Even in 2020, dress codes continue to be an enigma for many. Though less common than cocktail attire and dressy casual, black tie formal is one of the most important dress codes for a wedding to understand. But, even if you’ve attended a black tie affair in the past, what exactly does this specific dress code mean for weddings?
According to the experts at The Black Tux, it’s important to remember that “black tie” doesn’t simply equate to “stuffy and dated,” particularly when it comes to men’s attire. Though it’s one of the most formal dress codes, there are many ways that you can personalize your look, whether it be through bow ties, pocket squares, or cap toe shoes with contrasting panels. If you’re looking to select a new dress or outfit for the occasion, BHLDN also has a great guide on how to achieve the perfect black tie formal wedding looks.
Lastly, before you invest in a new suit or floor-length gown, make sure that you clarify whether the wedding is black tie or black tie optional. If it’s the latter, feel free to simply wear the best dress or suit you own, even if it errs a little bit more on the side of cocktail attire.
A few more things to keep in mind when choosing black tie formal wear:
Aside from the rare white tie affair, black tie events are about as fancy as it gets. While comfort is always important, this isn’t the time to try to bend the rules, no matter how much you love a nice pair of flats or casual loafers.
When in doubt, simply opt for the fanciest dress or suit you own. Unless the invitation calls for a casual dress code, it’s unlikely for someone to notice if you’re slightly overdressed at a black tie event. However, remember that this isn’t an opportunity to upstage the bride (more on that below). By adhering to the dress code, you’re demonstrating your respect to the couple and their wishes on their big day.
If you’ve attended a wedding in the past, then you likely know that white (as well as cream, ivory, and anything else in the “white” family) are typically off limits. Wearing anything too attention-grabbing or something that could be seen as an attempt to “upstage” the bride is also frowned upon. You might be looking for the perfect reason to purchase that red, ruffled organza gown, but if it’s going to mean all eyes are on you instead of the bride, then your friend’s wedding might not be the place to show off your new formal wear. This also means erring on the conservative side when it comes to revealing black tie attire, particularly if the ceremony is in a place of worship.
This point is particularly important to remember for non-binary individuals who might feel left out by the traditional, gendered dress codes that are typical at a formal wedding. Nowadays there are a lot of options, ranging from more gender-fluid alternatives, such as elegant jumpsuits and pantsuits, to trendy, more high-fashion gowns.
If you’re still not sure what to wear, lean toward classic black tie fabrics, colors, and silhouettes, instead of focusing on a specific outfit or look. Silk and satin generally fit the more upscale nature of this type of event, while colors such as black, navy, and emerald green are also well-suited for a black tie ambience. Details such as shoes, hairstyles, and other accessories can also influence the overall sophistication of your look, so keep those in mind as you plan. The more elegant and refined, the better.
Black tie can mean different things at different places. For example, a black tie affair at an art museum may lend itself to a drastically different look than a black tie optional church wedding. While the church ceremony may call for something classic and relatively conservative, the event at the museum may provide room for something elegant with a little bit of personal flair. Generally, black tie events take place in fairly upscale, sophisticated locations, but that isn’t always the case, so just make sure that your formal attire coincides with the venue as much as the event itself.
As mentioned above, there are differences between black tie and formal black tie optional events, so it can be useful to clarify with the hosts before you dig yourself in a hole. This is particularly relevant for rehearsal dinners, which often go overlooked when it comes to dress codes. It’s best not to make any assumptions until you’ve read all the fine print. For example, the rehearsal dinner to a black tie wedding doesn’t necessarily call for the same upscale formal attire. Just make sure that you double check the wedding invitation and wedding website before you reach out to anyone for clarification.