First it started with a prayer… I was in a very dark time in my life and I was tired of meeting empty people. I wanted to learn how to be comfortable and less paranoid and I didn’t know how to do it myself. I needed someone to show me another side of myself and the world outside of what I’ve known. I didn’t want be picky when asking God about what I felt like I needed, so I told him it could be a friendship or a lesson that he thought I needed to be taught but I was specific about one thing and that was, if it is a relationship let her be dark skinned… Faith without works is dead, so the Bible says. So I told myself if I wanted something different I had to be different. I started changing my ways and giving myself pep talks. I realized if I wanted what I wanted, I had to attract it by my actions. So I dumped all that I knew. I went vegetarian, I practiced restraint with bad habits, and I went cold turkey with everything that did not serve a positive purpose in my life. After about two months of self work, I saw a beautiful dark skinned girl online and noticed by her posts that she seemed so grounded. She was always either in the house, cooking, or eating. That might sound so simple but it was not what I was used to seeing. So I decided to go for it. She didn't make it easy. she gave me the run around for weeks and I thought maybe she’s just a flirt, so I left her alone because she wasn’t taking me seriously. But after a few months I decided to tried again, this time I let her know I was serious and after some convincing, and maybe even a little bit of bullying, she finally gave me a shot and that’s where our journey began. We went from texting every day to, calling everyday, to FaceTiming everyday, to visiting each other every weekend, blending our family, bringing our own little bundle into the world...And now getting married! I can’t believe my prayer grew to be more than I imagined. I asked for a healthy friendship that could help me grow and teach me the lessons I needed, and out of that prayer I got a wife. I didn’t even realized that is what I prayed for, not only a wife that I love with all of my heart , but a wife who has helped me grow, who truly accepts me for me and loves me with every bone in her and my body. She loves all that comes with me, she's someone who puts me first, and makes me feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable. I am so grateful to know that I have Monet as the one watching my blindside, because now I feel like I can breathe and I know she has my back the same way that I have hers. I never knew love could be like this and I can’t wait for us to grow old together. I want us to be that old couple on the front porch in our rocking chairs watching the fruits of our labor, knowing it all came from two people simply falling in love…

First, it started with me thinking I would never do another relationship again. I was comfortable being alone and focusing on my son and my independence. Even though deep inside I knew I loved love, but thought maybe it's just not for me. Because of the deep meaning love has to me, I hesitated to put myself out there again. While focusing on loving myself, traveling, and growing as a person, I learned a lot about myself. But a few years later I realized, I missed companionship. I missed having someone who could understand me, someone who I could talk to and someone who was for me. Stepping back on to the dating scene, I met some nice people but it always felt like something was missing, no one ever seemed like they fit the puzzle piece missing in my heart. Several months later, a guy pops up in my DMs asking “Are you ready to bless my life, or what?”. In my mind I thought “Now, how does he know I’d bless his life, I could be crazy!” . So I figured he was just trying to run game. I was very hesitant, but also a bit curious because of his charm and amusing approach. I wound up not giving him a chance out of fear and moving on. A couple of months later, I felt like I was over the dating scene again and was on the verge of just giving up. Until I checked my messages one last time, and this same guy was still there, He was persistent and I had never seen someone so determined about me, so I gave in and decided to give him a chance. Getting to know him I found him really interesting, and I saw something in him that I don’t think he really saw in himself. His persistence, willingness, and surety put my mind at ease. Even though it was a scary thought to put myself through the possibility of heartbreak, KJ made me feel like he was worthy of me. It was more than just what I saw, it was how I felt. It was almost like God was telling me that KJ was the one. The way we talked, moved, connected, bonded, touched made everything so special and clear. It felt as though the universe was squeezing us together. As our relationship developed, I found that we both stand on the same principles with family, love, and eternity. The way that I love him is unexplainable but emotional, yearning, and powerful. Even though we have been through our shares of ups and downs, and the universe put us through tests, we have found that those were the lessons and trials that forced us to prove to each other and ourselves that we will be there with each other no matter what. Our relationship supersedes love. We feel more than love. We are destiny, we are infinite, we are one. And I’m so excited and grateful to spend the rest of my life with our little big family. I found the missing piece to the puzzle in my heart, and there is no other place I’d rather be in the universe than right where I’m supposed to be, and that is with KJ.