FAQs

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When should I RSVP by? How do I RSVP?

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Please RSVP by June 9, 2025! Please use the RSVP page on this website to do so (rather than reaching out to us directly), as it lets us keep track of all responses in one place and should let you adjust your RSVP as needed. Reach out to us with any issues you run into!

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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?

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The ceremony starts promptly at 4:30pm on Saturday August 9th, 2025. Please arrive no later than 4:15pm to ensure we are able to start on time.

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Is the wedding inside or outside?

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The welcome party and bonfire on Friday, August 8th and the ceremony and bonfire on Saturday, August 9th will be outdoors. The rest of the scheduled events will be inside.

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When will we eat?

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Cocktail hour starts at 5pm where there will be hors d'oeuvres and drinks. The reception starts at 6pm, where dinner will be served.

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Is there a dress code?

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We're asking that guests join us in their best beach formal attire. Dress to impress, but keep it coastal cool. Here are some ideas/inspirations for what to wear: For Women: Flowy maxi dresses, chic midi dresses, or an elegant jumpsuit. For Men: Linen suits, lightweight blazers, dress shirts with slacks (ties optional). For colors, think sandy neutrals, ocean blues, and sun-kissed pastels inspired by Cape Cod's coastal hues. Avoid wearing a white dress, particularly a white wedding dress, if possible. While you won't be walking on sand for the ceremony or reception, consider beach friendly footwear if you're joining for the afterparty/beach bonfire!

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Are kids welcome?

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While we love your beautiful children, the venue isn't catered towards them and won't have babysitting facilities. Thus we will not be able to accommodate having children at the ceremony or reception. Feel free to bring children to events on Friday or Sunday, however. We appreciate your understanding!

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Can I bring a plus one?

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Unfortunately, there is a limit on the guests we can invite. We kindly ask that you only bring a plus one if your invitation included this option. If you feel we left out someone important, let us know, but understand that our options may be limited.

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Do you have any hotel recommendations?

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Yes, please see the "Travel and Accommodations" page to see some of our recommendations!

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Is there parking for the welcome party, ceremony, or reception?

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Yes, there is free, on-site parking at Pelham House Resort. All guests staying at the main venue will be able to get parking every night of their stay. Other guests are able to park on site at the venue, however parking may be more limited on Friday night given that the restaurant is open to the public. If needed, there are additional lots at both Pelham on Main and Pelham on Earle properties (each 5 minutes from the venue) with a shuttle that runs regularly to the main venue. On Saturday, parking at the venue should not be a problem, and you will be able to leave your car overnight if needed.

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Is there transportation to and from the hotels to the ceremony?

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There is a shuttle between the three properties owned by the venue - Pelham House Resort (the main wedding venue), Pelham on Main (where we have a 10 room block reserved) and Pelham on Earle. This shuttle typically runs once per hour, but we’ll have a custom schedule for the wedding weekend, which will be available at the hotel reception. This includes shuttle service by request back to the other Pelham locations available late (including during/after the bonfire). There is no shuttle from other nearby hotels, but most are a short ride to the venue.

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I have a food allergy or dietary restriction, can I make a special request?

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Yes, please let us know on your RSVP about your food allergies or restrictions so we can inform the venue staff.

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Will the wedding have an open bar?

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There will be an open bar during the cocktail hour and reception and a cash bar during the after party. There will also be a paid bar during the welcome party on Friday. Please help us get our money's worth.

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What is typical weather on the Cape? Anything special I should pack?

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Summer temperatures in Cape Cod are often in the 70-80s during the day and usually dip to the 60s in the evening with occasional rain. A light jacket, sunglasses, a hat, and beach-friendly footwear would all be recommended. We also recommend 1-2 swimsuits given the pool and beach on site. If you plan to extend your stay, biking, hiking, and water sports are all popular on the Cape too (see the Things to Do page for more information)!

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Is 60 degrees F cold?

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Excellent follow-up question, and hello to our Californian friends and family! While weather in the 60s can cause a slight chill (and, again, bringing a light jacket is recommended), rest assured that East Coasters have been comfortably tolerating these and lower temperatures for generations.

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Why is it called Cape Cod?

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Thought you'd never ask! This cape was actually named by a man named Bartholomew Gosnold, who set off from England to explore the New World. He discovered that the waters here were full of cod, and through a bit of clever wordplay, our beloved cape got its name.

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How are you handling last names?

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Ping will not be changing her last name to maintain brand recognition.

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What took you so long?

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We have different systems for loading the dishwasher that have raised questions about long-term compatibility. We decided to go for it anyway.