FAQs

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When should I RSVP by?

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Kindly RSVP by February 15, 2027 - or better yet, as soon as you open your formal invitation! You won’t want to miss the party of the year, and let’s be real… Grace sleeps better when the spreadsheet is happy.

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Are kids welcome?

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We absolutely adore kids (Grace especially!), but to create a relaxed, 'grown-up' atmosphere, our wedding will be adults-only - except for our sweet ring bearer. We hope you understand and will join us for a day full of love, laughter, and celebration.

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Can I bring a plus one?

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As much as we’d love to invite everyone, our venue has strict capacity limits - so we’re only able to accommodate the specific guests listed on your invitation. If you’ve been given a plus-one, it’ll be clearly noted - no guesswork required! We know this might be disappointing, and we truly appreciate your understanding. Keeping our guest list intimate allows us to celebrate meaningfully with the people we love most, and we’re so grateful you’re one of them.

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What do I do if I can’t make it?

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We’ll miss you like crazy if you can’t make it - seriously, what could be more fun?! But if you must skip the celebration, please RSVP “Will not attend” so we can plan accordingly (we promise not to take it too personally). Just a reminder: RSVPs are due by February 15, whether you're joining us or not. Your response helps us make sure every detail is just right!

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Is there a dress code?

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Our dress code is Formal - think polished, elevated, and wedding-ready. What does “Formal” mean? Formal attire means dressing up in a refined, elegant way for an evening celebration. You’re welcome to lean dressy, but tuxedos and bow ties are not expected or required. For Women: • Floor-length gowns or formal tea length/'midi' dresses • Elegant heels or dressy flats • Classic, sophisticated styles that feel special For Men: • Dark or neutral suits with dress shirts • Neckties encouraged (no bow ties needed) • Dress shoes required Need outfit inspiration? Search “The ABC’s of Wedding Dress Code Terminology – Haute Fêtes” for helpful visuals and examples. Thank you for helping us create a gorgeous, elevated atmosphere. We can’t wait to celebrate with you and see everyone dressed to impress! 💫

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I have a food allergy, can I make a special request?

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Your comfort and safety mean the world to us, especially when it comes to food! To ensure all our guests can dine with peace of mind, our entire wedding menu will be 100% nut-free - no peanuts, tree nuts, or nut-based ingredients of any kind. If you have any other dietary needs, gluten-free, vegetarian, dairy-free, or allergies like shellfish, please let us know when you RSVP so we can plan accordingly and make sure there’s something delicious for you on the menu. Each table will have a dedicated server, and we kindly ask that you inform your server of any dietary restrictions at the start of the meal! Have questions or concerns before the big day? Don’t hesitate to reach out - we want everyone to feel cared for and enjoy every single bite!

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Are you registered? Where?

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We’re registered on Zola, where you’ll find a thoughtfully curated selection! If you feel called to give, we would be so grateful for contributions toward our honeymoon as we plan the vacation of a lifetime!! That said, for those who love giving a tangible gift, we’ve included meaningful items as well! Zola makes everything easy - you can contribute directly through the site, purchase a physical gift, or use the provided links to shop from other retailers. Gifts can be shipped straight to us, or shipped to you! We’ve included options at a range of price points to make giving comfortable for everyone. Most importantly, your love and support mean the world to us, and truly, celebrating with you is the greatest gift of all. 🤍

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Will transportation be provided?

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Transportation will not be provided, but valet parking will be available. We highly recommend using Uber or Lyft so you can fully enjoy all the party has to offer and avoid ending the night with an unexpected meet-and-greet with Suffolk County Police Department :/

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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?

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Please arrive no later than 4:30 PM to join us for light refreshments and hors d’oeuvres before the ceremony begins. We’d love for you to be part of this special pre-celebration moment! Valet parking will be provided - just pull up, hand off your keys, and head inside. No stress, no long walk. If you know us, you know we run on time! Late arrivals won’t be admitted during the ceremony, so come early, grab a bite, take some selfies, and get ready to celebrate. We can’t wait to see your smiling faces!

