Our Courtship Decision

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Why We Chose Courtship

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Our decision to court was made thoughtfully and prayerfully. We both felt that this approach would give us the space to focus on building a solid foundation for marriage. In courtship, we’re not just dating for the sake of dating; we’re actively exploring whether we are called to be life partners. By choosing courtship, we’re prioritizing emotional and spiritual intimacy over physical closeness early in the relationship. We want to ensure that we’re connected on the deepest level and that our relationship is based on mutual respect, shared values, and a common vision for the future. Another reason we chose courtship is that it helps us to stay accountable—not only to each other but also to the people we love and trust, like you. We’ve chosen to invite family, friends, and mentors into this process because we believe relationships flourish when they are supported by community. Your wisdom and guidance mean a lot to us, and we hope you’ll continue to walk alongside us during this season.

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What Courtship Means to Us

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Courtship, for us, is an intentional approach to building a relationship with marriage as the ultimate goal. Unlike modern dating, which often focuses on getting to know someone in a more casual or undefined way, courtship provides a framework where the purpose is clear from the start. We’ve chosen this because we believe it allows us to invest our time and energy into building something lasting, built on faith and mutual respect. We understand that this might seem like an old-fashioned concept, especially in today’s dating culture, but for us, it reflects a deeper intention. It’s not about moving quickly or following a strict set of rules—it’s about aligning our relationship with God’s vision for love and marriage. We want to build something that is not just about immediate attraction or emotions but rooted in our faith and the desire to honor God in everything we do.

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Our Faith and Doing Relationships God's Way

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At the heart of this decision is our faith. We believe that God has a design for love, marriage, and relationships, and we want to honor that. In the Bible, we see that relationships are meant to reflect Christ’s love—selfless, patient, and intentional. By choosing courtship, we’re striving to model our relationship after these principles. We’re committed to doing things God’s way, which means putting Him first in our relationship. Courtship helps us to create a space where we can grow together spiritually, seek God’s will for our lives, and make decisions that honor Him. This doesn’t mean we’re perfect or that this path is without challenges, but it does mean that we’re committed to growing closer to each other and to God along the way.

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Misunderstandings and Concerns

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We understand that courtship might sound restrictive or traditional to some of you, but for us, it’s freeing. It allows us to focus on what truly matters—building a relationship that reflects God’s love and purpose for our lives. While the world often promotes the idea of dating casually or for fun, we’ve chosen to date with intention, knowing that our ultimate goal is marriage. This is not a decision based on pressure from family or tradition, but a personal choice we’ve made together. We both believe that this approach gives us the best opportunity to grow as individuals and as a couple, while keeping our eyes on the bigger picture—building a life and a future together that honors God.

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What We Hope You’ll Understand

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We wanted to share this with you because we value your support and your presence in our lives. We know this approach may not be for everyone, but it’s what feels right for us. Our hope is that you’ll see how serious we are about our relationship and understand that we’re walking this path with faith, love, and intentionality. Ultimately, we’re asking for your understanding and encouragement as we move forward in this season. We’re excited for what God has in store for us, and we look forward to sharing this journey with you. Thank you for being part of our lives and supporting us in this new chapter.