Ah, the wedding night. The first time you’re going to be alone with your spouse as a newly married couple. Though expectations may be sky high, try your best to keep everything in perspective. After all, you’ll likely both be exhausted from a long wedding day and night of celebrating. And don’t forget: You have your honeymoon to look forward to.
Don’t stress prepping for the wedding night—it doesn’t have to be complicated. Still, these tips can help you feel more prepared for your first night as a married couple.
Looking and feeling your best on the wedding night starts months before the wedding day. You may want to start a new skincare routine or see a dermatologist to take care of acne or ingrown hair. Whatever you do to prepare, make sure you’re eating fruits, vegetables, and other healthy foods, drinking plenty of water, and not overdoing it on diet or exercise. And if you can. try to get plenty of sleep the week before the wedding and especially the night before the big day.
Go ahead and celebrate all you wish—just remember to hydrate. It’s so important to have a glass of water in between cocktails during the wedding reception. Great sex and intimacy just won’t happen if you are both too drunk, so make sure to hydrate. Plus, getting enough water will keep your energy up throughout a very long day and evening, giving you the power you need to keep going after all that.
Between talking, toasting, and dancing for hours, you will likely both be starving by the time you get back to your hotel room or drive back home. Plan to have some food on hand. Ask if your caterer can pack up some of the appetizers or slices of cake you can eat as a late night treat. Otherwise, pack some snacks ahead of time. If all fails, there’s always the mini bar or late night delivery pizza.
Plan to set the atmosphere for the wedding night by packing some candles, rose petals to sprinkle on the bed, and any lube or toys you plan to use. Setting a relaxed and beautiful atmosphere in the honeymoon suite will get you both in the mood. (You can always save these things for the Honeymoon if you are too tired after the big day.)
Think about what you’d like to wear for your new spouse post-festivities (nothing at all is also acceptable!) Shop ahead for your wedding night lingerie, so you can find the perfect option. Remember, it’s going to be after a very long day, so don’t choose anything complicated or uncomfortable. Pick something you feel good and comfortable in, whether it’s a pair of silk boxers or a white cami or chemise.
You might be married now, but safety is still key for any wedding night sex that’s about to go down. If you are staying away from home on your wedding night, remember to pack any protection you need or usually use (condoms, birth control prescription, etc.).
Remember, prep for the wedding night doesn’t have to be complicated. Enjoy being alone together for the first time as a married couple and try to relax and have fun.