FAQs
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Who will be changing their last name?
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After lots of love, reflection, and late-night conversations, we’ve joyfully decided that Vincent will be taking Grace’s last name - DeNicola! While it may not be the most traditional path, it’s one that feels deeply meaningful to both of us. Grace has always cherished her last name and is proud to carry on the DeNicola legacy, especially with just her and her sister to continue it. For Vincent, this choice also carries personal significance, as he doesn’t have a close relationship with his father. We’re excited to step into this next chapter hand in hand, with a name that reflects the love, respect, and future we’re building together.
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When should I RSVP by?
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Pretty please RSVP by February 15, 2027 - or better yet, the moment you open the invite! You know you won’t want to miss the party of the year, and let’s be honest… Grace will sleep way better knowing your reply is in. Help keep our wedding spreadsheet dreams alive and RSVP ASAP!
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Are kids welcome?
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We absolutely adore kids (especially Grace - she can’t resist a little one’s smile!). That said, in order to create a relaxed, grown-up atmosphere where everyone can fully enjoy the celebration, we’ve decided to keep our wedding adults-only - with the sweet exception of our adorable ring bearer. We hope you understand and will still join us for a day filled with fun, laughter, and love. While there won’t be little ones running around, we promise it’ll be a celebration everyone will enjoy!
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Can I bring a plus one?
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As much as we’d love to invite everyone (and trust us, we really would), our venue has strict capacity limits - and we need to stick to them. That means we’re only able to accommodate the specific guests listed on your invitation. If you’ve been given a plus one, you’ll see it clearly noted - no guesswork, decoding, or detective work needed! We know this might be tough, and we genuinely appreciate your understanding. Keeping our guest list tight allows us to celebrate fully and meaningfully with the people closest to us - and we’re so grateful to have you there to share in it.
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What do I do if I can’t make it?
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We’ll miss you so much if you can’t make it - seriously, what else could you possibly be doing?! But if you must miss the fun, please RSVP “Will not attend” so we can plan accordingly (and try not to take it too personally). Just a reminder: all RSVPs are due by February 15 - whether you're joining us or not. Your response helps us make sure every detail is just right!
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Is there a dress code?
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We’re so excited to celebrate with you - and we want everyone to feel confident, comfortable, and ready to party! Our dress code is cocktail attire: stylish, semi-formal, and celebration-ready. For Women: - Cocktail dresses, dressy midi dresses, or chic jumpsuits - Heels, dressy sandals, or elevated flats - Think festive and polished, but no need to go full Met Gala (unless you really want to) For Men: - Suits or tailored jackets with dress pants - Dress shirts (ties optional) - Feel free to show off your style - just keep it sharp and wedding-worthy A Few Friendly Notes: Ladies, please avoid white, cream, or shades of blue - those are reserved for the wedding party. And as much as we love your individuality, if you show up in jeans, sneakers, or anything resembling athleisure… our wedding coordinator has been instructed to handle all those cases and I wouldn't want to mess with the woman with the clipboard! Need a little outfit inspo? We’ve got you covered: 👉 The A B C’s of Wedding Dress Code Terminology – Haute Fêtes (copy and paste the title of this into your browser!) We can’t wait to see everyone looking fabulous and feeling great!
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I have a food allergy, can I make a special request?
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Your comfort and safety mean the world to us - especially when it comes to food! Because we have many loved ones with nut allergies, we’ve made the decision to have an entirely nut-free menu for our wedding. That means no peanuts, tree nuts, or nut-based ingredients of any kind. Every dish will be prepared without nuts to ensure everyone can dine with peace of mind. If you have any other dietary needs or allergies - such as gluten-free, vegetarian, dairy-free, or shellfish allergies - please let us know when you RSVP so we can plan accordingly and make sure there’s something delicious for you. Each table will have its own dedicated waiter, and we kindly ask that you let your server know about any allergies or dietary restrictions before placing your order, even if you’ve already listed them on your RSVP. That extra step helps make sure nothing gets missed! If you have any questions or concerns ahead of time, don’t hesitate to reach out. We want everyone to feel cared for and enjoy every single bite of the celebration!
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Are you registered? Where?
