We're getting married!

I met Trevor at a worship night called “Thursday night”. He was playing the djembe, looking all handsome and like a 25 year old man. At this time, I was 21 coming out of a party phase, my parents had just been divorced and I had just started going back to church after a long year out of community. I was praying a lot about relationships and what I really wanted in a husband. Let’s just say I was not thinking I was going to meet my husband that night. I wore a bright yellow sweatshirt and had just come from class. I introduced myself to him after the worship, I was sitting on the floor next to the djembe. Trevor was pretty shy, but I was down. Long story short, at this point I had decided to join worship at shoreline churches young adult group, Livecoast. I proceeded to tell Trevor this information and found out that he was on the worship team and attended Livecoast. Can you say wedding bells? I left that night and stalked him on Instagram and realized he only had drum videos and one real photo or his face, I couldn’t wait to see him that next Thursday. Time passed and I didn’t even really think of Trevor in that way, I joined the worship team and got to know him a little more, one night he asked me to go to his “treehouse” I declined (Playing hard to get). No, but really I found out he was 18......... so I just thought maybe not. The first time we hung out was a “jam session," he played drums, I sang and a guy played guitar. It was very weird... I realized I liked his personality a lot and we proceeded to form a friendship. Fast forward to March 4th 2018, Trevor and I both were taken off of the schedule for leading worship that Sunday. Trevor and I were butthurt about it, but I asked Trevor to hangout before church and said “who knows.. maybe God had this planned all along.” Now I know He definitely did. We hung out and I didn't say one word because Trevor talked enough for the both of us. I barely ate my sandwich because I was so nervous.

He also PAID FOR MY SANDWICH. I was shook. That night we got ice cream and hung out until his mom texted him at midnight, this also just so happened to be my birthday. The next day (March 5th) we hung out all day, we played GTA, and watched the sunset, Happy 22nd to me! We went to dinner with all of my very confused friends and Trevor did not say one word. He went from chatty Kathy to silence the lamb. After this night we started hanging out all the time. I finally realized I liked him, especially after he turned 19. April 1st, I told him I liked him and he said, “I just want to see what God's doing right now.” I was devastated because he was giving me all the signs and signals. Next day, I cried a lot, blasted Adele, prayed and then texted him to meet me at the harbor where I read him a long list of why he lead me on/that I appreciated his friendship and felt like the Lord brought us together so I was willing to let it go and just be friends. We continued on like nothing happened, thankfully, because normally when you get friendzoned or Godzoned as I like to call it, you don’t particularly stay the same. Later that month Trevor expressed to me that he had feelings but he didn’t know what to do. We went a long month of tension and confusion until one day he kissed me. Oop, confused by this because Trevor told me “kissing makes everything official." A week passes, I get upset because I didn't want to be kissed without intention. He then made me wait a day. Thursday worship night, he took me to Denny’s. I sat there, arms crossed not eating because he said he wanted to talk but he was shoving unlimited chocolate chip pancakes down his throat. He drove me back to my car and I sat there. Pissed, until he finally said the words “I want to make this official will you go out with me?” The next day we went on our first date, June 15th, 2018... and the rest is history.

It’s October 2020, and Kyla and I have been dating for almost two and a half years… At this point in our lives we had been seriously talking about marriage for awhile and I thought it would be fun to at least start taking baby steps, so I suggested we go look at rings… This was mainly for me to see what Kyla liked and for me to learn even one thing about shopping for diamonds haha. We only had to go to two stores before Kyla found her dream ring. She was obsessed! Honestly, I wasn’t expecting it to be so easy because Kyla always likes to explore her options, but this process was done within a week. For the next couple of months I had to save money and figure out my timeline, and come December, I had made my purchase. Two weeks later I picked up the ring, and now my struggle was to hold myself together for 6 months until I proposed. In this time, I explored a lot of ideas as to where I would pop the question — in Canada, Lake Arrowhead, Lake Tahoe… After hours, days, and weeks of weighing my options and research, I finally decided that I would propose in San Diego at Sunset Cliffs. Of all the different ideas that I had, Sunset Cliffs was the most special place as this is where we had our first kiss and for the first time really acknowledged that we were going to have a future together before we started dating. Now that I had figured out where I wanted to propose and how I was going to do it, the last thing I needed was the money haha! For the next 6 months, I picked up extra work hours of Door Dashing to save money for the proposal… Let me just say, I had no idea how big of a door I was opening with starting to plan so far in advance — once Kyla found the ring she loved, she started asking me when we were going to get engaged at least 5 days a week! Do you know how hard it is to pull it together when so much planning and thought has gone into proposing and she asks you all the time about it?!

Perhaps the most difficult situation was in March when Kyla told me she had a dream that I was going to propose on June 11, 2021… I had been planning to propose on June 11, 2021 for two months prior to that and hadn’t really told anyone yet, so I was baffled!! I ended up moving the date forward one week, but then Kyla “had a feeling” it was happening then too haha. I couldn’t win. The day of our engagement, I prepared with some of our closest friends who were going to help me set up all day while Kyla was at work. I had told Kyla that we were going on date night so once she got off work, she went home to get ready… While she got ready, our friends secretly drove down to San Diego to set everything up and I picked Kyla up for “date night.” Kyla was in a bad mood for most of the drive as we sat in traffic and claimed she was “tired,” however, all of that changed when we showed up at Sunset Cliffs and she saw the flowers, easels, picnic, pianist, and violinist ready for her. She sobbed the entire time we walked up to our spot. It was the best moment of our lives.