We first met about four years ago in Tel Aviv, through an app. We went on an 10-hour date that included a hike, dinner, and hanging out at the most interesting home I've been to in Givatayim. We met about once after, and it didn't continue. Before our marathon date, I'd invited him to an event that was explicitly *not* a date, but simply a cool thing I was going to. It was an ecstatic dance event, where people dance without speaking to one another. (If you aren't sure what ecstatic dance is, look it up). Two and a half years later, I decided to go to an ecstatic dance festival in the desert. So did he. We met and now we are in love.