FAQs

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When and where is the wedding?

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The wedding will be held at the Philbrook Museum in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and will begin promptly at 6:00 PM. There is nothing the bride loves more than being on time (other than the groom of course), so we kindly ask that you arrive at least 30 minutes early, as the museum is large and the walk to the ceremony location takes a bit of time. Guests are welcome to arrive as early as 5:00 PM. While you wait, feel free to explore and enjoy the museum’s gardens. Late comers will be subject to public shaming.

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What should I wear?

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We ask that our guests dress in black-tie optional attire. The entire day will be outdoors, and there will be a fair amount of walking on grass and uneven ground. We recommend wearing comfortable shoes for the occasion. The wedding party has been instructed to give uncomfortable side-eye stares to those who wear white.

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Can I attend if I don't RSVP by August 30th?

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Unfortunately, no. Our vendor contracts require we turn in our final guest count on a specific day, so this is a bit outside of our control. To ensure you're included in the festivities, please RSVP via the link sent in your invitation no later than August 30th. Plus it will really really stress us out if nobody RSVP's and we have no idea who is coming! Special incentive: we will assign the best tables to those who RSVP the earliest.

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Can I bring my child or plus one?

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We’ve included children for guests traveling a significant distance, as we understand that securing childcare in such circumstances can be challenging. Luckily we have wonderful parents who taught us the powerful lesson of "stranger danger", so plus-ones have been extended to guests we’ve had the pleasure of meeting. We may let a few extra plus-ones slide for those who may not know anyone else attending, but imagine if you didn't have a plus one and then you ended up meeting your future spouse at our wedding. That would be so epic! But if you have received an additional guest, they will appear under your name when you RSVP. We promise to seat you near your friends and family! We hope this approach ensures everyone feels welcome and accommodated!

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I heard the entire day is outside. What happens if it rains?

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Well first, we'll probably cry a lot because we really want to have it outside, but sometimes Mother Nature has other plans. If the rain is light, we may still hold the ceremony outside. If it’s heavier, we’ll likely move it to a covered patio. Should we move to the patio, due to capacity limitations, there may not be room for chairs, and guests may need to stand during the ceremony. We’ll provide a few chairs for those who are unable to stand for long periods. In the event of rain, all other wedding activities will take place indoors at the museum. Really just operating on vibes here, and we hope you come with your umbrella ready to do the same! We are so so lucky to have the best friends and family in the whole wide world who won't get even slightly upset if we ask you to watch us get married in the rain. That rocks so much. Because imagine how sad we'd be if we found out we had to get married in the rain AND everyone was mad at us. Luckily that would never happen to us because all of you are so awesome!

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Where's the after party?

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Not sure! We'll add an answer whenever we get around to it. If you know of any good bars in Tulsa, let us know!

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I have more questions. Who should I ask?

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Derek!