We love your kids! We really do. We would love to have them be a part of our special day, at the wedding ceremony. Once the reception gets started, we would love if you had the night off to spend time with us.
If your invitation says “and Guest,” then yes, if not, we would prefer if it was just you.
The most important thing is to have you with us on our special day. No gifts are needed or expected. However, we've been asked what we need/what we like, and if you wish to give us something, a donation to our wedding would be great, but only if you wish to participate.