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May 14, 2022
Private Ceremony

Brielle & Matt

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We are so excited to tie the knot, and we can't wait to celebrate with you. Here are some of the questions we've been asked already, since you might be wondering the same things.
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Wait -- you aren't married already?

Answer

Believe it or not, despite a 2+ year engagement, we're not actually married yet. (Although Brielle argues that common law must come into place after several 10+ hour drive days.)

Question

You said we shouldn't travel but I want to join you in a backyard to celebrate. Can I come?

Answer

Yes, of course you can come. By no means are we asking or expecting anyone who does not live in the NY / NJ or LA areas to travel to attend a backyard celebration. There will be zero hard feelings if you cannot attend (and in fact, if you don't live near either of our parents, we're expecting you won't be able to make it). That said, we would love to have you join us if you are interested and able.

Question

When is your actual wedding?

Answer

We are getting married in a private ceremony with our parents and siblings in Oregon's Willamette Valley on May 14, 2022.

Question

Can I come to your actual wedding?

Answer

No. Tara Burke and Matthew Enthoven, this answer is directed at you, as much as we love you both. You cannot come to our actual wedding but we'd love to have you join us at our backyard celebrations.

Question

Why are you not having a giant everyone-you-know-in-one-place party?

Answer

We've thought about this, and although we've loved the many weddings we've attended that include all family members and friends in one place, we feel a single small ceremony and two casual celebrations is much more our speed. We will certainly share photos of our intimate wedding, and we know we'll feel the love from all of you, wherever you are on our big day.

Question

Are you seriously changing your last names to "Bummer?"

Answer

No, we will each be keeping our last names. However, we will forever use "The Bummers" as our colloquial family name. For those still wondering: BUckler + KreMER = BUMMER. It's hilarious and we love it.

Question

Where do you guys live?

Answer

Not sure, TBD, will let you know. Still traveling and will have more information when we see you in the backyard(s).

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