FAQs

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👗 What do I wear? 🦍

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Anything! Something casual and colorful. Or not casual! Seriously, wear what makes you feel most comfortable. Jeans/pajama pants/gorilla suit/ballgown—whatever floats your boat. We’ll literally be in a bar, and we just want you to show up as yourself. Let your freak flag (or freakishly normal flag) fly. 🫡

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🍕 What's the food situation? 🍰

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We'll have apps, pizza (some vegan pizza will be available), wedding cake and a breakfast cereal bar! No formal sit-down meal, but lots to graze on. 🐄

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🍻 What's the drink situation? 🍹

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Mamie and David don't drink anymore (shocker, we know), but it's totally cool if you do! We'll have an open bar with all the wine, beer and cocktails you could ever want, PLUS some N/A drinkies and mocktails we're mixing up. If you can afford 'em, we're sure the bartenders would appreciate cash tips. :)

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🚗 What's the parking situation? 🆓

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We've got a parking lot reserved directly across the street from the bar that will fit about 50-ish cars for FREE. In the unlikely event we have more individually-driving guests than that, there's light rail access and street parking nearby. There's also one handicap accessible spot directly in front.

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🌮 Is it okay to skip Saturday, or skip Sunday? 🕺

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Yes, totally fine to just come to one event. In fact, we sorta expect MOST people to skip the Saturday pre-party! Saturday is just a simple little casual meet-up/pre-party with Mexican Food — mainly to squeeze some extra time in with folks we don't see often. And Sunday is the "real" event. But please just let us know which one you plan to attend!

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🎁 Where's your registry / what gifts do you want / can we donate money to your honeymoon fund? 💝

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We honestly have everything we need. We know a lot of you are going out of your way to attend, and THAT is more than we could ever ask for. Thank you so much for the thought, but we are GOOD!

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🍼 Are kids allowed? 👶

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Ummm, technically? We totally don't mind you bringing your little ones, but we can't guarantee a super kid-friendly experience for them. The party is in a bar with loud (probably curse word laden) music, and the pre-party will be in our precariously decorated houses. But if you think your kid will be okay with all that, bring 'em along !

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🫶 Who all is attending? 💕

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Our closest loved ones! And for clarity's sake, that includes EVERYONE 🏳️‍⚧️ 💖 🏳️‍🌈 Please come with an open heart and an open mind.

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🚿 Are you having a shower, bachelor(ette) party, etc? 👯

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Nope! Just this one weekend o' fun in March.

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🤷‍♀️ Why not a normal wedding? 🫣

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Ehhhh, not our style. Too formal and too much attention on us! It just made more sense for us to elope. BUT we did want to get our friends and family together to celebrate and say thanks for being in our lives, so that's what this is. :)

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🏥 What's with the weird timing?🙅‍♀️

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We had some health insurance matters to handle PRONTO, but we wanted to give out-of-towners enough notice to book flights (and not risk having snow in the winter ruin all our fun). We assure you — we are nooooooot pregnant.

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🏘️ Should I stay in Statesville or Charlotte? 🏙️

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Your choice! Statesville is where our pre-party is — we live here, Mamie's parents live here, etc. — so you may get some more one-off family time if that's your priority. Charlotte is where our wedding reception is, so if you wanna go out on the town with us afterwards (or if you plan on drinking), that may be the smarter choice.

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🥺 If I can't come, will you hate me? 👉👈

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NOOOO! It's truly no pressure. If you can come, wonderful! If not, we absolutely understand. We love you!

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♀️Any name-changing happening? 😋

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Surprisingly, yes! Not for patriarchal reasons, but for alliterative ones. Mamie is hanging up her Hunter hat and becoming "Mamie Mallone McLain" purely because it sounds fun. If anyone wants to buy her some MMM monogrammed towels, she won't complain. Mmm...

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➕ Can I bring extra people? 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

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Maybe? It really depends on how many people RSVP. We have limited capacity at our venue, but we're guessing quite a few non-NC people won't be able to make it. Please just reach out to us to see if we can fit in some extras.

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✅ When do I need to RSVP? 🙋‍♀️

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At least one month before the big day please, on February 14th. Hey, that's Valentine's Day! How romantic! 🥰 Although, we looove an early RSVP, so no need to wait 'til then.