SO many to choose from, some of our favorites: Ponto, Wilson Creek, and Vindemia.
Check out the Safari Park, Legoland, Lakehouse boat/kayak rentals, or any of the beaches (Moonlight in Encinitas is our closest favorite). Willing to drive further south: Balboa Park (Museums and San Diego Zoo), La Jolla Cove (seals/sea lions at Children's Pool)
Pure Project Brewing, Burgeon Brewery, Campfire-cocktails/food (Carlsbad); Belching Beaver (Oceanside)