FAQs

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So, why a shotgun wedding?

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Yeah, wow, look at that. A wedding in under nine months… seems suspicious…. but, we’re not pregnant—really, we’re not! If you have ever looked for wedding venues in the greater New York City area you will appreciate the words “available date”. Yes, it’s a lot to throw together in a short period of time, but we were blessed by God with an open date at a great venue and we’ve taken the challenge head-on. We also kind of want to be with each other and start a life together… just a little bit.

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Why should I come?

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The better question is, why shouldn’t you come? You get free entertainment, free food and free drinks, plus an excuse to travel to one of the most exciting cities in the world. Use us as an excuse to plan a great vacation!

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Why isn’t the wedding in California?

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First, Scott can’t swim that well, and there’s concern he’ll wander into the Pacific and miss the ceremony. We also wanted to minimize natural impacts, such as droughts, fires, and earthquakes; not that California has any of those. But, California does have bears. While the ceremony may happen in New York City, we do want to celebrate with our California family! We will be making a trip sometime after the wedding and honeymoon to make this happen. We are working on those details and will let you know more soon! In the meantime, if you have any questions, feel free to reach out to Mary Naylor.

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What should I wear? Is there a dress code?

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The dress code for our wedding is semi-formal/cocktail attire. Ladies should wear cocktail dresses, and the gentlemen should wear a suit and tie or a sports coat.

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Where are the ceremony and the reception taking place? Is everything indoors, outdoors, or a mix of both?

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The Diety is an all-encompassing event space. Everything will take place indoors on one of three levels. Staff will be there to guide you every step of the way. It is also possible to escape the space for a walk down the street if you need to stretch your legs or smoke.

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Are the ceremony and reception location wheelchair accessible?

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The event will take place over three different levels, and there is no elevator. However, there is a chair lift to move guests between the bar area and the ceremony/dinner space.

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What happens after the ceremony?

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After the ceremony guests will enjoy a reception below the ceremony space while it is transformed for the dinner. Loosen your tie, enjoy the company and have fun.

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Will the ceremony be a full religious service?

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No. Simple, sweet, and quick is how we prefer it.

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Can I take and post pictures of the wedding on social media?

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Yes, we encourage guests to post pictures on to their social media channels, our only request is that you tag each photo with our wedding hashtag #________ so we can keep track of all of your pictures! Scott’s social media presence is so low he could use any help he can get, so we thank you for your assistance in advance.

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Will food and drinks be served at the reception? What kind of food?

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Great question. It deserves a great answer. Check back soon!

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Will there be any vegan/vegetarian/gluten free/special diet options?

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Of course there will be! More details on that are coming!

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Is it an open bar or a cash bar?

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It is an open bar. Please thank Dave Harris for this, but not until after the wedding because we haven’t told him yet. Drink responsibility, but enjoy yourself!

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Are there any traditional wedding things we won’t see?

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There will be no bouquet toss and no garter toss. Brittany doesn’t want to throw out her shoulder and she also doesn’t want Scott that close to her hoo hah in public. Sorry, singles, you’re going to have to mingle your way to your spouse, as a lucky catch isn’t going to do it. There also will be no bridal party speeches, so we can get to the partying faster. While this means you won’t get to hear a life-changing testimony of a bridesmaid or groomsman’s love for the bride and groom, it also spares you any awkward stories, jokes that miss, and time spent wondering when the dancing begins.

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How do I get to the venue?

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Please see the “Travel” section of this site.

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What time should I arrive?

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Doors open at 6:30 P.M. (1830 hours) sharp, and the ceremony will be at 6:45 P.M. (1845 hours).

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Where should I park? Is parking free?

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A beautiful thing about New York City is the abundance of free weekend parking. This link (https://www.spotangels.com/nyc-parking#parking-near=368-Atlantic-Avenue-Brooklyn-New-York-11217-United-States) will show you all of the options you have for parking and the prices, from street parking directly in front of Deity, to free parking one block away. Additionally, there are five parking garages within three blocks of Deity. Lastly, there is street parking in front of Deity that is free after 7:00 PM.

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What should I bring?

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Dancing shoes. We want to have fun, not just get married; we could have done that at the courthouse.

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Can I bring a date?

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While we love that you want to share the moment with someone you love, we do have a strict guest list. We will only able to accommodate those listed on your invitation.

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Are kids welcome?

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While we love your little ones, our wedding is going to be an adults-only event so that everyone can relax and enjoy the evening. We appreciate you making arrangements ahead of time and leaving the kids at home so you can celebrate with us.

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What will the weather be like this time of year?

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NY in the summer can be flat out hot, though it will probably be mostly bearable (80s or low 90s). Those taking the subway to the event should be aware that subway platforms are often in excess of 90 degrees at all hours of the summer day and night.

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Is there anything I definitely SHOULD NOT do at the wedding?

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Banned activities include: 1) Texting, calling, sending a carrier pigeon, smoke signals, or any other form of communication to Scott and Brittany on the day of the wedding 2) Saying the names Trump, Biden, Sanders, or any other person who will be in the thick of running for our nation’s highest office on the day of the wedding 3) Pontificating on your stance about any political or religious ideal to or around those of a different stance (you have all day every day to do this—don’t do it here… eat, drink, dance, be merry) 4) Hating on New York City 5) Hating on California (this request comes directly from our favorite Golden State Girl, the bride)

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Do you have a hotel block for guests? Where do you recommend I stay?

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Yet another EXCELLENT question. We don't have a hotel block, but we do have an insider rate at the Nu Hotel Brooklyn (https://www.nuhotelbrooklyn.com/ic-insider-rate/). Also, there are numerous hotels within walking distance (YES - walking distance - whoop, whoop!). To view these, check out the "Travel" page.

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Will transportation be provided between to/from the hotel?

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There will be no transportation provided by us or the venue, however, there are numerous options (subway, bus, Uber, Lyft) from every hotel in the city.

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What if I am at a loss for conversation at the wedding?

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Weddings can mean a lot of strangers, and sometimes it is difficult to think of meaningful conversation topics. Definitely stay away from talking about the weather, your travel to the wedding, or whether or not the XFL is good for America. Instead, Brittany and Scott highly recommend discussing the following topics, which are their Top 5 favorite arguments as a couple: 1) Is Taylor Swift the greatest music artist of two generations? 2) Golden Retrievers or Australian Shepherds? 3) When on a road trip, is it permissible to cross over a dual highway to stop for snickety snacks? 4) Maui Jim or Ray-Ban? 5) Is plastic really okay if it pays for the beer?

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When is the RSVP deadline? Do I need to mail back my RSVP or can I do it online?

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All invitations are digital, and all RSVP information is on those invitations.

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Where are you registered?

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Please check the “Registry” tab on this website for the most up to date information on gifts and registry.

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Are there other wedding events I can attend?

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Other wedding events will be announced via other social platforms.

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What should I do if I can’t make it?

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You will be missed! If you can't make it to the wedding, please let us know as soon as possible and RSVP “no,” so we can plan accordingly.

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I still have questions, what is the best way to contact you?

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Additional questions should be directed to Mary Jo Harris (mother of the groom) and Mary Naylor (mother of the bride), who have agreed to answer inquiries between the hours of 1100-1300 hours Eastern on the third Saturday of every non-even month prior to the wedding.