FAQs

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What is the dress code for the Traditional Nigerian Engagement?

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For ladies, white native wear or white formal lace dress with a orange or burgundy gele (traditional Nigerian headdress). For gentleman, white native wear, a white kaftan and white slacks, with an orange or burgundy fila (traditional Nigerian hat). If you have any questions please reach out to us at roadtoidowu@gmail.com.

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What is the dress code for the Wedding?

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We will be having a formal wedding. We encourage you to wear black tie attire. Evening gowns and tuxedos are appropriate.

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May I Bring A Plus One?

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Any allowed plus ones are identified by name on the wedding invitations. We request that our guests do not bring a plus one, unless they are specifically named on the invitation. Thank you so much for understanding!

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How Do I RSVP?

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Invitations will be sent via mail. Please be sure to RSVP on the website so that we can solidify your attendance.

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What Should I Do If I Can No Longer Make It?

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If you cannot make it to the wedding, please let us know as soon as possible and RSVP with your response or by reaching out to our planning team if it is after the response date so that we can plan accordingly. Our wedding planning team can be reached at enchantedallureevents@gmail.com

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Should We Bring Gifts To The Wedding Or Mail Ahead Of Time?

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Our preference is to have gifts mailed ahead of time; cards are welcomed on our wedding day and our Honeyfund is posted on our website.

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What Time Should I Arrive?

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On-Time! We intend to start the Traditional Engagement as well as the Wedding on time. The traditional engagement is a long ceremony that involves a lot of protocol. Please come on time if you wish to experience every aspect of the ceremony.

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Where Can I Park?

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For the white wedding, there is a parking lot directly behind the venue for guests to park; valet parking is also provided.

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Is The Venue Wheelchair Accessible?

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Yes, both venues are wheelchair accessible. If there are any special requests, please let us know as early as possible so that we can accommodate.

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What Is A Traditional Nigerian (Engagement) Ceremony?

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The traditional engagement is a formal ceremony in Yoruba culture, often called the traditional wedding. It typically occurs a few days before the white wedding (or "English" ceremony) and is hosted by the Groom's family. It is essentially an introduction of the families and a call to formally give approval and blessing for the union. The families sit across from each other during the entire event. Traditionally, the ceremony can last a few hours. We provide a brief description of the ceremony below: The ceremony begins with the arrival of the Groom's family. The Alaga (Master of Ceremony) introduces the Groom's family, who then greets the bride's family. There are some formalities exchanged between the families and then its time for the fun part. First, it's time to meet the Groom. The Groom dances in with his groomsmen and other friends. The men will be asked to perform several feats to show respect to the bride's family, including laying prostrate (lying stretched out and face down on the ground). Next, it is time to meet the bride. The bride dances in with her bridesmaids and other friends. She then kneels before her parents to show respect and receive their blessing. She does the same for her future in-laws. Finally, the Groom and bride are joined together. Several additional aspects of the ceremony may include exchanging the rings, reviewing the bride's price (gifts the Groom's family presents to the bride and her family), and cutting the cake. There is spraying money, praying, singing, and dancing throughout the ceremony. The ceremony ends with a dance party!

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What Is "Spraying"?

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Spraying means showering money on the body of a celebrant (in this case, the bride and groom). It is a widespread Nigerian custom, particularly at weddings. Family members help pick up the money and present it to the bride and groom at the ceremony's conclusion. It is essential to recognize that spraying in Nigerian culture is a very respectful celebration of the event. Let me repeat; it is NOT like the throwing of money that occurs at strip clubs. Therefore, if you choose to spray, please keep that in mind. When in doubt, copy the technique of others at the ceremony.

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Do I Have To "Spray"? If So, How Much?

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Spraying is not required, although it is very welcomed! It is more of a gift presented to the bride and groom. Accordingly, there are no rules on how much someone should spray. Just lead with your heart, recognizing how expensive a wedding is.

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When Is It Okay To Spray The Couple?

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Typically, spraying when the bride and groom are dancing is acceptable and welcomed. But when in doubt, follow the lead of others at the ceremony.

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What Is "Aso Ebi"?

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Aso ebi translates to “clothing of family.” In the context of celebrations, it is a fabric of the celebrant’s choosing, purchased by those asked to wear it. It is traditionally worn to indicate that the wearer is a close friend or family member of the celebrant during social occasions. Typically, there is a separate color for each: the bride’s family, the bridesmaids, the bride’s friends, the groom’s family, the groomsmen, and the groom’s friends. For weddings, the bride and groom will separately coordinate the aso ebi for their families and select a small group of friends to be “aso ebi women” and “aso ebi men.” These individuals dance with the bride or groom during the traditional engagement ceremony.

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Why Are People Kneeling or Bending Over When Saying Hello?

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Honor and respect are significant in Yoruba culture. When saying hello to someone older or mature, it is customary for the person to formally "greet" them. The proper way for women to greet is by kneeling slightly while saying good morning/afternoon/evening. For men, it is appropriate to bend over at the waist and barely touch your toe with your finger or, to show the utmost respect, to fully lay down prostrate in front of the person you are greeting (as described above for the traditional ceremony). NOTE: This is simply an explanation and not a request that you do this when greeting others at the wedding.

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Who Can I Contact For Additional Questions?

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For questions about our wedding details, you can reach out to our Wedding Planner, Melissa Brooks with Enchanted Allure Events directly at enchantedallureevents@gmail.com with the email subject: Wedding of Danah & Moe (7.28.24).

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Are kids allowed to attend the wedding events?

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Although we would love to accommodate everyone, this is an adult-only affair.