FAQs

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Are you registered? Where?

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We have cash funds set up for our honeymoon and solar panels for our house in the registry tab, as well as a few items for our house if you would like to purchase a gift!

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When should I RSVP by?

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Please RSVP by January 7, 2025. Invitations will be mailed in December 2024.

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Are kids welcome?

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No, sorry! We would be happy to connect you with a baby sitter or other local families to pool together for childcare.

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Is there parking for the ceremony or reception?

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Yes, there is free parking at the venue. However, we STRONGLY ENCOURAGE taking an Uber or Lyft if you plan to enjoy the open bar (liquor, beer, cider, wine, and THC-infused drinks will be available).

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Can I bring a date?

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No, sorry! Please only RSVP if your partner's name is listed on the invitation.

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What will be served at the reception?

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We are having an open bar with alcohol, THC drinks, and non-alcoholic cocktails available. We will also be serving a buffet-style dinner and dessert. Come hungry & ready to party!

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Is there transportation to and from the hotels to the ceremony?

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No, we are not providing transportation. However an uber/lyft should only be about $10 each way from any downtown hotel.

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Why are you both changing your last name?

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We intend to have children and thought it was important that our whole family shared the same last name.

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Why did you choose Haven specifically?

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We chose Haven because it represents the values we want to build our family around. A "haven" is a place of refuge, and we want our family to embody that spirit. We want our home and our lives to be a sanctuary—a place of peace, love, and acceptance—for each other, our children, and everyone we care about. The name reflects our desire to create a life together that feels safe, nurturing, and full of love.

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Why didn’t you keep one of your current last names?

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Neither of us wanted to take the other person’s last name so we compromised by picking a new one.

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Is this decision about rejecting your family’s traditions?

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This decision is not about rejecting our families or their histories, but rather about creating our own family identity. We both come from families with rich histories, but we felt it was important to establish a name that represents our own shared values, vision, and future. Our decision is rooted in love, hope, and a desire to build something new and meaningful together. We understand that our decision may be unconventional or surprising to some, but we believe that traditions can evolve and adapt to reflect the values and beliefs of each new generation. We hope that you’ll join us in celebrating this new chapter in our lives with joy and acceptance.

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Men usually don’t change their name, why is Louis doing so?

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Because he wants to, and it feels right to him. We understand that this decision might seem unusual to some, especially since traditional norms often expect the wife to change her name. But for us, the act of changing our last name together reflects our shared commitment to building something new, rather than adhering to traditional expectations. Unfortunately, Louis may face discrimination at work for this decision, or derision from people in his life. However, we’re optimistic that this will impact him very little. While it might take some time for others to get used to, we hope that our friends and family will respect our decision and see it as an expression of our partnership and unity.