Taylor and I will have been together for five years and living together for four at the time we get married. Over the years, we've acquired all the trinkets and tchotchkes, Tupperware and appliances, towels and linens we could ever need. We've enjoyed curating our home together, and while we'd graciously accept new home goods, there's one thing that we want desperately, that we won't be able to do on our own. We want to start a family. This much love needs someone to spill over onto, and while the cat has been a nice stand-in, we are ready to have children. Unlike most couples (and despite our best efforts!) we literally can not do this on our own.Our hope is to have at least two children, one through IVF using Taylor's egg, and one through IUI, using Veronica's egg. Veronica will carry both times. We are lucky enough to have donors, but the process of these procedures will be tens of thousands of dollars each time. In addition to the cost of conception, we've been made aware of discriminatory laws that exist in our state against same-sex couples. Even though Taylor's name will be on the birth certificate of both children and the biological parent of one of them, even though we will have gone through the process together from conception to birth, both financially and emotionally, that is not enough to determine "parentage" in the state of Texas. She will still have to adopt her own children in order to have parental rights, which will cost us additional legal fees. So you see, we know it can often be seen as "impersonal" not to give a physical gift, but for us? While we'd enjoy new flatware or a cute new throw pillow, a contribution to our family fund would be the most personal and meaningful gift we could ever receive.