No - we love your kids, we really do. But we want our wedding to be your night off! We understand that some of you have babies (yay!) and we're more than happy to recommend some local trusted sitters that can come to the reception location.
If your invitation says “and Guest,” then yes, if not, we would prefer if it was just you.
Cocktail, please. But we want you to feel comfortable, so if those shoes are too high or that top button is too tight, let it all hang loose.