No this is a kid free wedding other than the flower girls.
No you do not need to stay. We do have a block of rooms in CT close to the venue but you will not need to stay in them. just please give yourself time the day of the wedding if your staying in NY,NJ.
You can not wear cinnamon as that is what the wedding party will be in. You can also NOT wear white.
The bride and Groom are requesting monetary gifts only. only because we are traveling out of state.