Do You Bring a Gift to An Engagement Party?

The big day is coming - your friends are getting married! But should you bring an engagement gift? Read on to learn more.

By Anni Irish

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Engagement parties happen right after that favorite couple in your life decides to take the next step. It’s a great way for friends and family to share in the happiness and let loose. But before attending, you may wonder: __Are you supposed to bring a gift?

Should You Bring a Gift to An Engagement Party?

If you want to! Bringing a gift to an engagement party is definitely not a requirement, but it’s certainly an extremely nice gesture to extend. Generally, relatives and close friends of the couple will bring a gift to the engagement party.

If you’re still uncertain about whether or not to bring a gift, consider the formality of the event (is the party on the more casual side or are more formal plans involved?), your plans for attending the wedding (if you can’t attend the special day, an engagement party gift may be the perfect time to wish them a congratulations), and your budget (this one’s self explanatory). Unfortunately, at an engagement party, chances are the couple hasn’t gotten around to creating their registry just yet. So what’s an appropriate gift for an engagement party? More often than not, invited guests bring a small and meaningful gift.

What Should I Bring to An Engagement Party?

You shouldn't feel pressured to spend an exorbitant amount of money or that you need to spend hours putting this together. If you are attending the engagement party you more than likely will be attending the wedding, so you'll want to plan ahead for the other expenses that come with that such as the shower and wedding gift. Generally, it’s a good idea to spend what you can afford and also to get something that you think the couple will love and even potentially use.

Gift Something Personal

Personalizing the engagement gift and picking out something that captures the moment is always a great idea. For a gift that’s sure to go over well, consider a bottle of the couple's favorite Champagne, a plant or flowers, a gift certificate to their favorite local restaurant, or even one to their favorite local coffee spot.

No matter what you opt for, if you choose to bring an engagement party gift, it will be well-received and appreciated. But, if you decide not to bring a gift, that's okay, too. Whether or not to bring a gift to the engagement party is a very individualized decision—you have to decide what feels right for you. On one hand, it's fun to get and give gifts; on the other hand, you’ll likely also have to buy a shower and wedding gift, which may be enough.

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In some instances, the couple or individual hosting the party may even specify that they don't want guests bringing an engagement present. Having you there to celebrate with them is a big enough gift. If you find yourself in this position, then the general gift etiquette is to respect the host’s wishes. Consider a thoughtful card expressing your excitement for them instead.

However, if you insist on not going empty handed then bring something they can share, such as food or a bottle of wine—something that can serve as a host/hostess gift is never a bad way to go.

10 Gift Ideas to Bring to An Engagement Party

  • Champagne flutes with their favorite bottle of bubbly
  • A beautiful picture frame or frames, complete with a picture of the happy couple
  • A photo album
  • Monogrammed or engraved stemware or mugs
  • Personalized coffee or tea mugs
  • Coasters that match the party's theme or color scheme
  • Flower vase with flowers/or just a vase
  • A plant or flowers
  • A book or journal inspired by the couple (a book of love poems, a wedding journal where they can share arell their happy moments, or even a book that can be used for the guest book at the wedding)
  • An experience gift for a cooking class or spa treatment

Whatever you decide to do, aim for a creative and thoughtful gift, stay within your budget, and keep the newly engaged couple’s interests in mind. They want you there to celebrate this next period—showing up to the party, and potentially with a gift, is the best present they can get.

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