Flight
We recommend flying into one of the following airports: San Jose Airport (SJC), which is a 1.5 hour drive to Carmel. San Francisco (SFO), which is a 2 hour drive to Carmel. Oakland (OAK), which is a 2 hour drive to Camel. Monterey Regional Airport (MRY), which is a smaller airport and a 15 minute drive to Carmel.
Hotel
Carmel is home to many quaint inns and B&Bs in the downtown area: https://www.carmelcalifornia.com/hotels-and-inns-in-carmel.htm. A few that locals have recommended to us are Cypress Inn, Carmel Mission Inn, The Getaway, and Mission Ranch Hotel. Additionally, Monterey is a city about 15 minutes away from Carmel by car with larger hotels, including Portola Hotel, InterContinental, Hyatt, and Marriott. Last, you can check out home rentals through AirBnB or VRBO in the area Zola Events provides discount codes at some hotels using this link: https://zola.hotelplanner.com/EventPage7066406
Travel Note
We recommend booking travel early. The week after our wedding is the largest antique car show called Concours d'Elegance in Pebble Beach, so hotels and flights may book up earlier than usual.