FAQs
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What type of wedding is this?
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This is a Sikh wedding, traditionally called an Anand Karaj. The ceremony takes place in a Gurdwara, which is a Sikh place of worship. Sikhism, the religion at the heart of this wedding, is widely practiced in Punjab, India—the home state of both Manraj and Simrit’s families. Here is a link with more information about Sikhism: https://www.sikhcoalition.org/about-sikhs/beliefs/
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I've never been to a Sikh wedding, what should I expect?
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Our wedding ceremony is called an Anand Karaj, which means “Ceremony of Bliss.” It’s a sacred and spiritual celebration that symbolizes the union of two souls, taking place in a Gurdwara (the Sikh place of worship) in the presence of the Guru Granth Sahib, the eternal Sikh scripture and guide. Guests are asked to remove their shoes, cover their heads, and sit on the floor as a sign of respect, humility, and equality. The ceremony centers around the Laavaan—four sacred hymns. As each verse is sung, we will walk together in a clockwise circle around the Guru Granth Sahib, symbolizing our journey through life with shared values and spiritual connection at the heart of our marriage. Each of the four Laavaan represents a stage of love and commitment: 1) A foundation rooted in living a spiritual and righteous life, 2) Letting go of ego and following the Guru’s path with clarity and purpose, 3) Growing in divine love, joy, and awareness of God, and 4) Finding peace and unity as our souls become one and we begin our life together with the grace of the Divine. The Anand Karaj is more than a ceremony—it’s a joyful and meaningful beginning to a lifelong partnership, grounded in love, equality, and mutual support. We can’t wait to share this special moment with you. A lunch reception will follow the ceremony to continue the celebration!
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What to expect leading up to the wedding ceremony?
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Before the wedding ceremony begins, there are a few important traditions that take place to mark the joyous coming together of two families. Here's what you can expect: Baraat: The day begins with the groom’s arrival, known as the Baraat. He’ll be joined by his family and friends in a festive procession filled with music, laughter, and celebration. Milni: Once the Baraat arrives, the Milni takes place—a formal introduction between the two families. This moment represents love, unity, and mutual respect. Family members greet each other and exchange flower garlands, symbolizing acceptance and the beginning of a new bond. Breakfast: Guests are invited to enjoy tea and light refreshments served in the langar hall and outside. Once you’ve finished eating, please make your way to the Darbaar Hall, where the wedding ceremony will begin. Kirtan & Ardaas: As everyone settles in, Kirtan (spiritual hymns) will be sung. The groom and his family will enter first and take their seats, followed by the bride and her family. The ceremony officially begins with the first Ardaas (prayer), led by the Granthi (officiant), asking for Waheguru’s blessings on the couple and everyone present. Palla Ceremony: The groom brings a special scarf called the palla, draped over his shoulder. As a symbolic gesture of giving his daughter’s hand in marriage, the bride’s father places the end of the palla into the bride’s hands. Holding the palla, the couple will then begin their Laavaan—circling the Guru Granth Sahib to mark their spiritual and emotional union.
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The wedding ceremony is complete, now what?
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Once the wedding ceremony is complete, a few final traditions take place before we all celebrate together: Kirtan: Following the Laavaan, more devotional hymns are sung to mark the completion of the marriage. Final Ardaas: Everyone will rise for the final Ardaas, a collective prayer asking Waheguru (God) to bless the couple and their journey ahead. Afterward, Parshaad—a traditional sweet made of flour, butter, and sugar—is distributed to the congregation. Shagun & Lunch: At the end of the ceremony, guests are kindly asked to exit the Darbar Hall quietly and respectfully. Once outside, you’ll have a chance to congratulate Simrit and Manraj, greet the families, and take photos. Then, please join us for a delicious vegetarian buffet lunch to continue the celebration! Here is a link for more information about Sikh Weddings: https://www.brides.com/sikh-wedding-traditions-5189031
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I've never been to the gurdwara before, what are the guidelines for visiting?
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We’re so grateful to have you join us at the Gurdwara (Sikh temple) for our wedding ceremony. Here are a few simple guidelines to help you feel prepared and comfortable: Shoes & Head Coverings: Shoes must be removed before entering the Gurdwara. There are designated shoe rooms (to the right for women and to the left for men) with plenty of shelf space. You are welcome to walk barefoot or in socks during your time inside. Head coverings are required for everyone while in the Gurdwara: Women: Traditionally women wear a head covering called a dupatta/chunni, similar to a scarf/shawl. You are welcome to bring your own head covering, however there will be extra head coverings (rumaals) at the gurdwara should you need them. Men: Traditionally men wear turbans or head coverings called rumaals. You are welcome to bring your own, however there will be extras at the gurdwara should you need them. Entering the Darbar Hall: The Darbar Hall is the main prayer area where the ceremony will take place. Guests traditionally sit on the floor. As a cultural norm men sit on one side and women on the other. As you enter, you may notice members of the Sikh community walk toward the Guru Granth Sahib (the Sikh holy scripture at the front of the room), bow and place a small donation as a sign of respect. This is a spiritual gesture and not required for non-Sikhs, but you’re welcome to participate if you wish. General Etiquette: Please silence your phone during the ceremony. Photography and videography is allowed, but please be mindful. Smoking, alcohol, or other substances are strictly prohibited before or during your visit to the Gurdwara.We recommend attire that covers shoulders and knees out of respect for the space. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us if you have any questions. Please visit the following link for details on a Guide to Visiting a Gurdwara: https://www.sikhcoalition.org/resources/guide-to-visiting-a-gurdwara/
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Is there a dress code?
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For the Anand Karaj (wedding ceremony), the dress code is formal and modest. Since the ceremony takes place inside the gurdwara, we kindly ask guests to wear attire that covers the shoulders, back, stomach, and legs. Whether you choose to wear traditional Indian or Western clothing, please ensure your outfit is respectful and allows you to sit comfortably on the floor, as the entire ceremony is seated in this manner. Long dresses, flowy skirts, or pants are ideal. If you’re unable to sit on the floor due to physical limitations, seating will be available toward the back of the prayer hall. You are not required to wear Indian clothing to the ceremony or reception, but you are more than welcome to! If you’re interested in traditional attire, women typically wear outfits like salwar kameez, pajami suits, sharara suits, and gharara suits to the wedding ceremony and lehengas, saris, sharara suits, and gharara suits to the reception. Traditional attire for men is called a kurta pajama or sherwani. These can be purchased in-store or online, with online shopping offering a wider variety and flexible pricing. Some recommended online stores include Lashkaraa.com, HouseofIndya.com, Azafashions.com, and Pratapsonsglobal.com. Feel free to reach out to us if you have any questions about what to wear, we’re happy to help! For the reception, formal attire is encouraged—Indian or Western, whichever you prefer. Expect a night of dancing and celebration, so comfortable shoes are recommended. There’s no expectation to wear Indian clothing, but feel free to join in the fun if you’d like to!
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When should I RSVP by?
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Please RSVP by August 24th.
