The Best Small Wedding Venues in Shelter Island, NY

The Best Small Wedding Venues in Shelter Island, NY

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18 Wedding Venues in Shelter Island, NY

Historic estates, mansions
Up to 50 guests
Available on September 13, 2026
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Muttontown Country Club 
  • Up to 250 guests
  • Select services
  • Indoor & outdoor
  • Starts at $15,000

One Wedding at a Time, No Membership Required Experience the elegance of a private country club without the need for membership. Whether you're envisioning an outdoor reception, a grand ballroom wedding, or a dazzling black-tie affair, The Muttontown Club will bring your dream celebration to life. Our expert chefs and acclaimed catering services will craft a memorable menu tailored to your desires. From elaborate dinners to receptions and al fresco lunches, every meal is executed with impeccable service and flawless flair. Make your special day unforgettable—contact us today to start planning your perfect wedding.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Accommodates more than 200 guests
  • Versatile for various event styles
  • Provides catering services

Venue considerations

  • Large venue, not ideal for small guest lists
  • Does not allow pets
  • Not for you if you are drawn to more unconventional venues
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The Rams Head Inn 

5.0

Shelter Island Heights, NY
  • Up to 225 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Indoor & outdoor
  • Starts at $20,000

Please contact us directly to get more information, pricing and availability. Email corinna (a) the rams head inn . com, or text/call 6 3 1. 9 0 3. 2 3 5 5. Located on beautiful Shelter Island overlooking Coecles Harbor, The Ram's Head Inn has breath-taking water views. The hotel features 17 guest rooms, a private beach, hammocks and Adirondack chairs for our guests. The restaurant features the best in local fare with food coming almost exclusively from the east end of Long Island or from the Chef's garden. Website: the rams head inn .com

Why you'll love this venue

  • Historic touches
  • Caters to out-of-town guests
  • Provides catering services

Venue considerations

  • Not for you if you are looking for something nontraditional
  • Large venue, not ideal for small guest lists
  • Lighting and sound are not included
Corinna was great to work with! The lead up to the wedding and day of all went very smoothly and it was a perfect day. Highly recommend
Laura H., 2 years ago
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Moby's NY 

5.0

East Hampton, NY
  • Up to 250 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Indoor & outdoor
  • Starts at $30,000

Moby’s, situated in a lovingly restored 1880s home along the scenic stretch of Highway 27 leading to Montauk in East Hampton, beckons with its seasonal Italian cuisine, cocktails, and everlasting summertime enchantment. The restaurant offers a blend of indoor, outdoor, and patio dining experiences, providing a charming ambiance for culinary delights amidst historic allure. Amidst this charming backdrop, Moby's transforms into a versatile event venue, catering to gatherings of all sizes, from intimate dinners to grand affairs, Moby's offers a range of event spaces providing a seamless indoor-outdoor experience.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Has a glamorous vibe
  • Provides a dedicated team on-site
  • Flexible event spaces

Venue considerations

  • Not wheelchair accessible
  • Does not allow pets
  • On-site parking not available
Awarded Best of Zola
Not only is Moby's a beautiful spot to have a wedding, but the team there is truly the best to work with. John went above and beyond to make our dream wedding day come to life and made us feel so special and taken care of. The communication was amazing and the service was next level throughout the whole planning process. John knew exactly what to do and accommodated all my requests. Planning a wedding was made so much easier by the Moby's team and our guests absolutely loved the food and setting. I would recommend Moby's to anyone wanting a Hamptons wedding. If I had to do it all over again, I would choose Moby's every time.
Meg H., 8 months ago
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Alimentari Beach Montauk 

5.0

Montauk, NY
  • Up to 135 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Indoor
  • Starts at $5,000

Founded in 2021, Alimentari Beach originally an Italian market, opened its doors with the intention to build community around good quality food. With its success, the market has since evolved into a restaurant space. Still chasing that same ethos, Alimentari’s mission is to bring the community of Montauk together through good food, wine, and atmosphere.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Has a relaxed and casual vibe
  • Offers full-service amenities
  • Provides lighting and sound

Venue considerations

  • Not wheelchair accessible
  • No on-premises lodging options
  • On-site parking not available
Alimentari Beach hosted an incredible post wedding brunch on my daughters wedding weekend. From start to finish, the staff flawlessly executed the perfect menu, that we collaboratively designed to fit everyone's dietary needs and suited the perfect morning after meal. From their breakfast pizza creation to our savory favorites, as well as traditional brunch fare, Alimentari did an excellent job. They were easy to work with and accommodated our every need. It was the perfect way to end a beautiful weekend.
Suzy H., 3 months ago
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Essex Steam Train & Riverboat 

5.0

Essex, CT
  • Up to 230 guests
  • Select services
  • Indoor & outdoor

We make our beautiful facilities, equipment, and catering staff available for weddings, reunions, meetings, and other events. We have four beautiful indoor/outdoor event spaces to choose from, all different and unique in their own way!

