FAQs

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Should I read the FAQ?

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"Please god, read everything, please, oh my god." - Melanie "There is very important information in the FAQ and I've already had to re-explain things to people. If I have to answer a single question through email, text, or in person where it is already in the FAQ I'm going to hit you with a stick." - Clinton (lovingly)

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Should I *really* read the FAQ??

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Yes, especially if you plan to stay at Ivory + Grace, a lot of your questions you may have will be answered below.

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When should I RSVP by?

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Please send us your acceptances or regrets by August 28th, 2026. This provides us with enough time to get a proper headcount for our caterer as well as plan sleeping arrangements to best meet everyone's needs. Please also in the RSVP let us know if you plan to stay for both nights (nights of the 23rd & 24th) or just the night of the 24th.

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Do I have to RSVP? Can't I just tell you I'm going to be there (or not)?

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Yep, you have to. Please use the RSVP link at the top of the website. It is far easier for us than dealing with 50 forms of communication for RSVPing. If you are having issues with RSVPing online, please email us at melanie.clinton.soll@gmail.com

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Is there a dress code?

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For the ceremony and reception, we ask that you arrive in dressy casual attire, which is anything that's stylish yet comfortable. We want you to be comfortable at our wedding. Folks who would like to wear a dress can wear sundresses or dressy separates. Alternatively, guests can wear a dress shirt with khakis or other lightweight slacks; a suit jacket and tie is not required. This is a colorful wedding so please don't shy away from it! We will be walking on grass in multiple areas so wear shoes that are either flat or have a heel that won't dig into the ground like a wedge or block heel. The events will be partly outdoors, even though this is Arizona and we will have heaters in a few areas, please also bring a light jacket or shawl to keep warm as the temperatures may drop in the evening. We recommend checking the weather before packing and dressing for the weekend.

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What time should I arrive at the ceremony?

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The ceremony begins at 4:00, so please arrive by 3:45 at the latest. You are welcome to come into the ceremony space as early as 3:30pm. We recommend you arrive by 3:45 pm in order to give you time to find a seat. Of course, you are more than welcome to be on the campgrounds anytime Saturday, especially if you are staying - just don't get in the way of any preparations (or better yet, help out!)

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Most importantly, when will we eat?

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Refreshment hour will begin promptly after the ceremony, there will be light appetizers and drinks as well as lawn games. Dinner will begin at 6 pm.

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I have a food allergy or dietary restriction, can I make a special request?

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We are having a buffet style dinner, so hopefully everyone will be able to compile a meal that will make them happy. If you have specific concerns or allergies, please don't hesitate to email us at melanie.clinton.soll@gmail.com and we will confer with our caterer.

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Will alcohol be served?

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This will be a dry wedding. We don't drink due to preference and we don't think it's necessary to have a good time. A bartender with insurance and license is required to serve alcohol on the grounds of Ivory + Grace, and we will get fined if alcohol is found to be served.

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Can I bring a plus one?

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Unfortunately there is a limit on the guests we can invite and cannot accomadate a plus one for everyone. If you are a special case where we have allowed you a plus one, we have listed her/his/their name or "Plus One" on your RSVP profile. If you feel we left out someone important, let us know, but understand that our limitations may mean our hands are tied.

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What are the accomodations at Ivory + Grace like?

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Ivory + Grace is like a vamped version of sleep away camp, so please embrace the rustic nature and feeling like a kid again! There are a few options when it comes to cabins: 1) The Bunk Houses - these sleep up to 12 and are like big dorm-rooms with all the beds in one shared spare along with a lounge and a small dining area with a fridge, microwave, and sink, along with a shared bathroom. 2) Private Dorms - these are more like a small hotel room with two full-size beds and a bathroom. There are only a couple rooms like this available and we want to keep these reserved for our guests in true need of these accommodations for privacy such as young children or medical needs. 3) The Farmhouses - these are much more like proper houses with a shared common area with full kitchen and living space, along with multiple private or semi-private rooms and several shared bathrooms. These are going to be primarily reserved for family of the bride and groom. The bunks are real beds with real mattresses and linens are provided. All bathrooms are fully plumbed, enclosed, and very nice, you will not have any critter friends joining you in the shower unless you leave every door wide open, then we guess you just wanted to take a shower with Chip and Dale. For the bunk cabins, the main bathroom is single and shared but the property also has some extra bathrooms in a shower-house right next door. There is also electricity in every cabin. Since there may be 12 of you in the bunk houses with one bathroom we do ask that you are respectful of everyone you will be staying with. We only ask that you bring your own toiletries and if you can, please bring your own bath towel. We will provide some for folks who forget because we understand this is not the usual ask for a wedding guest. There is also a few stores such as a Walmart very nearby in case anyone needs to make an emergency run.

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Will I be sleeping in a room full of strangers?

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We are going to try our best to make sure that you don't feel completely out of your element when it comes to the sleeping accomodations. Most of ours guests know at least one other guest and we are going to try to pair people up with people they're already familiar with when it comes to the sleeping accomodations.

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Can I edit my RSVP later?

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Yes, you can! We will be notified of any edits. Please do this if you change where you are planning to stay.

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What do I do if something changes and I can/can't make it after I have RSVPed?

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We understand things come up. Just email us right away at melanie.clinton.soll@gmail.com so we can make changes.

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What if I don't wish to stay at Ivory + Grace?

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That's totally fine! You will just need to find your own accommodations. There are quite a few hotels and lodges around. The primary benefit of staying at Ivory + Grace is that it will be free to you and you won't need to worry about finding a place. Some of you will need to find external accommodations anyway as our guest list is over the capacity that Ivory + Grace can house.