FAQs

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What is the wedding date?

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The wedding will be on Sunday, October 12th with the ceremony beginning at 3 pm.

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Where is the wedding?

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Ceremony and reception are at the same place. Durand Eastman Clubhouse 1200 Kings Hwy N Rochester, NY 14622

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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?

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The wedding will be October 12th 2025. Please join us at 2:15 for a pre cocktail hour! Please be at the venue no later than 3:00 for the ceremony.

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When should I RSVP by?

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Please RSVP no later than August 15, 2025. You can RSVP on the website or by mailing back the RSVP card in your invitation.

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Is there a dress code?

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We ask that you dress somewhere between business casual, festive, and formal. Here’s a good guide below: https://www.essentialdetailsky.com/blog-news-clone-1650309992506/2021/8/25/decoding-the-dress-code Flannel and jeans is also appropriate!! October weather can change rapidly. The ceremony and dance floor will be outside. We recommend layers that can be added/removed throughout the night. The venue is heated and cooled but you never know what October might bring!

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Are kids welcome?

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Yes! There will be an open bar with kid-friendly drink options and kid-friendly food options. There will be kid-friendly games and activity bags. We ask that you let us know on your RSVP that children will be joining you. Someone will reach out closer to the event to confirm if the children (under 13) would prefer the buffet menu or a kid's meal.

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What's for dinner at the reception?

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We lock in our final food selections in September. The wedding menu is subject to change. Pre-Ceremony Farmer John's Popcorn (*v) Cocktail Hour: Buffalo Chicken Puffs Mini Tacos (*v) Spinach and Artichoke Puffs (v) Buffet Dinner: Smoked Pulled Pork (*d) Honey-brined Smoked Chicken (*d) Buttery Salt Potatoes (*) or mashed potatoes Vegetable Medley (*) Mixed Salad (*) Dessert: Mini Cupcakes (gluten-free option) Beverages: Tea, Lemonade, water, coffee, hot tea, hot chocolate Open bar featuring local beers, wines, and a selection of mixed drinks and mocktails * = gluten free v = vegetarian d = dairy free

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I have a food allergy, can I make a special request?

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Yes! Our menu currently accommodates several dietary restrictions. The menu will be updated on the website with indicated dietary accommodations prior to the event. Please let us know when you RSVP if you have restrictions or specific needs. Food will be served buffet style. There is a risk of cross-contamination.

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Do you have any hotel recommendations?

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Yes! Check out our travel page!

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Are there any other events that I should know about around the wedding?

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Yes!!! As this is a holiday weekend for many, we want you to have the option to make it a mini vacation! We would love to show you around Rochester Saturday and make sure to send you off with breakfast on Monday! Please check the schedule page for more details. There will likely be an additional cost associated with these events. This will be shared ahead of time.

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Is there parking for the ceremony or reception?

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Yes! If you choose to drive yourself, there is ample parking at the venue. It will be marked. Uber and Lyft operate reliably in the ROC area. Address: Durand Eastman Clubhouse 1200 Kings Hwy N Rochester, NY 14622

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Did someone say discounts?!

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Apparently being a bride does come with some discounts ... (we won't talk about the markup). You do not need to purchase anything from any list below! These are savings I am passing to you if you so choose: David's Bridal If you use my phone number when you purchase, the wedding couple gets points. Enough points and we could possibly get a free honeymoon. And they are having weekly sales right now plus their clearance is huge! (770) 403-0232 Pashion - https://pashionfootwear.com/ I only wish I had invented these!!!!!!! Heels that convert to flats ... Genius!!!! Unfortunately, they don't make them in giant size. But I did snag a discount code! BPELISESHUFORD - 30% off, expires wedding date (this code might get limited, I'm not sure) WGELISESHUFORD - 25% off, expires 11/12/2025

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Wait … how do I say that?

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We are blessed to live in a state with a rich, diverse heritage. That also means we have some fun unique names … here is a short guide to assist with some of the more challenging ones. Rochester - Raw-chest-er - also shortened to ROC Irondequoit - ih-RON-duh-koi - the town where our venue is located. Henrietta-henry-eh-tuh- the town our airport and some hotels are located in Chili - chai-lie - I know … I know … trust me. For the first 6 years I made jokes every time we drove through the town. And yes they did formerly host a huge chili cooking competition. But nothing will single you out as a visitor faster than if you mispronounce this town. Iroquois - ear-uh-koi - the name given to the nation of native people who populated what is now the Greater Rochester Area Haudenosaunee - ho-dee-know-shown-ee - the tribe name of the native people from this region Seneca - sin-ih-kuh - the specific tribe native to our region