How to Pull Off a Surprise Proposal

Looking to pull off the perfect surprise proposal? Check out our latest article for all our top tips and tricks.

By Jennifer Prince

Surprise Proposal
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Life affords many surprises. While there’s the wrong kind—cracking your iPhone screen or a flat tire—many unexpected circumstances are oh so right. Popping the question is one of those, but keeping it a secret can be difficult.

If you’re trying to pull off a surprise proposal, there are ways to fly under the radar. Below, our experts share a number of under-the-radar tips on how to plan a surprise wedding proposal, so you'll have no issues in planning that special moment without your partner knowing.

Does an Epic Proposal Need to Be a Surprise?

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Surprise wedding proposals aren’t for everyone. Catching your partner off-guard can be exciting, but there are a few cues that it may not be an ideal way to ask. Gauge what’s best for you and your significant other before you shock them by popping the question. Here are a few things couples should think about before doing a surprise wedding proposal:

  • Be sure that you’ve talked about your future together. Topics such as kids, moving for a job, and—of course—marriage should be touched on before taking the leap and asking.
  • If there’s ever a question about which partner should propose, then maybe you should ask each other. Going on a mini vacation or organizing a special dinner can create the right atmosphere for you to propose together.
  • Some people hate surprises. You know your significant other best. If they genuinely cringe at the mere thought of surprise proposal ideas, then forgo an unexpected ask.
  • When in doubt, interrogate. If you’re unsure about what to do, ask them during one of your “we want to be together forever” convos. The fact that you’re already talking about marriage means that they want to be with you. Use the conversation as a springboard to see what would work best.

How to Pull Off the Best Surprise Proposals

Be careful who you tell about your epic proposal

Your friends and family could have the best intentions, but some have loose lips. Others get so nervous about keeping a secret that they act awkwardly and arouse suspicion. If you need to rely on others to pull off your surprise proposal, use caution. Remind them that it’s essential to keep their eye on the prize and not let one word—or glance— slip.

Ensure that your marriage proposal is well planned.

Chances are your SO will be clued in if you’re acting nervous or distracted. Don’t leave the planning of your surprise proposal to the last minute. Have everything in place, such as a beautiful setup and a proposal photographer. If others are involved, be sure that they are clear on their role and know exactly what to do when. A well-organized plan will help you relax and act naturally until it’s time to pop the question.

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Guard your devices before you pop the question.

The last thing you want your partner to do is to read a stray text that pops in. Put conversations with everyone involved on mute. Turn off notifications if you have to do so. Your faraway mom may send you a “good luck popping the question” text. Yikes! How do you explain that to your partner? It’s best to keep track of your smartphone, but don’t let that spark suspicion, either. Just make sure there are no accidental slips, so it can remain a total surprise.

Distract them to throw them off the trail.

If you’re afraid that they’ll sense something is coming, throw them off course. Have your SO anticipate a marriage proposal at a different time or location than you planned. When they assume that you’ll be popping the question next month, imagine their shock when you propose this week. Distraction can be one of the best ways to divert their attention from what’s going on.

Hide the engagement ring and anything that has to do with it.

In the words of Antoine Dodson, “Hide yo ring, hide yo box, hide yo bag.” Oh, wait—that’s not what he said? Well, it’s what he would have said if someone was asking him about the best surprise proposal ideas. That said, don’t leave anything—ring, box, receipt, and for heaven’s sake, the jewelry store bag—where your partner can find it.

Stick to the routine.

Unless you’re an ultra-spontaneous couple, changing plans can be a big red flag. Your partner may already know a ring is coming, and senses can heighten at anything out of the norm. When planning surprise wedding proposals, it’s best to develop a plan that includes your everyday routine. Ask while at your favorite restaurant on a Tuesday night. Pop the question at your favorite team’s next home game. Keep it simple and undetectable.

Don’t use a joint credit card or account to purchase the ring.

When your charge card bill is double what it typically is, your SO will be looking at line items. Another big surprise-spoiler is a high-dollar charge—or possibly any charge—from XYZ jewelry store. Do your best to pay cash, use store credit, or get a new card to pay.

Ready for some covert operations? No matter what attempts you make, your partner may be alerted if they’re naturally suspicious or a super sleuth. If they figure it out, change course and start with a new plot. No matter the method, doing your best to plan the ultimate surprise proposal will pay off in the long run.

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