Why you'll love this venue

  • Has a dance floor for celebration
  • Provides lighting and sound
  • Space for a large guest list

Venue considerations

  • Venue feels large for events with small guest lists
  • Not for you if you are looking for something nontraditional
  • Not wheelchair accessible
I have loved coming to the Essex Steam Train & Riverboat museum since I was a child so when my husband and I got engaged, we knew we had to get married here. It was such a magical venue and was reasonably priced. They truly don't try to nickel-and-dime you like a lot of other wedding venues, they just want you to have a good experience. The bridal suite was a beautifully decorated air-conditioned train car. We also decided to add on a roundtrip steam train ride down to the CT river and a steamboat cruise as our cocktail hour (honestly didn't cost as much as you'd think...). Our reception was inside the hall and was perfectly air-conditioned and decorated. We did a buffet option and the food was good! If you decide to get married outside, just remember that it IS an active train yard so make sure your officiant has a microphone. Meredith and Tyler were very easy to work with while planning the event. I highly recommend getting married here. Oh, and your photos will look INSANE.
Kayla M., 2 months ago
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The Wadsworth Mansion At Long Hill Estate 

5.0

Middletown, CT
  • Up to 200 guests
  • Select services
  • Indoor & outdoor
  • Starts at $30,000

The Wadsworth Mansion, a nineteenth-century Beaux Art style mansion, is the quintessential country estate. Graced by expansive lawns and surrounded by 103 acres of wooded parklands the Mansion reflects an era of grandeur and elegance. There are multiple locations for outdoor ceremonies and guests can enjoy cocktails and dance on the terrace under the stars. The Mansion can accommodate two hundred guests for a seated dinner reception and larger numbers for cocktail parties. Only one event is scheduled each day and couples can select from a list of approved caterers to create the wedding of their dreams.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Has a dance floor to dance the night away
  • Versatile for various event styles
  • Private area for the wedding party

Venue considerations

  • Not wheelchair accessible
  • No built-in audiovisual options
  • No on-site guest accommodations
Weeks later, we're still absolutely gushing over the Mansion! It was the perfect venue for our wedding. They had it all, from phenomenal staff to luxurious facilities, not to mention the stunning views. We had the pleasure of working with Alexandra(Alex) we could not have asked for a better person! Alex knew all of our family members and bridal party’s names, and was extremely personable. She went above and beyond to make sure we were taken care of all night. She brought me a snack before the ceremony and continuously brought me my water all day and night (without me asking)They truly make you feel like a VIP throughout your entire day and their top notch team(along with our caterer David Alan) ensured that everything ran smoothly behind the scenes. In the early stages of planning we worked with Jessica Hess and she is extremely helpful and communicative. The mansion truly felt like home for the day. We hosted our ceremony on the vista , cocktail hour was on the terrace, and we had dinner in the East ballroom. Guests were in awe of the estate (we also lucked out with absolutely perfect weather), and how every detail was perfectly executed. Our special day was truly a dream and felt like it was out of a movie! We could not recommend the Wadsworth Mansion enough, and can't wait to return for future celebrations. It's definitely well-worth the investment and would 10/10 recommend hosting your special day here! Ps ask about the beautiful custom made bar (my stepdad built it) Our wedding Venue: The Wadsworth Mansion Photographer: Crystal Photography Second Shooter: Jenn Tee Photography Videographer: Jf3 Productions DJ: AMS - Mikey Tierney Caterer: David Alan Hospitality Group Bar: Cocktail Crusiers Gown: Grace Loves Lace Flower Girl Dress: Grace Loves Lace Tuxedo & Suits: Generation Tux Makeup: Upstyle Co. Autumn Starke Hair: The Hair Factory - Danielle Gagnon Getting Ready Suite: The Apiary Collective Cake: J Cakes MOB Dress: Camilyn Beth Bridal Bouquet & Boutonnière: Haworths Flower
Arianna C., a year ago
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Bourne Mansion 

5.0

Oakdale, NY
  • Up to 300 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Indoor

