FAQs

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So tell me about Shneur?

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"How am I tearing up just starting to write this? Keep it together Melissa... While I will save the truly sappy stuff for our vows (you have all been forewarned), Shneur is my favorite person in the whole entire world. He is quite simply the best. Shneur is a born and raised Brooklynite. You can tell this by the way he orders his bagel and how he says the word 'order.' Anyone who knows Shneur knows him for three things: his thoughtfulness, incredible sense of humor, and love for billing (yes, Shneur is a corporate finance attorney). Shneur’s other titles include but are not limited to Fashion Icon, Animal Documentary Enthusiast, Inventor of Soup Fries™, and the Absolute Love of My Life."

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Who is this "Melissa" character?

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"Melissa is quite the character, indeed. Not only is she generous, kind, and beautiful, she also supports my unhealthy sweatsuit habit. She has introduced me to all things “Midwest,” like being absurdly polite, farming best practices, and casseroles. When she is not explaining the difference between “thank you so much” and “thank you sooo much,” she is the Vice President of Business Strategy and Legal Affairs at Her Campus Media. I am so proud of Melissa and I cannot wait to marry her."

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Is this going to be like every other wedding I’ve attended?

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Not only do we like to think we are a uniquely awesome, thoughtful couple (or at least that’s what our parents tell us), our wedding will be an equally uniquely awesome, thoughtful event that represents us as a couple and pays homage to our two distinct Jewish upbringings. Expect blends of different Chabad and Conservative Jewish elements, lots of laughter, delicious food, dancing, and happy tears (definitely from Melissa, probably even from Shneur).

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What is the dress code for the wedding?

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Our wedding is black tie optional. For ladies, black tie optional is a more elevated approach to cocktail attire. Have a long gown, mid-length dress, or a stunning cocktail number you own or you’ve been eyeing for just the right occasion? Good news: this is that occasion. For men, we suggest wearing a tuxedo, dark colored suit, or kapote. If you are Googling what a kapote is, wear one of the other two. If you are Googling what a tuxedo is, wear a kapote.

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What is the "Kabbalat Panim"?

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Kabbalat Panim means “receiving of faces,” which describes these opening wedding customs. This Jewish wedding tradition is a pre-ceremony opportunity for guests to greet us and to begin to set the mood for big day. Shneur will gather with the male guests at the tish (“the groom’s table”) where they offer toasts and songs. At the same time, the female guests will join Melissa at the hakhnassat kallah (“welcoming the bride”) where Melissa will be receiving guests from her throne. Yes, in Jewish custom, the bride is considered a queen and deserves all the attention and respect due to her station. (Note from Melissa: I don’t make the rules but gladly accept this title.) The next order of business will be the signing of the ketubah ("marriage contract"). While we are used to drafting all types of agreements (that's a lame lawyer joke for you all), this one is different. The ketubah is written in Aramaic (the vernacular language of the Jews during the time of the Talmud) and reflects our mutual commitment to one another. This part of the day continues with the bedecken. Bedecken literally means "to cover." With the start of the bedeken music, the Jewish veiling ceremony is signaled to begin. Shneur will be escorted with music and dancing to Melissa and will place the blusher of Melissa’s veil over her face. The veiling expresses the idea that above physical appearance, the groom is drawn to his bride’s inner beauty. As the bedecken ends, guests will be invited to proceed to the courtyard for the wedding ceremony.

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What is the "Chuppah"?

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The wedding ceremony takes place underneath a chuppah ("canopy"). The chuppah symbolizes, among other things, the home that we are creating as we begin our married life together—a home, much like the chuppah, is open to and supported by our family and friends.

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I hear you guys love to throw dinner parties. What kind of food are you planning on serving at the wedding?

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We are considering this our most ultimate dinner party yet. We are excited to be working with Chef David Tefy of Madison and Park, who is making our taste bud dreams a reality for our big day. All food will be Glatt Kosher. If you have any additional dietary restrictions, please let us know.

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What kind of music can I expect?

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You like Usher, Lady Gaga, and Timberland? Great! Big fan of Avraham Fried? Super! We have hired a variety of talented musicians who are ready to entertain our guests with everything from pop to Motown to Chabad to R&B music.

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Can't wait! How do we get there?

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We highly encourage Ubering to the venue. The address is very easy to remember as it is the name of the venue: 99 Scott! If you see a bunch of warehouses—don't worry, you're in the right place.