things in reverse—instead of having the best man and maid of honor give a toast to honor you as newlyweds, you and your partner can provide a toast to honor everyone who attended your celebration, as well as those who helped make it successful. And instead of having an anniversary dance where the deejay calls out those who have been married five years, ten years, 20 years, and so on, to have the longest-married couple alone on the dance floor, do it in reverse. Have your first dance as a newly married couple, and then call those who are married five years, ten years, 20 years, and so on, so you end up having the dance floor filled with married couples in love.
There are many other ways to deviate from a traditional wedding ceremony, and because you have gone through it before, you’ll be armed with knowledge on what can go wrong, what you’d like to prioritize, and what works best for you and your partner. This will help you create a festive and gracious wedding day that loved ones and guests will enjoy.