Tips and Tricks
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How should I dress at the Indian Ceremony?
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Many first-timers wonder what guests wear to an Indian wedding so that they can dress accordingly. While there is no specific dress code at the Indian ceremony (Lavan), dressing modestly is a must, meaning NO bare shoulders and NO bare knees. For female wedding guests, a traditional Indian suit is perfect to show some respect to the religious wedding rituals. However if you are unable to get one, ladies can wear a jump suit or pant suit. Ladies will also be given a traditional scarf (chunni) before entering which can be used to cover your head. For men, suits and sherwani (a long coat-like garment) are fine. Men will also be provided with a bandana (rumal) which can be used to cover your head for respect.
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How to be respectful at the Indian Ceremony?
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Firstly take part in the grand entrance Ryan makes when first arriving to the hotel. He will be surrounded by friends and family as he is welcomed by the Taj's family. After the family introductions are over you can head inside for the start of the ceremony. Please remember to remove your shoes upon entering the prayer room. Upon entering, it is common to walk to the front, donate a $1 blessing with a prayer, and then find your seat on the floor. The men will sit on the right and women on the left. Lastly remember to keep your head covered while in the prayer room. After Taj and Ryan are married, a last prayer will take place (Ardas) which everyone will stand and then sit one last time.
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What to expect over the weekend?
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Prepare for long hours of the day or night for the wedding ceremonies. Many Indian weddings have several ceremonies throughout the day. So prepare yourself for an early morning wedding ceremony by getting some extra sleep the night before.
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How can I get involved?
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Many Indian weddings require a lot of guest involvement - from witnessing and blessing the couple at many key steps, to getting on the dance floor during the reception. Although it's acceptable to leave for a while, have a cup of chai, eat snacks, and socialize at the 2-3 hours long wedding ceremony, getting involved is a kind of showing your respect to the bride and the groom. Many of the bride and grooms sisters, brothers, and close relatives will have specific roles that will be discussed as the time gets closer.
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Will traditional Indian food be provided?
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Yes, absolutely! Guests are usually treated to appetizers or snacks before entering the wedding venue. The main course is usually served once the wedding ceremony is over. This may be different from what many are used to but allows the guests to mingle and dance. If you're kind of picky when it comes to food, like Ryan, he recommends enjoying the snacks and desserts. Both vegetarian and non-vegetarian dishes will be served at majority of the events. The traditional Indian Ceremony will be followed by a vegetarian only meal, called LANGAR. Guest are also welcome to explore other food options after the ceremony.
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Are we accepting wedding gifts?
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Giving gifts is a common tradition at Indian weddings. The traditional wedding gift is money, which is regarded as the most thoughtful gift for the couple to start their lives together. This is better done by placing money in a pretty envelope or embroidered bag, along with your best wishes. The amount of Indian wedding gift money should be an "auspicious" number ending in 1, regardless of what the currency is. As to a reasonable amount, it mostly depends on how much you can afford and how close you're to the bride and the groom. Other gifts that you will give for a non-Indian wedding would also be appropriate. Any gifts to the bride and groom are usually collected at the reception. Other events where guests may give smaller amounts of money as a blessing, include the vatna and after the Indian ceremony, although it is not necessary or required.
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Where can I buy Indian Clothes?
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