When it comes to wedding planning, there are a lot of moving parts to keep track of. Everything from the guest list, to finding a venue, to selecting vendors/carters are all things that you’ll have to check off your list. As an LGBTQ+ couple, working with vendors who are inclusive or are queer themselves may be important to you and your partner.
Wedding planning involves a lot of elements and being comfortable with your vendors is essential, because you will be working so closely with them throughout planning your big day. If you're wanting to work with vendors who are either LGTBQ+ or work with the community often, but you don't know where to look, don't worry. Here are five tips to help you find queer wedding vendors.
There are so many things to keep track of when it comes to planning a wedding, so hiring a wedding planner is a great idea if it’s in your budget. Assuming the planner is also part of the queer community, or at least works with them, this can also be a huge asset in more ways than one. Remember: Relationships are everything, and a wedding planner knows everyone in this arena. When hiring a wedding planner, it’s important to stress to them that you want to exclusively work with LGBTQ+ vendors.
Finding the perfect vendor can be a little like dating–you know when you meet the person if you will get along or not. Getting along with your vendor is so important because they will get to know you very well as you work together. One of the best ways to try and start your LGBTQ+ wedding vendor search is to first try and get recommendations from friends. A word of mouth recommendation is always great, and talking to people in your community about who to work with can be helpful.
If you know someone who has worked with a specific vendor, then you can get a sense of what it’s like to have them help plan your event. You can also get more insider info about prices, what their event planning style is like, as well as how they handled specific situations that came up. Knowledge is power, so using your friends and the bigger queer community to find things out is important.
Nowadays, there are websites dedicated to LBGTQ+ weddings and resources. And these sites often have sections geared towards LGBTQ+ vendors specifically, such as Bridezilla, Equally Wed, and Rainbow Wedding Network. These online marketplaces can be pretty comprehensive and allow you to search state by state. This can help give you an idea of queer vendors in your area and can be a great jumping-off point if you’re starting from scratch and aren't sure exactly where to start.
Social media is another great tool that can help connect you to LGBTQ+ wedding vendors and more. If you find a vendor whose work you like, they are LGBTQ+ and check your other boxes, odds are once you start to look a little more closely you will find other people to work with as well. Sending a DM to them can get the ball rolling and help get you closer to planning the queer wedding of your dreams.
Another avenue to pursue is asking people at your wedding venue. These people are also really well connected in the wedding industry and have preferred lists of people they work with. Speaking to them about what exactly you're looking for in a vendor and also making it known you want to work with LGBTQ+ ones can be helpful.
Talking to them may also give you some more information in terms of limiting who you can work with. Sometimes, due to contracts or other circumstances, there are specific vendors that the venue works with.
Weddings require a lot of planning and having the exact vendors you want is key. While it may sometimes take a little time to find the kinds of carters, florists, and other vendors you and your partner are after, it’s worth it in the end. Knowing that you are supporting the queer community, being true to who you are, and planning the wedding day you and your partner want is everything.