If you’re having a traditional wedding party, with a group of women as bridesmaids and a group of men as groomsmen, then you might have already selected the lucky souls who will stand beside you at the altar, not to mention help you out with a host of other wedding-related duties. The bridesmaids will most likely help the bride pick out the dress of her dreams, throw an engagement party and/or bridal shower, make the bachelorette party one to remember, and be there to help with those important day-of details. But what about the groomsmen duties?
It might seem like the bridesmaids have their work cut out for them and the groomsmen have it easy, but there are plenty of both traditional and lesser-known duties that the groomsmen can handle to make your day a breeze.
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There are four main duties that are typically handled by the groomsmen in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding:
1. The Bachelor Party
The groomsmen work with the best man to plan all aspects of the bachelor party. While the groom may have already spoken up about where he’d like the party to be held, it’s up to the groomsmen to figure out accommodations, activities, and transportation, as well as divvying out the costs between each groomsman so the groom’s expenses are covered.
2. A Wedding Gift
It is customary for the groomsmen to offer a gift to the groom, usually given at the bachelor party. We suggest all the groomsmen pitch in to get him one knock-his-socks-off gift, but that’s just us.
3. Groomsmen Attire
After the groomsmen’s wedding attire is chosen, it is each GM’s responsibility to get fitted for a tux or suit, or if the guys are wearing something more casual, to track down and purchase all wedding-day attire—and of course, to shell out the cash for it.
Tuxedo Tip: Whether all groomsmen are being fitted for suits on the same day or individually, it is best to have everyone’s measurements sent to a tailor two to four months before the wedding, especially if the wedding is during peak season. This ensures that everyone receives their attire without complication or rush orders.
4. Wedding Weekend Logistics
The groomsmen are also in charge of booking their own travel and hotel accommodations for the wedding weekend and, whenever transportation is not already provided, figuring out how they’ll get from place to place during the wedding festivities.
This one might go without saying, but all groomsmen should be at both the ceremony rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. If someone is going to be involved in the ceremony, it’s best that they are present for the rehearsal so that all the small details are ironed out—think where members of the wedding party will enter and exit, their order as they process, and whether they should stand or sit for the duration of the ceremony.
Wedding Day Duties
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Often overlooked, there are a number of ways those dashing groomsmen lend a hand to ensure the day goes by smoothly. Factor the following groomsmen duties into your day-of plan, and rest assured knowing everything will be taken care of.
1. Get Ready With The Groom
The groomsmen should arrive at the venue early to help the groom get dressed and to ensure he is calm and collected in the hours leading up to “I do.” Do whatever you can to make sure he is feeling great before he walks down the aisle. Also, make sure he’s hydrated and he eats something. The groomsmen also typically drive the groom to the ceremony location.
2. Go-To Groomsmen
Overall, on the day of the wedding, each groomsman is responsible for assisting the best man and groom leading up to the ceremony, while also being a point of contact for guests and vendors. Here are some great ways to get the groomsmen involved on your wedding day:
- Have groomsmen ensure that the couple, members of the wedding party, and important family members have corsages, bouquets, and/or boutonnieres prior to the ceremony.
- Have groomsmen familiarize themselves with the venue in order to best help guests. For example, groomsmen should be able to direct people to parking, restrooms, handicap accesses, exits, and of course, the bar.
- Place a few groomsmen near whatever space you designate for wedding gifts, and ask them to assist guests with carrying gifts.
3. Greeting And Escorting
Traditionally, groomsmen act as ushers to help guide guests to their seats before the ceremony. They also hand out ceremony programs, if applicable.
4. Stress-Free Send-Off
After leaving your amazing wedding, the last thing you want is to be worrying about whether everything is taken care when the festivities end. This is where the groomsmen duties come in:
- Car, limo, horse-drawn carriage… In whatever mode of transportation you leave your reception, the groomsmen are traditionally in charge of decorating it. Lewd paraphernalia need not apply, however.
- If you’re leaving for a honeymoon directly after the reception, designate the best man or a few groomsmen to ready the luggage so you and your new spouse can hit the road right away.
- Have groomsmen transport all the wedding gifts to an appropriate place so you don’t have to worry about leaving any precious cargo behind.
Take a look at your wedding itinerary. If there are any small tasks that you can take off your plate, we’re sure the gentlemen in your wedding are happy to offer some helping hands. Getting the whole bridal party involved is part of what will make your wedding so special, so don’t be afraid to ask for some help! And then be sure to show those trustworthy groomsmen your gratitude by gifting them with a lasting token of your appreciation and friendship—check out Zola’s collection of top-notch groomsmen gifts and find something that speaks to you and your crew.