Quincey & Cole
Our People
Conner Rued
Best Man
The taller, less athletic brother who is not quite as smart or as good looking. The epitome of growing up competing with one another, they have been through all of life together. Ask him about his next private business or commercial real estate idea
Brittany Gilbert
Maid of Honor
The bride's older sister and oldest friend. From playing games of House as young girls, to enjoying nights out country dancing in Denver, to girl's wine and craft nights (not to mention classic sister arguments and battles), Brittany has truly been there for all of Quincey's big and little moments. And now, she will stand beside Quincey for one of the biggest life moments to date. Ask Brittany about her adorable (and sometimes wild) elementary school students, what is next on her busy social or gym schedule, or about her strange, but sweet dog Theo.
Chris Connelly
Groomsman
Friends since they were 5 years old. Cole and Chris have countless memories together from St. Johns camps in the summer, tackle football at Kensington park, college roommates, BWCA trips, the list goes on and on. Ask him how to build a sauna
Vanessa Gilbert
Matron of Honor
Soulmates since the moment they met, Vanessa and Quincey have formed a deep friendship over the last 9 years! Exactly one year ago to the day of Quincey's wedding, Vanessa tied the knot with Quincey's older brother, Andrew... legally binding Vanessa and Quincey for life (thank God). You can usually find these two in their own little world chatting about anything and everything, requesting My Humps from the DJ, or on a cutie little hike/outdoor activity. Ask Vanessa about her sweet pup Beverly, her newest cooking or baking pursuit, or about the camping trips/hikes she has taken or has planned for the summer.
Frank Pitera
Groomsman
Friends since high school, Frank and Cole first met playing hockey together. They shared a bedroom for 2 years in college. Frank and Cole have shared many “spooky” nights and glasses of bourbon together. Ask Frank about any plant you could ever think of, key lime pie, and playing air guitar on the dance floor
Maddie Hellebush
Bridesmaid
Quincey and Maddie met as little baby freshmen in 2010 at Mullen High School. Their friendship has spanned nearly 15 years and hundreds of miles as Maddie currently lives in New York. They have so many memories of high school football games, Prom, Red Rocks concerts, sketchy Denver bars, tasty dinners w/ a shared bottle of wine (duh), and so many more. Ask Maddie about her recent engagement and to see her beautiful engagement ring (she may even let you meet her lovely fiance) and life in New York!
Alex Thonet
Groomsman
Alex has been a friend of Cole’s since high school. This guy would drop anything to help out. Cole and Alex have made dozens of memories together. The ultimate friend and handyman. Lifelong Vikings fan. Ask Alex about any home improvement project or all of the repairs he had to make at their 1748 college house.
Courtney Kim
Bridesmaid
Quincey met Courtney when they were both hired as Orientation Leaders at Santa Clara University-- that's right, the university trusted us to welcome the new students, so HA. They quickly formed a strong bond, which only grew throughout their time in college and ever since. They can often be found drinking wine, chit chatting, dancing like fools, flashing their engagement rings at random men who bother them in bars, and reading on the beach in San Francisco. Ask Courtney about her excellent and hilarious fiance Taylor, her favorite food spots in SF, and her favorite college stories about Quincey (that you are not allowed to hold against Quincey ever).
Ben Wirt
Groomsman
Friend since about the age of 5, Cole and Ben have been through a lot together from grade school to high school and beyond. Despite living in different cities, going to different colleges, they have remained close through it all. Ask Ben about how he got the scar on his back
Mikaela Keating
Bridesmaid
Quincey met Mikaela in 2020 when she moved to MN for PA school. Their friendship truly began when Mik graciously picked Q up from her apartment after Q took a tumble down the stairs in the middle of online lecture. Ever since, they have been basking in their shared love of reading, enjoying deep chats and silly moments, drinking wine and calling it "book club", doing yoga, trying new workout classes, sharing their wild patient encounters, and so much more. Mik has been incredibly helpful in wedding planning and lending her organizational skills to Quincey's chaotic approach. Ask Mik about her new house, her 2 kitty cats, her lovely husband Casey, her favorite travel stories, or about trips coming up!
Nate Howard
Groomsman
Despite knowing each other in high school, Nate and Cole really became close in college. From navigating the dorm life together to becoming roommates at 1748, Turtle Lake cabin memories, and BWCA trips - Nate and Cole have shared lots of memories Ask Nate about his bunny Windsor, his pet duck in high school, leaving dirty dishes in the hall outside his bedroom, or his new shiny boat
Jenna Wassenaar
Usher
Jenna and Quincey have shared a special connection since they first bonded over Pete Davidson's looks. Over the years, Jenna has kindly shared infinite sips of Diet Pepsi with Quincey and spilled infinite cans of Diet Pepsi on Cole's PA school notes. Jenna is a dear friend of both the bride and the groom and has a 100 percent success rate of making them laugh at any given moment. Ask Jenna about her new house in Woodbury, the projects she and her husband are working on, their pup Benny, and their family up in Duluth!
AJ Colby
Groomsman
AJ and Cole first met when Cole started working the Emergency Department after college and began his journey toward medicine. AJ and Cole bonded through dealing with trauma at work, good coffee and beer, and their love for travel. They have been on countless trips together to National Parks, concerts, and are always in search of the next best brewery, cocktail lounge, BBQ joint, or coffee shop. Ask AJ to see his photo album of embarrassing drunk pictures of Cole
Andrew Gilbert
Officiant
Quincey's older brother who both she and Cole admire and look up to in many ways. His relationship with his wife Vanessa has been a model and inspiration for our own relationship. We could not imaging having another person officiate our wedding. Ask Andrew about fly fishing, his old fashioned recipe, and his favorite whiskey/bourbon, and his pup Beverly.
Paul Grube
Usher
Paul and Cole became great friends in college at the University of St. Thomas and their friendship has grown into adulthood. Catch Cole and Paul discussing Wild hockey and Vikings football along with long-time friend Frank Hoffman. Paul is the ultimate nice guy and an avid Vikings fan. Ask Paul about men's fashion and loafer dress shoes
Cherie Gilbert
Mother of the Bride
Simply put, A QUEEN!! Be sure to ask Cherie about when her next cruise is, how often she is playing pickleball, and how many dresses she ordered to try on for the wedding!
Christine Walker
Mother of the Groom
A beloved dog grandma and as of 2/12/26 a beloved real life grandma to Parker James!! Ask Chris about her pups, horses or chickens, cute stories about Cole as a baby, her best fishing story, and her next trip to the Boundary Waters.
Bill Gilbert
Father of the Bride
Mr. Bill! An icon and sure to bring good vibes to the dance floor. Ask Mr. Bill about the best dog ever, any house projects he is working on, his next hunting trip, and if he will "skitter" on the dance floor for you (you won't regret seeing it).
James Rued
Father of the Groom
A literal Prince (of the South Wind)! Ole! Ooo la la! Ask Jamie about how often he generously drives Cole and Quincey to the airport, the latest social activity he is a part of, the MN Wild, and how Cole's cat Ginny is faring.
