While the bridal bouquet toss is an exciting wedding tradition, not everyone is keen on throwing their bouquet into the mix—and for good reason. After all of the thought, budgeting, and planning that went into crafting your wedding florals, it comes as no surprise that you might question if you really should toss it. Below we get into the pros of both going for it and choosing not to, as well as an easy alternative that works as a win-win.
You may be in the camp that’s asking, “What’s the big deal about throwing your real wedding bouquet?” Well, while it’s a notable decoration and the classic centerpiece of your outfit, it also has a lot of history and symbolism. Dating back to ancient Rome, bouquets—which at the time consisted of herbs, grains, and spices, rather than flowers—were seen as symbols of new beginnings, fidelity, and fertility.
Later, in the Victorian era, exchanging flowers became a popular way of expressing one’s love. Given their romantic association, it wasn’t long before they began making appearances in weddings and, more specifically, wedding bouquets. Although the bouquet has evolved to be more of a decorative accessory than an omen, it still possesses a lot of meaning and sentimental value.
Traditional symbolism aside, wedding bouquets truly are a work of art. All at once your arrangement should complement your ensemble, fit in with your wedding style, and express your personality and individual style. This is all pretty important, considering it’s the decoration most likely to stand out both in photos and in person.
To achieve this, true artistry goes into putting one together, from selecting flowers that work seasonally, thematically, and color-wise, to arranging them into a harmonious design that you love. Because who wants to carry around a collection of flowers that they don’t think are beautiful?
All of this is to say, it’s much more than just a bundle of flowers. A lot of time, effort, and thought to go into crafting the very blooms that you’ll carry throughout your wedding day, so it only makes sense to ask if you must toss them at your reception—or if there are any other options.
For those who get bummed at the thought of literally throwing their perfectly tailored bouquet away, you do have a couple of alternatives. On one hand, you can forgo the bouquet toss entirely. That being said, we understand if you want to keep the exciting activity a part of your celebration.
In that case, when ordering flowers for your wedding, consider asking your florist to include a throw bouquet. This is a smaller, typically less expensive bouquet that’s created specifically to be tossed. It’s a win-win: You get to keep your special arrangement, while still tossing a pretty one to a lucky single lady.
Moreover, because throw bouquets mimic their larger counterparts, they can easily be used as decor earlier in the day, such as a centerpiece at your table or accent piece near the entrance, perhaps alongside a guestbook. Imagine how excited some guests will be when they discover that the flowers you’ll be tossing are the very ones that they saw upon entering the reception location.
However, a word of advice: If you’re going to be carrying real flowers yourself, make sure the ones you toss are real, too. It might be easier and cheaper to order a fake bouquet online, but doing so isn’t great etiquette. Even if you’re pretty certain that your guests won’t care, spend the little bit of extra money on the real stuff. If you’re lucky, your florist might even include it in your package for free (though, don’t just expect it to happen).
Now, you may be at a crossroads. On one hand, you want to uphold the bouquet toss tradition, but on the other hand, wedding bouquets can be very personal, sentimental, and not exactly cheap. In the spirit of total fairness, we’re going to take a look at the reasons why you might go for either.
So, should you toss your real bouquet at your wedding reception? Well, that’s entirely up to you. We know, cop-out answers aren’t always easy, but it honestly comes down to whether or not you want to keep your bouquet for yourself, be it for the rest of the night, week, or longer. Regardless of your decision, be sure to decide early on in your wedding planning process. Then, stick to your decision.
However, if there’s even a shadow of a doubt that you’ll want to toss your bouquet—and there probably is, if you’re still debating—go ahead and add a throw bouquet in with your florals. That way, even if you end up tossing yours, you had the option on the day of to keep it for yourself. You know the old saying: Better to be safe than sorry.