FAQs

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How do I share my photos?

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We know during weddings you take tons of photos!! Make sure to share your photos on our wedding share app in addition to posting on social media with our hashtag!! To share photos: Download the app: Wedding Mix When prompted, enter our code: S7W3L Your photos will get added to our personal drive AND will build our wedding video!! To upload to Social Media: Tag us (my name won’t change until after the wedding) Use the #Hashtag: #StartedWithAWinkERS (Capitals don’t matter, it just helps me spell it correct!)

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What is the wedding date?

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The wedding will be on Sunday, October 12th with the ceremony beginning at 3 pm.

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Where is the wedding?

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Ceremony and reception are at the same place. Durand Eastman Clubhouse 1200 Kings Hwy N Rochester, NY 14622

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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?

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The wedding will be October 12th 2025. Please join us at 2:15 for a pre cocktail hour! Please be at the venue no later than 3:00 for the ceremony.

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What's for dinner at the reception?

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Updated 8/12/2025 We lock in our final food selections beginning of September. The wedding menu is subject to change. Pre-Ceremony Farmer John's Popcorn (*v) Cocktail Hour: DIY Charcuterie Boards Buffalo Chicken Puffs Mini Tacos (*v) Spinach and Artichoke Puffs (v) Buffet Dinner: Smoked Pulled Pork (*d) Honey-brined Smoked Chicken (*d) Three Cheese Spinach Lasagna (v) Smashed potatoes (*) Roasted Veggies (*v) Harvest Fall Salad (*) (pecans, apples, feta) Dessert: Mini Cupcakes (gluten-free options) Beverages: Tea, Lemonade, water, coffee, hot tea, hot chocolate Open bar featuring local beers, wines, and a selection of mixed drinks and mocktails * = gluten free v = vegetarian d = dairy free If you have an allergy and did not mention it, text the bride or groom ASAP for accommodations!

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Is there a dress code?

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We ask that you dress somewhere between business casual, festive, and formal. Here’s a good guide below: https://www.essentialdetailsky.com/blog-news-clone-1650309992506/2021/8/25/decoding-the-dress-code Flannel and jeans is also appropriate!! October weather can change rapidly. The ceremony and dance floor will be outside. We recommend layers that can be added/removed throughout the night. The venue is heated and cooled but you never know what October might bring!

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What will the weather be?

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We are officially on the local 8 day for the entire weekend!!!! As of this moment, our weather looks like: Saturday - hi: 66 Lo: 51 Partly Cloudy Sunday - the big day! - Hi: 70 Lo: 46 Partly Cloudy, slight breeze Monday - Hi: 68 The weather apps say a little cooler - which by the lake we will probably be closer to these warmer temps because our lake is still pretty warm. Also, their source is buffalo airport. Our local news uses information from our airport. Sunset is expected to be at 6:33 pm Fingers crossed our day stays so good!!! 🙏🤞🤞 TL;DR: Warmer than usual but not hot in Rochester. Leaves are accelerated due to drought conditions.

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Are kids welcome?

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Yes! There will be an open bar with kid-friendly drink options and kid-friendly food options. There will be kid-friendly games and activity bags. We ask that you let us know on your RSVP that children will be joining you. Someone will reach out closer to the event to confirm if the children (under 13) would prefer the buffet menu or a kid's meal.

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I have a food allergy, can I make a special request?

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Yes! Food will be served buffet style. There is a risk of cross-contamination. If you have an allergy and have not identified it please text the bride or groom ASAP for accommodations.

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Do you have any hotel recommendations?

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Yes! Check out our travel page!

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Are there any other events that I should know about around the wedding?

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Yes!!! As this is a holiday weekend for many, we want you to have the option to make it a mini vacation! We would love to show you around Rochester Saturday and make sure to send you off with breakfast on Monday! Please check the schedule page for more details. There will likely be an additional cost associated with these events. This will be shared ahead of time. Thank you to everyone who indicated a preference on a Tour of Rochester on Saturday. Due to a lack of interest, we will not be taking a tour. We still plan on doing something that morning! Just let us know when you plan on arriving and if you'd like to hang out!

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Is there parking for the ceremony or reception?

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Yes! If you choose to drive yourself, there is ample parking at the venue. It will be marked. Uber and Lyft operate reliably in the ROC area. Address: Durand Eastman Clubhouse 1200 Kings Hwy N Rochester, NY 14622

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Did someone say discounts?!

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Apparently being a bride does come with some discounts ... (we won't talk about the markup). You do not need to purchase anything from any list below! These are savings I am passing to you if you so choose: David's Bridal If you use my phone number when you purchase, the wedding couple gets points. Enough points and we could possibly get a free honeymoon. And they are having weekly sales right now plus their clearance is huge! (770) 403-0232 Pashion - https://pashionfootwear.com/ I only wish I had invented these!!!!!!! Heels that convert to flats ... Genius!!!! Unfortunately, they don't make them in giant size. But I did snag a discount code! BPELISESHUFORD - 30% off, expires wedding date (this code might get limited, I'm not sure) WGELISESHUFORD - 25% off, expires 11/12/2025

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Wait … how do I say that?

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We are blessed to live in a state with a rich, diverse heritage. That also means we have some fun unique names … here is a short guide to assist with some of the more challenging ones. Rochester - Raw-chest-er - also shortened to ROC Irondequoit - ih-RON-duh-koi - the town where our venue is located. Henrietta-henry-eh-tuh- the town our airport and some hotels are located in Chili - chai-lie - I know … I know … trust me. For the first 6 years I made jokes every time we drove through the town. And yes they did formerly host a huge chili cooking competition. But nothing will single you out as a visitor faster than if you mispronounce this town. Iroquois - ear-uh-koi - the name given to the nation of native people who populated what is now the Greater Rochester Area Haudenosaunee - ho-dee-know-shown-ee - the tribe name of the native people from this region Seneca - sin-ih-kuh - the specific tribe native to our region

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Will there be fall foliage?

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Let’s start with what is fall foliage … you know those picture of beautiful orange, gold, and red trees in the fall down a beautiful winding road? Yeah … that’s fall foliage and we get it! This year looks to be perfect timing either way our wedding. Peak season for our region looks to be mid to late October according to the latest forecast: https://www.accuweather.com/en/videos/cce01e43-f76d-4436-9e96-7ef6e5b1a4aa?utm_source=connatix&utm_medium=share&utm_campaign=link So be prepared to leaf peep! Bring your cameras and your hiking/walking shoes!