FAQs

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What is a Quaker Ceremony?

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Traditional Quaker ceremonies are self-uniting ceremonies that do not use an officiant but instead require all witnesses present to sign a marriage certificate. Although our ceremony is a hybrid of Episcopal and Quaker traditions, you will experience some parts of both. Most witnesses (you and our other guests) will recognize the Episcopal portion since they are very similar to most wedding ceremonies. The Quaker portion will include a period of silent worship during which members of the congregation and guests get to share their blessings on the couple. There will also be an exchange of Quaker vows and an official marriage certificate that you will be asked to sign at the reception.

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What is expected of me during the Quaker portion of the ceremony?

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Firstly, you are not required to say anything. You may simply sit quietly and listen. During the quiet worship, try to reflect on what marriage means to you, what the couple means to you and what you have learned about love. Ask God (or your source of inner knowing) to direct your thoughts and open your heart to hear that still small voice inside yourself. If you feel that you simply cannot contain your thoughts or your joy, then stand during the silence, speak directly to the couple and then sit back down. Quakers employ a short period of silence after someone shares to allow those present to reflect on what has been said. Try not to immediately follow someone. Allow a few minutes in between to let the thoughts sink in.

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How do Quakers exchange vows?

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During this service, the couple will sit in quiet reflection to listen for higher authority. During that quiet time, friends and family may stand to share thoughts or joys. Once the couple feels that all has been said that needs to be said, they will stand and face each other. Reverently, they will declare their commitment to each another. This is the moment at which Quakers consider themselves truly united by God. One the couple stands to exchange vows, all others must remain silent until the communal prayers. In other words, if you didn't get a chance to share during that group worship, you may do so at the reception.

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What should I wear?

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This is a morning Summer wedding so we suggest you dress like you were going to Sunday worship services. Men are invited to wear a tie and women a dress or pant suit. We are wearing ivory and blush.

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Where should we park?

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There are several parking garages within walking distance. 1. Cumberland St parking garage is adjacent to the rear entrance of the church. 2. Queen St parking garage is adjacent to the Mills House. Both places are very close to each other so either place is great for the whole event.

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Are there Handicapped accommodations?

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Yes. Both parking garages provide free parking with proof of a handicapped sticker. If you require special transportation to and from either place, just let us know.

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Are you registered?

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Yes we are registered here, at Bed Bath and Beyond and at Wayfair. However, your presence and your blessings are the greatest gift.

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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?

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PLEASE be there by 1040AM. Music starts at 1045 and we don’t want you to miss it. We walk down the aisles at 11.

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Are kids welcome?

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We love kids but we have not invited children.

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I have a food allergy, can I make a special request?

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No need. We are having a beautiful brunch buffet to allow everyone to choose their meal.