FAQs

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I got invited but my name isnt showing up in the guest list to rsvp!

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Ah jeez, that’s on me (Nik). When i was building the guest list in this website it organized them by name in alphabetical order. To keep things simple for me and in order to find folks more quickly; i’ve entered people as they are in my phone or contacts first and then gone back and edited. Some I’ve not edited correctly (or at all) because my brain has refused to acknowledge that I know your actual legal name (call it a holdover from being trans - we forget deadnames around these parts!). Please feel free to reach out if this happens and I’ll enter your name exactly as you’d like so we can make sure I spell it correctly and all. 🖤

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Wait… wasn’t this at a theatre?

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😅😅😅 Circumstances have changed and we’d love to be closer to uncle Harry (he’s 99) for this whole shindig. For now we’ll be having an outdoor ceremony in his front yard; we’re presently making an inclement weather plan and will update everyone if we need to move these shenanigans back indoors.

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No registry? What gives

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In place of a gift registry we are asking that guests instead help contribute to our day by bringing a favourite dish, beverage of choice, or funds to help us make this celebration great. Please let us know if you have any allergies we should know about, and we’ll share warnings here! (For example: one of the betrothed is severely allergic to shellfish so we ask that folks don't bring that to share, but we'd love to get to share your favourite weird beer or your grandmother's biscuit recipe as we start a new chapter together!) Update: We have some burgers, fatayers, and the wedding cakes covered. If you’d like to share what you’re brining with Nik or Andrew we’ll update folks here!

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Is there anything I shouldn’t bring?

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So far we have guests with contact allergies to bell peppers, shellfish, and almonds, so if you’re bringing something containing those, just adding a label saying so would be very helpful!

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I’m from away, you folks helping with travel or what?

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Listen we invited you because you have been an essential factor in keeping us both alive and in love long enough to get married and were hoping you could celebrate with us - not because we’re rich and wanna show off. If you’ve got the bones and gear for it you’re absolutely welcome to camp in the field at the Greig homestead rather than drive home (it’s a pretty safe spot and a big open field and they’ll have portaloos), and we’re happy to help coordinate your couch surfing with our shared friends for the weekend, but we absolutely couldn’t afford a hotel block. We also get that planes and drives and stays can be super expensive (we haven’t booked a honeymoon, imagine us just taking time off lol) so we absolutely will not judge you for not making it and would love to catch up the next time we’re in each others’ towns. If you do manage the travel, please know your putting in the effort to get here is already generous so we don’t expect any more than that from you.

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What’s the dress code for something like this??

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Andrew and ollie will be wearing dark coloured tuxes and oxfords and nik will be wearing a black dress and combat boots. We love a bit of dress up but none of us will be sacrificing comfort. If you’ve been desperate for an excuse to wear that inflatable unicorn costume and those matching stilettos, (Dont lie Mike, I know you have) don’t let the status quo stop you here. Please just remember you’ll be outdoors in late September celebrating two artsy punks at what’s essentially a backyard barbecue on an old farm. It’s a chance to dress up (whatever that means for you) but not an expectation you’ll spend hundreds on something you’ll never wear again. The climate in Cape Breton is known to be fickle, layers and practical shoes are a good choice.

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Should I bring my kids?

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Nik’s been a single parent - they get it, finding a sitter is hard and you hope that if you can’t no one is going to ban you from leaving the house. We have a few friends and family with young kids and we’d never tell you not to bring your kids. We wont have like… a “play place” or day care set up, but I should hope there won’t be a whole lot of knife fights during the wedding and we’re keeping the pyrotechnics to a minimum at the reception. It will be a millennial wedding in a theatre and a reception outdoors on a rural hay farm though, so they might not have a blast (but I will be happy to sneak your kid some roasted shmellos once the bonfire gets going should you bring them along).