FAQs

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Minnesota?!

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We recognize we're asking most of our guests to travel a good distance to celebrate with us, and that this may cause undue financial hardship. Please rest assured that we will also host a local celebration in Dallas at a later date (tentatively in February 2027). We can't wait to celebrate with you at either time!

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No Guests Under 21

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We have decided to have a child-free wedding to ease the burden on ourselves and on you as guests! Reserve those sitters now because children, including infants and small children, will not be allowed in the venue or at any of our events.

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Inclusivity

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We want all our guests to feel respected and welcome at our celebration. We will not hesitate to remove any guests who act in a way that does not reflect the love we share for all of you. We ask that you all be kind, respect pronouns, and, frankly, keep your opinions to yourself unless they're about the music or food. Practical Steps to Respect Pronouns Ask, Don’t Assume. When meeting someone new, ask for their pronouns instead of making assumptions based on appearance or name. In group settings, invite everyone to share their pronouns during introductions. Introduce yourself with your pronouns if you are comfortable, for example: “Hi, I’m Zollie, I use She/Her pronouns, and I’m the bride!” Use Gender-Neutral Language. If you’re unsure about someone’s pronouns, refer to the individual by name. What If I Mess Up and Accidentally Misgender Someone? Even with the best of intentions, you might make a mistake sometimes (like assuming someone’s pronouns based on how they look) - and that’s okay! Mistakes happen—it’s human. What matters is the effort to correct and learn from them. Over-apologizing can shift the focus away from the individual, so a simple, sincere apology followed by using the correct pronoun is a good way to resolve the situation.

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What should I wear?

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Refer to your invitation for the dress code for each event. Please do not wear black or white. *Note: The weather in Minnesota can vary greatly in October. Please check the weather prior to arrival.

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Where's the meat?

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Our wedding will provide a thoughtfully crafted plant-based menu with gluten-free options. However, the rehearsal dinner will have pescatarian options.

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Why isn't there a preacher?

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Neither the bride nor the groom is religious and has opted instead to be married by a close family friend.

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Why is the date on my invitation different than the wedding date?

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We are holding two event to accommodate all the people we want to celebrate with. There will be a smaller, more intimate wedding, and then a few months later, is the Dallas Reception! The reception is going to be a larger event and we hope to see you all there to celebrate with us in a more casual and fun environment. --- Also, we play roller derby, and 2026 is a playoffs/champs/world cup year. We're trying to be mindful of scheduling conflicts for our loved ones, so we've offered a second option.