What Is a Wedding Party?

  • A wedding party is a group of people chosen by the couple to support and celebrate them throughout their journey from engagement to marriage.
  • The people chosen to be in a wedding party are typically close friends and family members of the bride(s) or groom(s).
  • They are responsible for certain duties, both before and during the wedding itself. Some of these duties including:
    • Planning pre-wedding activities such as showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties.
    • Helping the bride and/or groom get dressed and ready on the day of the wedding.
    • Participating in the ceremony by standing nearby while a couple exchanges their vows.
    • Historically, members of the wedding party would be the witnesses to a marriage, and would sign off on any sort of legal documentation necessary.

What’s the Difference Between a Wedding Party and a Bridal Party?

  • A wedding party is the term for the entire groom of people who participate in the ceremony alongside the couple—the maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any children such as flower girls or ring bearers.
  • The bridal party, however, is just the group chosen by and supporting the bride.

Traditionally the bridal party is made up of only women. However, as more and more couples are choosing to do things in their own way, the bride is no longer confined to choosing just women to be in her support crew. Thus the term “wedding party” (or even “commitment crew”) is the more modern, all-inclusive term used to describe the special people chosen by the couple to surround and support them.

Who Should Be in My Wedding Party?

There are three categories of people who usually considered for inclusion in the wedding party:

  1. Siblings: Any siblings, including step-siblings or future siblings-in-law, are often first on the wedding party list.
  2. Close family: Cousins or other relatives near in age to the couple are also often a good fit for the wedding party.
  3. Best friends: The bride and/or groom’s dearest pals are another good choice for the wedding party—but they should be friends that have, or will, stand the test of time.

Traditional Wedding Party Roles

Here’s a quick breakdown of the titles and roles you’ll find in a traditional wedding party, as well as lengthier explanations for what each of these roles are expected to do.

  • Pro Tip: While these are the textbook divisions of matrimonial labor, however you choose to assign responsibilities is completely up to you and your partner. If you want to plan your own bachelorette party, skip it entirely, or skip having a wedding party for that matter, do what feels right for you. However you seek outside support during your planning, make sure you articulate nicely and clearly what you need from each of the important people in your life so that they can help you have the meaningful, important day you’re hoping for.

Quick Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles

  • Best Man: the groom’s main dude.
  • Groomsman: the groom’s auxiliary dudes.
  • Maid of Honor: the bride’s main lady.
  • Matron of Honor: the bride’s main lady, but she’s married.
  • Bridesmaid: the bride’s auxiliary ladies.
  • Junior Bridesmaid: usually tween-age family members or children of close friends.
  • Flower Children: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; petal-tossers.
  • Ring Bearer: usually somewhere between the ages of 3 and 12; ring or sign holder.

Detailed Look at Traditional Wedding Party Roles

  • Best Man: The best man is predominantly responsible for the social aspect of the groom’s wedding party. He is expected to:

    • Plan the bachelor party.
    • Help keep the groomsmen on time throughout the day.
    • Help out the groom and make sure he has everything he needs.
    • Assist with things like handing out programs or ushering before the ceremony.
    • Serve as keeper of the wedding rings (including handing them over at the correct moment during the ceremony).
    • Give a speech during the reception.
    • Share in the regular groomsmen’s responsibilities.
  • Maid or Matron of Honor: Traditionally, the maid (or matron) of honor attends all pre-wedding events that the bride attends. Here are the maid of honor’s expected duties:

    • Help plan or host the bridal party luncheon.
    • Help plan or host the bridal shower.
    • Help plan or host the bachelorette party.
    • Make sure all the bridesmaids are ready on time on the wedding day.
    • Provide refreshments during getting-ready hours.
    • Hold the bride’s bouquet during portions of the ceremony.
    • Help the bride navigate the bathroom in her gown.
    • Bustle the bride’s wedding dress before the reception.
    • Give a speech during the reception.
    • Shares in the regular bridesmaids’ responsibilities.
  • Bridesmaids & Groomsmen: These wedding attendants share many of the same duties. Both bridesmaids and groomsmen are expected to:

    • Attend—and perhaps even plan—pre-wedding events such as engagement parties, bachelor or bachelorette parties, wedding showers, and the ceremony rehearsal.
    • Buy appropriate wedding attire and accessories.
    • Buy the couple a wedding present.
    • Get ready with the bride or groom on the wedding day.
    • Process down the aisle and/or stand next to the couple.
    • Act as stand-in hosts as needed during the reception.
    • Hit the dance floor when requested.
    • Occasionally give a speech at the reception.
  • Parents of the Bride(s) or Groom(s): Traditionally, parents are expected to be involved in both the planning and the actual wedding day itself, and may also share financial responsibility for part or all of the wedding. The parents of the couple typically:

    • Serve as point people for extended or out-of-town family.

    • Serve as point people for those who need extra assistance during the ceremony and reception.

    • Some or all of the parents will give a toast at the reception, welcoming their new child-in-law and celebrating the union of their two families.

    • Mother of the Bride: The bride’s mother can serve a similar role to the MOH in that she provides an extra level of support throughout the planning process. Mothers of the bride usually help shop for the wedding dress and other important garments; she may also have a hand in planning the wedding shower, rehearsal dinner, and possibly a bridal luncheon for the bridal party and close female family members. On the wedding day, she helps the bride get ready, may walk her daughter down the aisle, and participate in the first dances.

    • Mother of the Groom: The groom’s mother may perform some or all of the above functions, though she usually plays a slightly smaller role than the mother of the bride. The mother of the groom takes part in the mother-son dance.

    • Father of the Bride: The bride’s father typically plays a smaller role in the run-up to the wedding, but has several duties on the day of the wedding. Some families choose to have a “first look” with the father of the bride, which allows the bride and her dad to spend some quality time together before the ceremony. The father of the bride often walks his daughter down the aisle and “gives her away” at the altar, either by himself or with the mother of the bride. He will also take part in the father-daughter dance.

    • Father of the Groom: The groom’s father’s role is often even more limited, though in recent years more and more grooms have included their fathers as members of their wedding party or even asked their dads to serve as their best men.

  • Other Family and Friends: Between (step)parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, you might have a whole horde of family knocking down your door to celebrate you and your partner on your wedding day...and that’s not even counting all your dear friends. Whether to choose to have a wedding party or not, you can find ways to expand your VIP roster by honoring your nearest and dearest with specific roles or responsibilities. Here are a few ideas (feel free to get creative with titles):

    • Ceremony reader
    • Ceremony musician or singer
    • Ceremony greeter who hands out programs
    • Ceremony usher
    • Guest book attendant

Do You Need to Have a Wedding Party?

The short answer is no—having a wedding party is definitely not a requirement if it doesn’t feel right to you and your partner. There are plenty of reasons why a couple might not want a wedding party: perhaps they have too many friends and family to choose from and don’t want to make tough choices, or perhaps they would prefer to have just the two of them up at the altar for a more intimate moment. If you’re eloping, having a very small wedding, or if this is not your first time getting married, having a wedding party might feel unnecessary. The choice to have a wedding party—and if so, who those people are—is totally up to you.