This historic Vanderbilt mansion is a turn-of-the-century work of art that offers a traditional and classic setting for the grandest black tie affairs. From lawn events hosting over 1,000 guests, to weddings and corporate affairs hosting 300 guests, Bourne Mansion personifies luxury and grandeur and the elaborate celebrations of yesteryear. Bourne Mansion is conveniently located, only 90 minutes from New York City, yet worlds away.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Offers full-service amenities
  • Classic elegance
  • Has a dance floor to dance the night away

Venue considerations

  • Not for you if you are drawn to more unconventional venues
  • Not wheelchair accessible
  • Best for events with big guest lists
Awarded Best of Zola
We got married 1/5/25 but had been working with Miriam for probably a year and a half before our big day. She was always so personable with us a treated us like family. Words cannot describe the love and care we felt from Jake, our maître D and Samantha, our bridal attendant, on our wedding day. We were cared for tediously and effortlessly. We felt like at ease, happy and totally relaxed. I needed Samantha and didn’t even know it, I am forever indebted to her - she could not have been more attentive and wonderful. Comforting me, assuring me, getting me where I need to be and when. So friendly, kind and amazing. Thank god for Jake. He is so special and we’re so lucky we got him as our maître D. He deems himself as a “yes man” and he is not lying. Anything you could have ever wanted from him, he’d deliver. We wanted for nothing, had wonderful direction from him all night and he took care of EVERYTHING!  The night was flawless, amazing, perfect and all we could have ever hoped for. The staff at Bourne is unmatched, we made the right choice with this venue. Guests will be in awe of the venue and talk about the food for years to come. I wish I could do it all again. Thank you Bourne mansion & staff for the best night of our lives! I don’t have all my pics back yet!
Sara C., 5 months ago
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Eolia Mansion at Harkness State Park 
Waterford, CT
  • Up to 150 guests
  • Select services
  • Indoor & outdoor
  • Starts at $3,800

Harkness Memorial State Park is set on 230 seaside acres of sweeping lawns with panoramic views of Long Island Sound. Eolia, the Italian villa style mansion was the elegant summer home of the Harkness Family. Formal gardens overflow with color and gentle shore breezes transport your guests back

Why you'll love this venue

  • Provides a dedicated team on-site
  • Provides catering services
  • Has a dance floor to dance the night away

Venue considerations

  • Not wheelchair accessible
  • On-site parking not available
  • Does not allow pets
Guilford Yacht Club 
Guilford, CT
  • Up to 220 guests
  • Select services
  • Indoor & outdoor

A beautiful club located on the West River with Dock ownership, rentals, clubhouse and dockside memberships available. The Guilford Yacht Club is a full service facility providing yachting, swimming, tennis and various social activities in a true resort environment. As far as the eye can see, one is surrounded by undisturbed natural beauty, including spectacular views of Long Island Sound and Faulkner’s Island.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Unique barn setting
  • Classic seating dinner
  • Accommodates more than 200 guests

Venue considerations

  • Additional event staff required
  • No in-house lighting and sound packages available
  • Not for you if you are looking for something nontraditional
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Haley Mansion at the Inn at Mystic 
Mystic, CT
  • Up to 220 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Outdoor
  • Starts at $2,000

The Haley Mansion, located in the heart of Mystic, Connecticut, is a historic estate that offers a truly unforgettable setting for your wedding day. Originally built in 1904, the mansion seamlessly blends classic New England charm with thoughtful modern updates, creating an atmosphere that feels both timeless and inviting. The property provides a variety of picturesque spaces for every part of your celebration. Say “I do” in the secluded garden, framed by lush greenery and natural beauty, then dine and dance the night away under the elegant marquee—an open, adaptable space perfect for personalizing your reception. The mansion’s unique character and scenic views set the stage for a day that’s truly special. With all-inclusive packages, in-house catering and bar service, and a dedicated planning team to handle every detail, the Haley Mansion allows you to focus on what matters most—celebrating your love story in a place as special as the moment itself.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Offers full-service amenities
  • Space for a large guest list
  • All-inclusive venue packages

Venue considerations

  • Does not allow pets
  • Large venue, not ideal for small guest lists
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Stone Acres Farm 
Stonington, CT
  • Up to 200 guests
  • Select services
  • Indoor & outdoor
  • Starts at $13,500

Stone Acres Farm is a sixty-three acre working farm located in the historic coastal New England town of Stonington, Connecticut. The property's rolling hills, gardens, and acres of vegetable production are open to visitors. We celebrate natural farming, sustainable food, culinary education and the preservation of open space, cultural landscapes, and historic structures.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Private area for the wedding party
  • Promotes a party atmosphere
  • Rustic-chic setting

