FAQs

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Is there a dress code?

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Semi Formal: fancier than cocktail, less fancy than formal/black tie (& wedding merch ofc)

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Are you registered? Where?

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We have a registry on this site. We have both a cash option and some classic home furnishings available. You can also buy some merch if you want to support us and look great doing so. We greatly appreciate all contributions to the registry, but please don’t feel obligated. We are so happy to celebrate with you at the wedding and have no expectations for you to support in this way - your presence at our wedding will be more than enough.

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Is there parking for the ceremony or reception?

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There is limited parking at the Lodge and at the Hilton. The Lodge is valet only which can get expensive. If you are not staying on site (at the Hilton or at The Lodge at Torrey Pines) we highly recommend you carpool (or uber/ Lyft). Plus the bar is open Friday night and Saturday night (for 7 hours!), who wants to drive anyway?!

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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?

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Please arrive to the Lodge at Torrey Pines by 3:30pm on Saturday. The ceremony starts promptly at 4:00.

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When should I RSVP by?

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Please RSVP by August 15th, 2026.

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I have a food allergy, can I make a special request?

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Absolutely! We will do our best to accommodate, the Lodge seems pretty good at handling accommodations for allergies etc.

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If I’m traveling in, should I rent a car?

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Up to you, parking is hard to find in La Jolla/Torrey Pines and we recommend you Lyft/uber to and from the venue. So up to you if you want a car for the remainder of the weekend. 🚙

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Is the wedding indoors or outdoors?

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The ceremony and dinner are outdoors. The reception will be indoors. If it rains, all will be indoors! But anticipate 72-80 degrees and sunny type weather (we hope!)

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What will the weather be like?

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It should be sunny and moderately warm, probably low 70s Fahrenheit. It can get cold at night so bring a jacket if you are a cold person. Not like personality but if you get cold easily. 🥶

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Are there any other events that I should know about around the wedding?

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We are planning on having a welcome event at 8:00 pm on Friday, October 9th at the Hilton. Also, will be a pool party on Sunday, October 11th at Hilton Torrey Pines.

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What are all the different events?

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Didn’t we just answer this question? Friday night - at the Hilton Torrey Pines pool area, we will be hosting a welcome party from 8-10pm. This is a casual gathering to enjoy night-before beverages, eat some dessert, and mingle. Dinner will not be provided, only alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks and desserts. The bar will be open thanks to Sharon (and Bob) Dahm. Saturday - our wedding ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception will occur on the Arroyo Terrace at The Lodge at Torrey Pines. Please arrive by 3:30pm for the 4pm ceremony. Dinner, drinks, dancing, dessert, Dahm, Dalton. All the Ds will be there. The bar is open thanks to Jennifer Ball and Mike Varney! Sunday - from 11-2, we will be at Hilton Torrey Pines pool area hosting a final gathering - a pool party! Light bites will be provided. No booze from us, sorry - we hope we will have tired you out by now.