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We’re registered on Zola, where you’ll find a fun mix of gifts from all kinds of stores and sites - from cozy home essentials to travel adventures and everything in between! We’ve included a little something for everyone, with options at a variety of price points. Your love and support mean the world to us, and we’re truly so grateful. Your presence is the greatest gift - but hey, we won’t say no to some shiny new pots and pans either!
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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?
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We kindly ask all guests to arrive no later than 4:30 PM to join us for hospitality before the ceremony begins. We’ll be serving light refreshments and passed hors d’oeuvres, and we’d love for you to be part of this special pre-celebration moment with us. Valet parking will be provided, so feel free to pull right up to the entrance - no parking stress, no long walk, just hand off your keys and head inside. If you know us, you know we’re a punctual pair, and we’re keeping things running right on schedule. Please note: late arrivals will NOT be able to enter during the ceremony, so come early, grab a bite, take some selfies, and settle in - we truly can’t wait to see all your smiling faces!
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Can I take pictures during the ceremony?
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We kindly ask that you keep all phones and cameras tucked far, far away during our unplugged ceremony. We want everyone to be fully present and soak in the moment - without screens blocking the view for our amazing photographers and videographers. Don’t worry, we’ll share all the beautiful photos afterward! Think of this as a moment to unplug and really take it all in (and not just through a screen). While Grace wishes she were friends with Taylor Swift, this isn’t a concert - it’s something even more magical. And if Taylor does show up, please find Grace immediately! Our fabulous usherettes are on hand to kindly - and sassily - remind guests to keep phones tucked away. So relax, enjoy, and help us make this moment truly picture-perfect.
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Will the ceremony be indoors or outdoors?
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Our ceremony is planned to take place outdoors, with cocktail hour following in a primarily indoor space that also has access to the outdoors - weather permitting, of course! We’re crossing our fingers (and yes, maybe even burying a sausage in the backyard… it’s a thing!) in hopes of the perfect day. So please, say a little prayer to whatever deity you believe in - light a candle, manifest some sunshine, or hire a weather-cleansing Etsy witch if needed. We are fully manifesting gorgeous weather. That indoor-outdoor flow is calling, and we’d really love to answer! Rain or shine, it’s going to be an unforgettable celebration - but a light breeze and golden hour wouldn’t hurt. 😉
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Can I take photos and videos during the reception?
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YES, absolutely! While our ceremony will be “unplugged” (because we want your eyes on us, not your screens), don’t worry - we’re not total monsters who ban phones altogether. The reception will be fully plugged in! Snap all the photos, take all the videos, and dance like you’re at the best party ever. We’d love to see your behind-the-scenes reception shots, so don’t forget to tag us or send them our way. Let’s celebrate, capture the joy, and make some unforgettable memories together!
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What should we do if we need to leave the reception early?
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We kindly ask that you skip the formal goodbyes before the reception officially ends - not because we don’t love you (we absolutely do!), but because we’ll be fully in party mode: dancing, chatting, and soaking it all in. Grace is usually the queen of the Irish exit (when her social battery hits zero, she vanishes like a pro), but this is the one night she won’t be sneaking out early - so let her have her moment! If you’re heading out before the night wraps, feel free to slip out quietly. No need to pull us away from the fun. Feel free to shoot us a text about how much fun you had - and how no wedding will ever top ours 😉 That said, if you make it to the end - we want all the goodbyes, hugs, and happy tears. And yes, even Grace will be accepting hugs on her wedding day… despite being famously not touchy-feely. Consider it your once-in-a-lifetime opportunity!
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Why April 9th?
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April 9th isn’t just a date, it’s a legacy. It’s the day Grace’s parents were married, and in 2027, they’ll be celebrating their 33rd wedding anniversary. Their love story is one for the books - filled with deep respect, unwavering support, belly laughs, and the kind of partnership that only grows stronger with time. They’ve shown us what true, everlasting love looks like - the kind that weathers every season and still finds joy in the little things. Choosing this date is our way of honoring them, the example they’ve set, and the beautiful marriage we hope to build together. We couldn’t imagine a better day to say “I do” than on the anniversary of the greatest love story we know.