Venue considerations

  • No in-house lighting and sound packages available
  • Not for you if you prefer a more modern aesthetic
  • Best for events with big guest lists
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The Estate 
New Haven, CT
  • Up to 200 guests
  • Select services
  • Indoor & outdoor
  • Starts at $4,500

NOTE: For additional information about The Estate, please email us directly via our website. The Estate is a countryside wedding venue located in New Haven, Connecticut. Nestled near the flowing waters of the coastline, this historic property is located on 12 acres and provides a refined setting for couples wanting to celebrate their special day in style. To begin your day on the right note, you can use the wedding suites for pre-ceremony preparations. Receptions are held outside in our elegant sailcloth tent while the mansion is a wonderful choice for hosting the cocktail reception. For your big day, The Estate is exclusively yours, giving you and your loved ones the time to create unforgettable memories together. When selecting The Estate as your wedding venue, the in-house event coordinator will work with you to ensure that your dream celebrations become a reality. Contact us today to learn more!

Why you'll love this venue

  • Both indoor and outdoor options
  • Provides lighting and sound
  • Surrounded by beautiful vineyards

Venue considerations

  • Does not provide event staff
  • Does not have a dance floor
  • No on-site guest accommodations
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Heavitree of Griswold Bed and Breakfast 
Griswold, CT
  • Up to 100 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Indoor & outdoor
  • Starts at $2,500

Our ancestors settled here in 1635 from Heavitree, England, hence the name. We are one of the few longest-living farms to continue in the founder’s name “Geer.” The Heavitree is an original 18th-century building saved and moved to its current location, a 140+ acre farm started by our ancestors in 1700. The original structure was a tavern in Rhode Island, saved from destruction by Charlotte Geer to complement her family’s historic farmland. With twelve rooms, including four sleeping chambers, modern amenities, and unique 18th-century rooms, the 4,780 sq. ft. farmhouse offers a historic experience. Enjoy the vast lawns, fields, gardens, and beautiful private vistas.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Exudes old-world charm
  • Full catering menu to choose from
  • Caters to out-of-town guests

Venue considerations

  • Not for you if you're looking for a sleek and contemporary space
  • Couple must handle cleanup and setup
  • No built-in audiovisual options
Meadowbrook Estate & Mansion 
Marlborough, CT
  • Up to 200 guests
  • Select services
  • Indoor & outdoor

Meadowbrook Estate Inn and Event Venue is a beautiful venue with accommodations set in the rolling countryside of Marlborough, Connecticut. We offer luxurious lodging with private suites, spa baths situated perfectly between Boston and New York. Our grounds and ballroom also offer a safe environment for full-service events, weddings, family reunions & retreats. Create that custom elegant lodging vacation or plan your next event with us. Your wedding vision can be fulfilled with all your events held in one beautiful location. Our elite full-service event planning company can customize everything -from having your rehearsal dinner, Bridal Party Preparation, your Dream Wedding - to the After Party Brunch.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Classic elegance
  • Feels like a getaway
  • Lush gardens

Venue considerations

  • Dance floor not included
  • On-site parking not available
  • Not wheelchair accessible
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Three Village Inn 
Stony Brook, NY
  • Up to 200 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Indoor
  • Starts at $4,300

Our Master and Signature Suites are the ideal getaway retreat for that perfect occasion. In an effort to ensure that our guests enjoy their stay, we offer luxury accommodations, complimentary high-speed internet access, and courtesy discounts towards the Stony Brook Village Shopping Center.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Full catering menu to choose from
  • Creates a sense of togetherness
  • Exudes old-world charm

Venue considerations

  • Not wheelchair accessible
  • Best for events with big guest lists
  • No in-house lighting and sound packages available
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The Mansion at West Sayville 
West Sayville, NY
  • Up to 220 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Indoor & outdoor

Lavish glass enclosed patio, spectacular panoramic views of the Great South Bay.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Provides event staff
  • Provides setup and cleanup
  • Dressing room available

Venue considerations

  • Does not allow pets
  • No on-site guest accommodations
  • Venue feels large for events with small guest lists
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Insignia 
Smithtown, NY
  • Up to 250 guests
  • All-inclusive
  • Indoor & outdoor

At Insignia, every wedding is a wonderful creation that’s as refreshingly different as your love together. Our elegant, modern décor both indoors and out is a beautiful departure from typical wedding halls. Combining the look and feel of a Hamptons-style mansion with a chic, upscale Manhattan restaurant, it sets the stage for a truly memorable experience.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Has a glamorous vibe
  • Provides setup and cleanup
  • Flexible event spaces

Venue considerations

  • Not wheelchair accessible
  • No free parking
  • Does not allow pets
Nathan Hale Homestead 
Coventry, CT
  • Up to 250 guests
  • Raw space
  • Outdoor
  • Starts at $500

Built in 1776, the Nathan Hale Homestead is a National Historic Landmark and the birthplace of Connecticut’s State Hero, Nathan Hale. The property features an 18th-century English Barn with rare gunstock timber framing, a charming 19th-century Dairy Barn, and open pastures surrounded by stone walls and forest. This beautiful home offers a quintessentially New England backdrop for your wedding day or other event.

