Frequently Asked Questions

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How do I RSVP?

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Welcome to our Zola website! Click RSVP in the top menu to let us know if you will be attending the events to which you are invited. Make sure you continue to click "Next Event" at the bottom right corner until you complete all of your forms. If you have questions contact Kevin and Jessica at murphyme.wedding@gmail.com or by phone/text.

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Am I invited to the ceremony?

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Unfortunately, we are only able to accommodate members of the bridal party, parents, and grandparents in the work per St. Teresa of Avila's COVID19 social distancing restrictions. See below for the link to join us virtually.

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How can I watch Kevin and Jessica get married?

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St. Teresa of Avila Church will be streaming our wedding ceremony on Prince of Peace Parish's YouTube Channel at https://www.tinyurl.com/MurphyMeStream. If you are not joining us in person, we hope you will sign our digital guestbook at https://www.tinyurl.com/MurphyMeGuestbook.

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Do I need to RSVP to the virtual wedding ceremony?

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The RSVP for the virtual ceremony is to ensure we reach you at the correct email address for a direct link to the live stream. If you forget to RSVP, you can still access the event at the links provided on this website- there is no password or signup requirement.

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How can I follow along with the wedding ceremony events during the virtual ceremony?

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See the photos section of our website to view the wedding program. Programs will be distributed to guests staying in our room blocks in your welcome packages, and will be available for everyone else at dinner to take home to your scrapbooks.

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What is a digital guestbook?

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Using VidDay.com, we will be curating photos and videos from those who want to wish us well from afar or share pictures of their festivities during the ceremony livestream! Upload photo and video messages to https://www.tinyurl.com/MurphyMeGuestbook by May 15th so we can purchase a video compliation of these memories. If you prefer, feel free to email us at murphyme.wedding@gmail.com or send us a card to include in our memory book.

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How many people are coming to the reception?

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Including the bride and groom, we anticipate about 70 guests at the cocktail hour and reception. If you need any other information to provide to an employer, please let us know.

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What precautions are in place to make sure I feel safe at the reception?

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So glad you asked! Since we both work in healthcare, we were able to create a list of safety measures to put in place, in addition to the precautions in place by The 1754 House, St Teresa of Avila Church, and the State of Connecticut. Precautions include masks, temperature checks, dining grouped by household and geographic region as appropriate with proper spacing, outdoor dancing, and limited capacity to less than 50% of the reception hall's available space - all per COVID19 indoor event guidelines in CT.

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Are there travel restrictions in place in the state of CT?

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All guests are strongly encouraged to quarantine to their local community prior to our event and monitor their health before and after. We also ask that if possible, guests are tested for COVID19 and seek vaccination per local availability. However, quarantine/testing/vaccination is NOT mandatory for any visitors to the State of Connecticut at this time.

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What time should I arrive to Woodbury?

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It depends! Cocktail hour is set to begin at 3pm in anticipation that some guests will be leaving their homes following the virtual ceremony, leaving time for approximately a one-and-a-half to two-hour drive to make it to the last 30-45 minutes of cocktail hour. Consult your hotel accommodations for details on early check in to view the ceremony from your hotel room and get ready to dance the night away. If you arrive early and need something to do or a pretty place to park and watch the wedding, click "Things to Do" in the top menu for ideas.

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Can I watch Kevin and Jessica get married at the 1754 House?

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YES! We will be having a very informal wedding watch party in the location of our cocktail hour- under a tent on the 1754 House lawn. We have only accounted for this to accommodate the guests of the bridal party who are unable to join us in the church, but all attending the 1754 House reception are welcome. Please let Kevin and Jessica know if you plan to attend so that we have enough chairs. (You do not need to update your formal RSVP, just send an email to murphyme.wedding@gmail.com). There will be 1-1.5 hours between the end of the wedding ceremony and the start of cocktail hour, so please plan accordingly (i.e. use this time to change out of your pajamas into your wedding best :)

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What is the dress code for the wedding reception?

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Cocktail or semi formal attire is welcome! If it helps with your outfit choice, the bridal party will be in long gowns and tuxedos, and the parents of the couple will be in suits and gowns. Jess and Kevin will be dressed to the 9's!

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How many people will I be sitting with at dinner?

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After consulting the 1754 House, we are arranging 8 guests per table to prevent crowding during the dinner reception. This also allowed us to fit everyone into one room for dinner so we can spend as much time with all of our friends and family as possible.

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Can I bring my children or another guest?

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We ask that you find arrangements for child care to ensure we are compliant with COVID safety precautions. Your guest is more than welcome to join us virtually, but we only have enough seats for the guests specifically invited to the wedding reception.

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Will we be inside or outside?

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Probably both! As of January 2021, we plan to dine in the beautiful dining rooms of the 1754 House. We have also reserved a tent in case we want or need to change to outdoor dining if the CT dining restrictions change. We will definitely have an outdoor dance floor, so bring something to keep you warm as we groove into the night!

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Where can I spend the night?

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UPDATED: Our family and bridal party has booked the 1754 House. We secured a second block of rooms at the Heritage Hotel, Golf, Spa & Conference Center. Click on "Where to Stay" in the top menu for details and contact information.

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Can I take and post pictures of the wedding on social media?

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During formal introductions and our ceremonial dances, we ask that the professionals take pictures and you enjoy the moment. When your phones are down, we can see your smiling faces and happy tears! Afterwards, please feel free to take photos with family and friends and upload to social media with #MurphyMe in the description.

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What is the #MurphyMeInMaryland After Party?

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To celebrate with all of our friends in a way that made sense, we also planned a dinner in Maryland for our friends and neighbors who supported us through the pandemic. At the time of our planning, it did not make sense to invite everyone to the New England wedding due to travel restrictions, and most of our friends in healthcare were not permitted to cross state lines for a period of time. Even though travel restrictions have lifted, we still think this makes the most sense logistically. Plus, who DOESN'T want to have two wedding receptions?!