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Can I take pictures during the ceremony?

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Our ceremony will be unplugged - no phones, no cameras, just presence. We kindly ask that you keep all devices tucked away so everyone (including our photographers, videographers, and content creators) has a clear view of the magic. Think of it as a chance to fully soak in the moment - no screens, just real life. Our fabulous usherettes will be on hand to gently, and sassily, remind guests. So relax, be present, and help us make this moment truly picture-perfect.

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Will the ceremony be indoors or outdoors?

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Our ceremony is planned outdoors, with cocktail hour in a mostly indoor space that opens to the outdoors, weather permitting, of course! We’re crossing our fingers (and maybe even burying a sausage... it’s a thing) for the perfect day. So send up a prayer, light a candle, manifest that sunshine, or hire an Etsy weather witch if you must. We’re fully committed to beautiful skies and that dreamy indoor-outdoor flow.

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Will there be seating during cocktail hour?

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Yes! There will be seating for all guests in a variety of ways, including outdoor tables, cocktail tables, couches, loveseats, and large cushioned chairs. Plenty of spots to sit, relax, and enjoy!

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Can I take photos and videos during the reception?

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Yes, absolutely! While our ceremony will be unplugged (we want your eyes on us, not your screens), the reception is fair game. Snap photos, film videos, and dance like it’s the best party ever - because it will be! We’d love to see your behind-the-scenes shots, so don’t forget to tag us or send them our way.

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Will there be an open bar?

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Yes, there will be an open bar! Please drink responsibly and celebrate with us safely.

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What time will the reception end? Is there an after party?

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The reception will end at 10:30 PM, and there will be no formal after party. We will most likely be passing out from pure joy, total exhaustion, and dead social batteries after firing on all cylinders all day. That said, you are more than welcome to keep the party going - we just won’t be there 😂Uber to a local bar, have the best time, and please send us all the photos and videos to enjoy the next morning.

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What should we do if we need to leave the reception early?

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We kindly ask that you skip the formal goodbyes if you head out before the reception ends - not because we don’t love you (we absolutely do!), but because we’ll be in full party mode: dancing, chatting, and soaking it all in. Grace, usually the queen of the Irish exit, won’t be sneaking out early this time, so let her have her moment! If you need to head out early, feel free to slip away quietly. No need to pull us from the dance floor. A sweet text after the fact works just fine (bonus points if you mention how no wedding will ever top ours 😉). But if you’re there ’til the end? We want all the hugs, happy tears, and heartfelt goodbyes. And yes - even Grace will be accepting hugs on her wedding day. Consider it your once-in-a-lifetime chance!

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Where should I stay? Are there hotel blocks?

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Yes! We are currently working on securing hotel blocks for our guests. Check back here soon for updates and booking details!

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Who will be changing their last name?

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After lots of love, reflection, and late-night conversations, we’ve joyfully decided that Vincent will be taking Grace’s last name - DeNicola! While it may not be the most traditional path, it’s one that feels deeply meaningful to both of us. Grace has always cherished her last name and is proud to carry on the DeNicola legacy, especially with just her and her sister to continue it. For Vincent, this choice also carries personal significance, as he doesn’t have a close relationship with his biological father. We’re excited to step into this next chapter hand in hand, with a name that reflects the love, respect, and future we’re building together.

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Why April 9th?

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April 9th isn’t just a date - it’s a legacy. It’s the day Grace’s parents were married, and in 2027, they’ll be celebrating their 33rd wedding anniversary. Their love story is one for the books - filled with deep respect, unwavering support, belly laughs, and the kind of partnership that only grows stronger with time. By choosing this date, we’re honoring the example they’ve set for us, while also celebrating the love that surrounds us from both of our families. We’ve been lucky to witness not just one, but two marriages that have taught us about commitment, kindness, and joy. We couldn’t imagine a better day to say “I do” than on the anniversary of one of the greatest love stories we know - carrying forward the values of love and family that both of our parents have instilled in us.