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September 2, 2021
Livingston, NJ
#BeckYos

Rebecca & Yosef

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If you have any specific questions not answered here, please feel free to reach out to Becky at Becky.Schiffenhaus@gmail.com
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So...Covid-19?

Answer

Yup! It's pretty weird to imagine being in a big group of people again! To be as safe as possible, we ask that all guests in attendance be fully vaccinated. If you are not fully vaccinated, we love you and ask you kindly not to attend. In the interest of full disclosure, the only people this does not apply to are our immediate nephews all of whom are 7 or younger. Other children are sadly not welcome to attend. Masks are optional, if you want to come but only feel safe doing so masked - that is fine by us! If you are not yet comfortable attending an in-person event, we completely understand and look forward to seeing you soon. This is an indoor event and will follow state/CDC guidelines if any are in place at the time.

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What time is the chuppah?

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The chuppah (ceremony) will be at 6:15.

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But what is a chuppah?

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The "chuppah" (pronounced with a ch- like in Chanukkah) is the canopy Yosef and Becky will be married under during the ceremony. "Chuppah" is also a shorthand way to refer to the ceremony. It represents the home that they will create together.

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Are you guys gonna step on the glass?

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Yos will. When it breaks feel free to yell "Mazel Tov!"

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What does breaking the glass do?

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It breaks a glass. But, it is meant to symbolize the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem. Even in our happiest moments there is humility and a reminder that the world is imperfect.

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Wait, when is the smorg?

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The smorg is after the ceremony, at around 7:15.

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Wait, what IS a smorg?

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The smorg is short for smorgasbord which is a nickname for cocktail hour.

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But what if I come starving?

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The invitation is called for 6:00, and we will have some champagne waiting for you as you get ready for the ceremony. Don't worry, the cocktail hour will start immediately after the ceremony.

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Boy that cheese/milk/non-descript dairy product being served looks delicious!

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Great and we hope it is, but also it's not dairy. Jewish dietary laws (Kashrut/Kosher) forbid the mixing of meat and milk and since we know how much you love your corned beef (Uncle Lenny) there won't be any dairy at this wedding. That means that if you have a question regarding ingredients or allergies you should please ask any of the staff who would be happy to answer any and all questions. Chances are you won't even notice.

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If I'm not Jewish, will I understand the ceremony?

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Some of it might look a little bit different to you, but most will be in English and the broad strokes are the same. You will understand the ceremony. We will also be providing a program so you can keep up with what's going on.

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If I'm Jewish, will I understand the ceremony?

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You guys. Like. Come on.

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If I'm a guy, do I need to cover my head with a yarmulke/kippah/skullcap?

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Gentlemen, we will provide kippot for the service. Even if you don't typically wear a kippah, we would love it if you'd take part of the custom just for our ceremony. Just pretend that the kippah is celebrating your favorite sports team and that your favorite sports team is hand woven yarn.

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Do I need to have sleeves/cover my shoulders?

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Ladies, please dress to your comfort level! There is no requirement for sleeves, but we recommend a wrap since it may be chilly. Fellas, we've never seen a sleeveless tux/suit and we're not interested in seeing one now (so, yeah, sleeves for you guys).* *Black tie optional

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Will you guys be doing that chair thing?

Answer

Ya. We're doing the chair thing. Of course we're doing the chair thing. What did you think this was?

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Can I get in the chair for the chair thing?

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That's gonna be a no for me, dawg.

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What is this "Hora" thing that seems to be all the rage with you?

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The Hora is a traditional dance performed at Jewish weddings and is usually the first dance performed on the dance floor. Typically it's two dance circles, where the bride dances with the ladies and the groom dances with the guys, and then everyone comes together into one big circle. It lasts about three and a half to four hours. Just kidding. It lasts a few minutes and then we do the chair thing.

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Can anyone dance in the Hora?

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Of course! The more the better! Just grab somebody's hands and start moving with the circle. But please be careful of Aunt Iris. She just got a new hip and is moving a little slower than usual, but wouldn't miss this for the world and remembers when you were this tall.

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What did all that Hebrew on the invitation say?

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The words underneath each of our names were our Hebrew names. For Becky: רביב גלית - Raviv Galit For Yosef: יוסף יעקב - Yosef Yaakov The next line is the Hebrew date of the wedding: כ׳׳ה אלול תשפא - 25th of Elul 5781

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Will Little Ben be at the wedding?

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Despite heavy lobbying both from Little Ben as well as other guests for him to attend, he will sadly not be in attendance. And no, it's definitely not because he doesn't do well with strangers and crowds and occasionally enters a murderous range at the sight of other people. It's because he was adamant about wearing a white dress to the wedding. (It looks great btw)

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Okay, so Little Ben won't be at the wedding. Is it because you don't love me and I've been bad?

Answer

Little Ben?? When did you learn how to type?!

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