Flight
There are several airports that you can fly into that are all roughly the same distance. White Plains is the closest followed by Hartford, LaGuardia and JFK. Just be aware that NYC traffic is a real thing and it's back, so take that into consideration.
Hotel
We have a room block at the Trumbull Marriott Shelton, which is 9 minutes from our house. At the moment, they are not running their shuttle, so please plan to take an uber or carpool if you are staying there. Mention the Ditolla/Arganese wedding when booking your room.