FAQs
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What is a Koito
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A Koito is like the official 'handing over' ceremony for the bride, but with more food, negotiations, and side-eyes from the aunties. The groom's family basically shows up to prove they are serious about this whole marriage thing- and yes, there's usually a lot of talking before anyone eats.
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What should I wear?
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Think wedding vibes, but don't outshine the bride. For the ladies- dresses, 'kitenge', or traditional wear will do. No jeans, no sneakers and please- leave the 'just going to the shop' look at home. Gentlemen, a nice shirt or traditional wear works; no one wants to see your 'weekend vibes' t-shirt.
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What time should I arrive?
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If the invite says 1 PM, it actually means 2 PM but if you are the groom's family, be on time. You don't want to start negotiations with "sorry, traffic was bad."
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Will there be food?
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Of course! No African event is complete without food. But don't be that person asking for food five minutes in- dowry negotiations come first, then 'nyama choma', 'pilau', and all the good stuff.
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What's my role as a guest?
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Your job is to cheer, clap, and pretend to understand the negotiations (even if you don't ). Laugh at the jokes, nod wisely when elders talk, and most importantly- DON'T FALL ASLEEP!
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Will there be speeches?
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Yes, and they might be loooong. Expect poetic praises, proverbs, and at least one uncle saying "Back in my day..." Just smile and sip your drink.
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Can I take photos or videos?
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Before you start filming like a news reporter, check with the family. Some elders love photos, others will side-eye you into submission. If in doubt, just enjoy the moment.
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How long does Koito last?
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It depends- anywhere from a few hours to "Wow, it's dark already?" But as long as there's food and vibes, does it really matter?
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What's the bride and groom wearing?
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The bride will be glowing in traditional attire- something so fabulous, the whole event might need to rethink its vibe. The groom? He'll be sweating through his best outfit- mainly because he's leaving the outfit choice to someone else and is just hoping it fits!
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What should we know about the weather?
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Eldoret enjoys a pleasant, moderate climate with January temperatures typically ranging from 20-30 degrees C (hot and dry). It's a great time to visit, but for those with fair skin-yes, we're talking to you, white folks- don't forget your sunscreen! You'll want to keep that glow without turning into a lobster.
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Bonus Tip: What if I get hungry before the food is served?
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Strategic snacking is key. Have a light meal before you come, because the serious business happens first, and you don't want your stomach making a speech before the elders do.