Remote weddings have always been an option, but the pandemic has made them a necessity. But, just because they are popular doesn’t mean that they don’t come with unique considerations.
One major topic discussed around remote weddings is the question of wedding gifts. The truth is, it's totally possible that not all of your guests will buy you a wedding gift, as would be traditionally expected for a wedding celebrated in person. Don't let that stop you, though, from setting up a wedding registry. Many of your friends and family absolutely want to celebrate this huge milestone in your life—and a wedding registry will help them and you get the gifts you really want.
Here is everything you need to know about setting up a wedding registry when planning a remote wedding.
Your wedding registry should be easy to find and easy to use. You should have the links easily accessible on your wedding website and clearly labeled for guests. This lets your guests find the information they need as easily as possible.
Many guests like to purchase items the moment a registry goes live. Some might even want to send gifts early. The earlier you have a registry, the more you have one less thing to worry about. If you leave it too close to the wedding, you’ll likely have to field questions from relatives and friends eager to give.
You and your partner are building a life together, and part of that includes stuff. There’s no reason not to embrace the material side of weddings, if you do it right. Resist the temptation to put a whole bunch of ‘cool’ items on your registry, from niche kitchen gadgets to overly specialized tools, if you can’t envision actually using them. When the boxes arrive, you want to be excited, not overwhelmed.
What this means is that you and your partner should think through the sort of items you’ll actually use, and then look for versions of those items that make you excited. Try to come up with a list before you browse. You might have dishes, but this is your chance to think about dishes that will bring you joy every morning. You might have towels, but this is the time to choose a more luxurious set of towels.
The wedding registry allows guests to contribute to your celebration, so finding the sort of gifts that will allow you to feel celebrated is key.
Some couples also include experiences or other non-traditional registry categories, from support towards a honeymoon or charitable causes, and gift cards for beloved stores. These options give your guests a wider range of ways to contribute, and, while less traditional, are often useful and appreciated.
The wedding registry should have something for everyone. This means that you should have a range of gifts under $50 and some options over $200. You’ll want gifts that hit price points of $75, $100, and $150, as well as several under $30. The goal is for every guest to be able to get you a gift.
You can include gifts that might be more specific to your local communities. For example, you can include support for a local restaurant, gift cards for eating in, or excursions to local areas. Again, the key thing is to make sure that you are asking for something you’ll actually use.
For remote weddings, some couples find that they can invite a wider circle of friends and acquaintances. This is because restrictions on guests are no longer limited by location. If you have a number of guests attending who otherwise might not have been at the party, it's totally possible that not all of them will send along a gift.
Of course, guests are never obligated to give gifts, but it has become an expected part of the tradition. However, with remote weddings, the specifics of attending and the traditions associated with attendance are still in flux. Your wedding registry should definitely have smaller gifts for such guests, but it’s helpful to expect that some of the norms might play out differently.
For remote weddings, you should expect your gifts to arrive over a longer period of time. This is because some people might not give gifts until after the wedding, and some might send a gift very early. Fortuately Zola offers delayed shipment so your guests can order your gifts but you get to decide when they actually ship to you.
The remote wedding registry is not so different from a wedding registry for an on-location event. Start your registry with Zola today!