Why you'll love this venue

  • Provides event staff
  • Offers full flexibility in setup and decor
  • Rustic-chic setting

Venue considerations

  • Not wheelchair accessible
  • No venue-provided food services
  • No dedicated areas for getting ready

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About wedding venues in Shelter Island, NY

Why is New York the Perfect Wedding Destination?

New York gives you incredible variety for your special day, from Manhattan's iconic skyline to the charming countryside of Upstate. You can enjoy timeless elegance at The Plaza Hotel with its grand ballrooms overlooking Central Park, or take in breathtaking panoramic views of Manhattan at Tribeca Rooftop. Brooklyn offers photography-friendly industrial-chic spaces like The Foundry with its character-filled exposed brick and factory windows. Head Upstate and you'll find City Winery Hudson Valley where your celebration unfolds against the backdrop of a working vineyard with mountain views that change beautifully with each season. April sees the most wedding inquiries in New York, showing just how many couples are drawn to the region during spring's beautiful blooming season.

What's the Reality of Wedding Costs in New York?

Expect to pay more for your New York wedding than the national average of $6,500-$12,000 for venues alone. New York venues typically cost around $16,709 which makes up about 22% of your total wedding budget. Your overall costs will vary based on how many guests you're hosting:

Guest CountTotal Wedding Budget
50 guests (small wedding)$32,316
100 guests$54,844
150 guests$76,011
200 guests$94,911
250 guests$113,810
300 guests (large wedding)$132,709

Your other major expenses will include catering at $13,367 (18%), bar services running $10,694 (14%), florals at $8,177 (11%), planners costing $6,044 (8%), photography at $5,119 (7%), videography at $4,622 (6%), entertainment at $2,298 (3%), cake and desserts at $1,067 (1%), and hair and makeup averaging $550 (1%).

How Do NYC Wedding Venues Compare to Upstate Locations?

NYC venues offer you urban sophistication with distinctive skyline views. At Tribeca Rooftop + 360° you'll enjoy floor-to-ceiling windows showcasing Manhattan panoramas while The Plaza presents opulent ballrooms featuring chandeliers ornate molding and gold accents. The 620 Loft & Garden gives you a stunning rooftop terrace overlooking St. Patrick's Cathedral and Fifth Avenue.

Upstate venues surround you with natural beauty and historic architecture. City Winery Hudson Valley welcomes you to a renovated factory featuring vaulted ceilings stone walls and vineyard views. You can host up to 350 guests here and customize your outdoor ceremony areas to create exactly the atmosphere you're dreaming of.

Which New York Venues Offer Outstanding Culinary Experiences?

You can treat your guests to Two Michelin star cuisine at Manhatta perched 60 floors high in the Financial District where Executive Chef Justin Bogle creates memorable dishes like hamachi and black truffle dumplings. The River Cafe in Brooklyn serves Michelin-starred cuisine featuring Hudson Valley foie gras and Nantucket Bay scallops with Brooklyn Bridge views right outside your window. For a farm-to-table experience Blue Hill at Stone Barns in Westchester County offers cuisine sourced directly from their on-site farm with their HayLoft space accommodating anywhere from 40 to 260 guests.

Where Can You Find Accessible Wedding Venues in New York?

For couples prioritizing accessibility 620 Loft & Garden offers customizable settings that can work with various needs though you'll want to confirm specific features during your planning. Prospect Park Boathouse and Central Park Conservatory Garden provide accessible options with proper pathways for all your guests. Always ask about specific accommodations like wheelchair ramps elevators and accessible restrooms when you're researching potential venues to ensure everyone can fully participate in your celebration.

How Can Guests Participate Remotely at New York Weddings?

Historic Manhattan venues can make remote guests feel included by incorporating virtual tours during ceremony breaks while Midtown Loft & Terrace supports interactive platforms that go beyond simple passive streaming. You might consider venues in Chelsea or SoHo that can enhance those famous skyline views with live streaming that includes interactive elements like virtual photobooths live chats or virtual toasts. These features help create genuine engagement for participants joining your special day from afar.

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