Finally, A Wedding!!!

We are so excited for you to join us at this much-delayed celebration (read the section below this one for more on that)! We also know that the political situation in the U.S. has created all manner of new stressors, hardships, and uncertainty for so many, including ourselves (Daphne is thankful that her job is among the more secure at her company, which just laid off nearly half its employees). This show will go on in any case thanks to the support and generosity we are so fortunate to have--and because now more than ever, we believe in celebrating joy and sharing space with community. But please know that we fully understand the precarity a lot of people are feeling, and the last thing we want is for you to feel stressed or financially burdened by this invitation. If you had hoped to travel to join us when we shared the date, but now think you can't, we get it and know you’ll be with us in spirit 💗

Yes, it's true, we have been legally attached to one another since 12/20/2019. We *totally* scooped the Zoom wedding trend! Once we decided that getting married was a thing we wanted, it quickly became apparent that there were practical reasons to make it official, before the end of a calendar year (aka taxes and health insurance.) So, before we even started the planning part, we made a quick trip to Salem's (current) City Hall to get the paper, accompanied by our dear friends Meg and Liz, who kindly held a laptop so we could be witnessed by a few more people who had heard about our very last minute plans. Then we celebrated the new year and started thinking about what a wedding for us could look like. A really delightful plan was coming together (it involved lemurs and ice cream and you should ask us about it sometime); it was the second week of March 2020 when we received a contract from the venue we had chosen aaaaand you all know what happened before the week was out to bring that to a screeching halt. We thanked the fates that we had moved to our house in Salem with its big and beautiful yard just months before and like everyone, hunkered down and put aside the idea of planning a major in-person event, grateful not to be one of the many couples who'd been much further along in their planning at that point. After vaccines had been around for a while and events started cropping up again slowly, we finally started talking about a spring 2023 event. But a prolonged job hunt, major surgery, endless old house issues and other life circumstances caused it to slip down our priority list as we settled into several years married, and we started to make peace with the possibility that there would never be a wedding. Then 2024 tried to rip us to shreds with the loss of two of our beloved kitties in the span of 6 weeks while Daphne was still trying to recover from being hit by a (pickup) truck while out walking Ruby--yet the year failed its mission because despite all the trauma and heartbreak, you all made us overflow with ridiculous, sappy gratitude nearly every day in how you showed up and cared for us. With encouragement from Haia (Daphne's mom), we decided that we needed to celebrate the love and abundance in our shared life. With the end of 2024/the start of this year continuing the mission to knock down so many of our communities and people we love, we are determined to celebrate the joy in our colorful Jewish lesbian love story and can't wait to do it with all of you.