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Can't Agree On a Honeymoon Location? Here's What to Do

You can go anywhere in the world on your honeymoon—and you and your partner can't agree on a location. Here are five ways to finally decide where to go on your honeymoon.

By Kathleen Wong

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Here’s a newsflash: During the wedding planning process, a time will come when you and your SO disagree on something. Sometimes that something is small like deciding your wedding invitation font. Other times it turns out to be bigger like deciding your honeymoon destination. You want a lazy, luxurious beach retreat. Your partner wants an adventurous locale with ski slopes. What’s a couple to do? Read on for everything you need to know about how to deal when you and your partner can’t agree on the best honeymoon destination.


You know what they say, happy relationships are all about compromise! If you and your partner both have two very different ideas of a perfect honeymoon then it’s time to find a middle ground. For example, you could go with one of your trip ideas for the honeymoon and then you could take the other’s trip idea for an occasion like your first marriage anniversary trip.

While a honeymoon is definitely something to look forward to as you end your wedding festivities, it’s not the end-all, be-all of trips you’ll take together as a couple.

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Find a middle ground.

Make a list of the reasons why you chose your ideal honeymoon destination. You want to visit Paris for architecture, history, and museums, for example. Your SO should make a list of their reasons, too.

After you both have your respective lists, compare them together and see if there’s a place that embodies both of your lists. If your partner wrote that he or she wants to go to Mexico for the sunshine and food, maybe you could go to a destination such as Buenos Aires. There you get the rich architecture and history, as well as the desired weather.

Go half-and-half.

If you want a few days spent relaxing oceanside but your SO wants an exciting weekend in the city, don’t fret. There are ways to do both. No, we don’t mean booking two extravagant trips. Instead, split one big trip into two mini-moons. A mini-moon is a shorter (oftentimes less expensive) trip that many couples take after their wedding and ahead of a planned honeymoon.

Spend two or three days at a beach town before packing up the rental car and driving into the city. Of course, this idea isn’t feasible for all honeymoons. If you’re staying domestic, though, you can likely find a great spot that incorporates the peace you need and the energy your partner wants.

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Take a poll.

If, after much discussion, list-making, and debating, you still can’t decide on a honeymoon location, it’s time to use a lifeline and phone a friend. You can gather your closest friends and family to help you review the options and make a decision. They may even think of a solution that you haven’t considered.

Alternatively, if you’re really brave (and social media savvy), take it to Instagram and post a poll. Your followers may like the opportunity to weigh in and, again, may offer some resolution.

Ultimately your honeymoon location should be decided between you two. However, you may gain some valuable insight to help you narrow it down.

It’s all about you as a couple.

While it’s easy to get swept up in going on the perfect honeymoon, it’s important to remember that the honeymoon is an escape for you and your partner as newlyweds. Even if it’s not exactly how you pictured it in your own mind, it will still be an unforgettable time with your love.

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