Registry
Listen. We're in our 30's. We're having a real wedding (it's expensive). This means: (1) We have MORE than enough things to manage without you giving us a gift, and (2) We have a lot of expenses and, unfortunately for Nicole, this means she doesn't get to be as frivolous as she'd like to be.
Bottom line is, we're going to be ok if you don't bring a gift. We invited you because it's so important to us that the people we love and are a part of our journey together are with us to celebrate and honor our relationship. No pressure.
On the other hand, who doesn't love getting gifts?